do we or dont we?
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im not finding out this time.
we never with nathan and as OH had 3 girls already it was amazing hearing him say its a boy! makes me well up thinking about it
im really not bothered what it is this time, its gonna be the last so if its a boy thats ace if its a girl thats ace.
we never with nathan and as OH had 3 girls already it was amazing hearing him say its a boy! makes me well up thinking about it
im really not bothered what it is this time, its gonna be the last so if its a boy thats ace if its a girl thats ace.
I'm not gonna vote because it's personal choice and I think you need to decide by yourself.
Tbh I was so excited to find out the sex this time because it's my first pregnancy and I wanted to buy everything in either pink or blue and I just wanted to know....the excitement of being pregnant and being able to plan and prepare for my baby girl is just fantastic
BUT....next time (i cannot believe I'm already thinking of next time!) I won't find out the sex so it makes the pregnancy even more exciting.
I've made sure all the pram, cot, bath etc are in a neutral colour so they can be used again for either sex!!
Tbh I was so excited to find out the sex this time because it's my first pregnancy and I wanted to buy everything in either pink or blue and I just wanted to know....the excitement of being pregnant and being able to plan and prepare for my baby girl is just fantastic
BUT....next time (i cannot believe I'm already thinking of next time!) I won't find out the sex so it makes the pregnancy even more exciting.
I've made sure all the pram, cot, bath etc are in a neutral colour so they can be used again for either sex!!
Well I have the unique vantage point to this... giving current happenings with knowing the sex of the baby
I do believe that knowing the sex does help you bond with the baby in some way, at least with me it did... I didn't bond with Tia at all until she popped out... I was convinced that I would loose the baby at some point and not being able to call her , he or she... Made it much easier to distance myself to her...
This time round we were told it was a boy... It took me ages to get used to the idea that it was a little boy, because having a little boy scared me... But I did... I started to bond... I could see him running round my flat with blonde curly hair, asking me for his spiderman pj's, walking into his bedroom and treading on a load of lego, see him coming home from school.. etc... I had a nice little life for him built up... and I bonded... THEN... they said... no no no... It's not a little boy.. It's a girl... and all those dreams got smashed... and I was so depressed the day after .. Because I had bonded with my little boy and now I had lost him...
So now I am back to square one, I have to start imagining the future with another little girl.. and I have to rebond with her
I think boys and girls are so vastly different creatures its very difficult to imagine the future of your baby if it is an it... And although you can love your bump regardless of its colour, I need to have that ability to see them in the future, to really bond... I love my DD much more now than I did when she was born, and every day I love her more, so being able to imagine the bump in 5, 10, 15 years, makes you see how much they will impact your life and how much more you will love them everyday.
Oh and all this making labour easier as you have a surprise at the end of it... Well.. I had a surprise at the end of my labour with Tia, and it CERTAINLY didn't make it any easier... Just more depressed when my ex got all huffy that it wasn't a boy...
Plus... seeing what Tia looked like for the first time was far more exciting... Its like an internet affair, you've seen pictures, you've spoken to them, but you've never actually met them.. then you do... and that is by far the most exciting thing... 
I do believe that knowing the sex does help you bond with the baby in some way, at least with me it did... I didn't bond with Tia at all until she popped out... I was convinced that I would loose the baby at some point and not being able to call her , he or she... Made it much easier to distance myself to her...
This time round we were told it was a boy... It took me ages to get used to the idea that it was a little boy, because having a little boy scared me... But I did... I started to bond... I could see him running round my flat with blonde curly hair, asking me for his spiderman pj's, walking into his bedroom and treading on a load of lego, see him coming home from school.. etc... I had a nice little life for him built up... and I bonded... THEN... they said... no no no... It's not a little boy.. It's a girl... and all those dreams got smashed... and I was so depressed the day after ..
Because I had bonded with my little boy and now I had lost him... So now I am back to square one, I have to start imagining the future with another little girl.. and I have to rebond with her
I think boys and girls are so vastly different creatures its very difficult to imagine the future of your baby if it is an it... And although you can love your bump regardless of its colour, I need to have that ability to see them in the future, to really bond... I love my DD much more now than I did when she was born, and every day I love her more, so being able to imagine the bump in 5, 10, 15 years, makes you see how much they will impact your life and how much more you will love them everyday.
Oh and all this making labour easier as you have a surprise at the end of it... Well.. I had a surprise at the end of my labour with Tia, and it CERTAINLY didn't make it any easier... Just more depressed when my ex got all huffy that it wasn't a boy...
Plus... seeing what Tia looked like for the first time was far more exciting... Its like an internet affair, you've seen pictures, you've spoken to them, but you've never actually met them.. then you do... and that is by far the most exciting thing... ok then.. perhaps i shall ask teh question...
does having the scan put your mind atrest.. on.. its a girl.. or its a boy.. do you find yourself thinking.. oooo what if they were wrong.. and ive bought all this stuff
(squig.. obviously you dont count.. althouhg ur opinions completly valid and sort after - id like to know what your thinking about it all)
does having the scan put your mind atrest.. on.. its a girl.. or its a boy.. do you find yourself thinking.. oooo what if they were wrong.. and ive bought all this stuff
(squig.. obviously you dont count.. althouhg ur opinions completly valid and sort after - id like to know what your thinking about it all)
I'm waiting till I go for a 4D scan (wasn't going to have one but I am now)... I want a bloody picture of the genitals... Not pervertedly... But I am not buying any more clothes etc, unless I have a picture of a willy or a vagina..
Ha ha poor squigs baby is gonna be very confused at this rate....
In answer to the original question, I didnt want to know the sex originally, but OH is dead set on finding out, his reasoning being that 'how much of a surprise can it be anyway? Its going to be one or the other!'
So I am happy to find out now and I agree with Squiglet - its probably is easier to bond when you can imagine the future with them growing up etc and I certainly dont want OH sulking in the delivery room if we have a girl and he wasnt prepared cos he really wants a boy!
In answer to the original question, I didnt want to know the sex originally, but OH is dead set on finding out, his reasoning being that 'how much of a surprise can it be anyway? Its going to be one or the other!'
So I am happy to find out now and I agree with Squiglet - its probably is easier to bond when you can imagine the future with them growing up etc and I certainly dont want OH sulking in the delivery room if we have a girl and he wasnt prepared cos he really wants a boy!
nah dont listen to squiglet.. shes loopy..
i found out with charlotte n just stressed myself out.. she had a wardrobe full.. and i mean FULL! of girls clothes.. and it was only 60% that it was a girl..
night b4 i had her i had a dream it was a boy and i had to dress it ina pink baby grow. tbh..i think every pregs different.. i havent bonded as much with this one as i did with charlotte.. but i was having a baby from the second i got a + on the preggo test.. this time im just pregnant. its weird. and i dont think its got anything to do with what sex it is and bonding.. i just feel this time i want to enjoy the preg more. it doesnt last that long.
i found out with charlotte n just stressed myself out.. she had a wardrobe full.. and i mean FULL! of girls clothes.. and it was only 60% that it was a girl..
night b4 i had her i had a dream it was a boy and i had to dress it ina pink baby grow. tbh..i think every pregs different.. i havent bonded as much with this one as i did with charlotte.. but i was having a baby from the second i got a + on the preggo test.. this time im just pregnant. its weird. and i dont think its got anything to do with what sex it is and bonding.. i just feel this time i want to enjoy the preg more. it doesnt last that long.
