Doctors ...waste of time!

[Lilelephant]

So i saw the GP today, she has signed me off for another 2 weeks due to stress and depression but she also said she doesnt want to do any kind of investigation into our problems concieving while I am feeling the way I am it has made me so angry cos one of the main reasons I have been feeling this way is cos i feel useless cos i cant get pregnant and when i did it ended badly.
I have been crying since 9.30am

 

[Geminiblue]

Oh you poor thing. Id go back and say exactly this to another doctor. I hope you pick up a bit soon thinking of you xxx

 

[Lilelephant]

I feel like giving up if i doesnt happen this time!

 

[xshauna_bazx]

I agree with geminiblue, go see another doctor hun some of them can be arseholes! xxx

 

[kizzibea]

I agree, see if you can speak to another doctor and get them to listen to them about why you are feeling this way. Perhaps they can arrange for you to speak to someone about it.

Don't give up.

 

[misscrazycooki]

How long have you been trying for?

Some doctors rush you through I reckon they just want to reach targets in patient numbers in the day x

I would change doctors like the others have said x I had to change when I moved area and it worked out better for me x

 

[Lilelephant]

thanks, this is our 12th cycle

 

[Geminiblue]

MrsMc you have been through sooo much and my heart goes out to you. Dont give up, you know you can get pregnant honestly its taken my sister in law 3rd time lucky they didnt know why but they offered her investigation you keep trying you can do it I have faith and you do have hope....please dont give up xxx

 

[misscrazycooki]

I know how you feel I tried for over a year with my pervious partners and felt a total failure when my periods came....

The depression doesn't help, I know its bad your get into a loop with it but I reckon if you and your partner booked a weekend away on your next fertile break you might just get what you want. As you wouldn't be worrying about it. I got my wish strangely after my birthday.

I had totally given up on the idea of it after the tests I had had. Ultrasound came back that I had PCOS so I was doubtful I would concieve plus a blood test gave me bad news that I didn't ovulate on my last cycle so was gutted about that.

The next test I was going to have was an Xray, where they were going to flush dye into my uterus and see if I had any blockages. At the time I was waiting for my period as it had to be done after the bleeding... My partner was doing sperm sample so we were reframing from sex for a week and thought nothing of getting a positive result that month. So I concentrated on having a good time at my birthday BBQ with his parent and my parents (First time they met)

So don't lose hope hun x took me alittle over 6 months with my new fella but I got there. Plus I found something online about if your blood type is O then your eggs are less viable etc, I later have found out that I am O positive . Explains a few things to me along with my PCOS diagnosed too. Plus I reckon my previous fellas weren't upto much ones sperm was lets say clear as water couldn't have got any one pregnant I bet.....

 

[Geminiblue]

oh yeah, I had counselling which I cant tell you how much this helped me and I fell pregnant during the first 4 mths of counselling. Look at the success stories out there, not the ones who couldnt but the ones who could. Sending you love and positivity xxx

 

[Geminiblue]

what a great example of success Misscrazy xxx

 

[Lilelephant]

thanks guys! I am just gonna try and enjoy xmas, our anniverssary etc and try not to get too stressed......

 

[kizzibea]

Taking a bit of a ttc break might help, especially over Christmas. Earlier in the year I stopped focusing on it so much and it did wonders for my stress levels. You don't have to stop trying, but just try and put some of your energy into other things (like Christmas shopping, parties, nice dinners and things).

 

[Lilelephant]

we have tried breaks before but i just get moody cos we arent trying lol vicious circle me thinks

 

[LouiseB]

Plus I found something online about if your blood type is O then your eggs are less viable etc, I later have found out that I am O positive

It's crazy how so many things that you wouldn't even think about can effect your fertility...

MrsMc, i'm sorry about what happened at the doctors - i really don't understand her decision and agree that you might do well to get a second opinion, although you have to make sure that you aren't coming across as irrational.

That said, i also think it is a good idea to not worry about it for a little while and enjoy xmas etc

 

[Vickyxx]

Ahh babe I think everyone trying for a baby hits a wall at some point its not very nice and it is so easy to bring you down. You need to find a new focus hun something else that you can channel your engery in to, maybe look for a new job, or book a nice holiday, just something to help you ease the stress of TTC and give you something to look forward to x x x

 

[toni64539]

Sorry about your morning Mrsmc. Some doctors are so stupid, does she not realise that if she agree to do some test that it would make you feel more positive and ease the depression. Suck a lack of sensitivity sometimes. Hope your doing ok anyway Hun. Like you said, just enjoy your weekend, x-mas, anniversary etc x x

 

[Piglet's Mama]

So sorry you are feeling this way MrsMc. You must feel so helpless.
It may be an idea to get another opinion but it may also be worth exploring the underlying reasons for why you are suffering with depression; I've had counselling twice this year and it has really helped. I feel in a much better place and am now able to chill and relax much more easily. If the depression is deep rooted, falling pregnant and having a baby may soften that in the short term but if it's anything more set in then it may come back and rear it's ugly head a later point.
Wish you all the luck and sending you lots of baby dust x