Did finding out the sex ruin the suprise feeling?

[charlotteheys85]

i dont know what to do..

i have my scan a month from today, and i'm desperate to know if my lil bubs is girl or boy.. i think boy, but i'm fed up saying he incase its not, and dont like saying it.. and dont like writing he/she, or junior..

i'm just making excuses.. i want to know, but scared it'll ruin suprise..

what do you girlies think...?? xxx

 

[Mildly]

Well if finding out ruins the surprise, then the surprise will be ruined at birth too Unless you wear a blindfold whilst changing your baby's nappy you are going to find out sometime

To be more serious, finding out the sex for us didn't spoil the surprise. However we are keeping it a secret from our friends and relatives so we don't spoil their surprise - if that makes sense

Good luck with your decision

 

[clairedoran]

Before joining this forum, I never understood why people found out. But now I can see why, I actually think it's just as exciting to find out beforehand. In fact I get frustrated when people go for their 20 week scan on here and stay team green, because i'm so curious/nosey If I have another baby after this,I will find out to experience both sides. We are staying team green this time, I also stayed team green with my first. I would love to know the sex to be prepared, i'm desperate to go blue/pink shopping!xx

 

[Lindsay]

I was worried about exactly the same thing, but I can honestly tell you that I don't regret for a single moment finding out. I am looking forward to my 4d scan next week so that they can tell me again!!!

Xxx

 

[dannii87]

Personally, I think I am MORE excited than if I didn't find out because I can picture me with my DAUGHTER and that is very exciting to me!

I have started preparing for her, buying her pink wardrobe and chest of drawers, buying pink dummies, buying pink sleeping bags, dressing gowns for newborns etc etc.

I had a really tough time a few weeks before my 20 week scan and personally really needed to know the sex to cheer me up a bit. And it worked!

Saying this, team green must be pretty exciting as you don't have a clue which sex you're carrying and makes sharing the news of the birth even better when you can say "my baby GIRL/BOY has been born!" etc

I don't regret it at all and will probably find out again in the future with more babies! xx

 

[jenjen]

No it didn't ruin the surprise at all for me. It still is a surprise, just a bit earlier thats all, and it gives you time to get used to the idea of having a boy or girl, and of course to prepare by buying stuff. Also, there are plenty more surprises to look forward to - what the baby will look like, will it have much hair? What colour hair? Daddy's nose? Mummy's eyes? what kind of temperament? ...I could go on all day.

So as you've probably guessed, like Dannii I will probably want to know the sex of every abby I have before giving birth

 

[maybebaby]

I didn't find out and won't be again this time round. I don't think it ruins the surprise as such but I loved the fact it was my OH who was the first person to know, and he was the one to tell me. It was such a special moment I can't wait until we can do it again.

It's a completely personal thing, I just prefer to find out the sex at the birth.

 

[smile]

not at all - I knew we were havign a little boy, and labour kind of gave me a clue he was on his way - but I was still shocked when all the pain went and there was a baby there - seemed so implausible somehow that this real person could have possible come from inside me!

 

[Gem212]

Its totally up to you hun, you will know when your there whether you want to find ot ot not! I didnt find out with my first and it was a lovely suprise when he came it to the world, but this time i did find out and its been equally as lovely and means that we have thought of names bought things and i feel im bonding with my unborn son already, its like getting the suprise but 20 weeks early!!

Like i said its up to you, try not to think about it to much and see how you feel on the day x x x

 

[Bagpuss17]

It's a surprise both finding out at the 20 week scan and when you give birth but I do feel they are different "surprise" experiences.

Being able to find out for yourself once you've given birth to baby is a different experience to finding out at the scan.

Everybody is different and has different reasons for wanting to know at the 20 week scan or waiting until they give birth. I'm sure you'll come to the right decision for yourself and your partner.

 

[abcd1234]

When i was finding out if she was a girl or a boy my heart was racing, i was so excited and nervous and over the moon when she said she was a girl.

I dont think i could have coped with the anticipation of finding out when she was born, i'd have worked myself up to much, plus i personally feel knowing has allowed me to bond with her more

However... i do feel that if she now turns out to be a boy i will feelalmost detatched, i've gotten so used to the idea that im having a girl i dont no how i'll feel if shes now a boy. I actually had a dream about it a few nights ago, it was ok, but i was a bit like "oh shit what am i gonna do with all the pink stuff"

I think it depends on whether you like suprises, i personally HATE them, if you like them then it may be nice to wait and find out at the birth, but if you like to plan etc then buying pink/blue is great

 

[Noor~ul~Usman]

I was happy leaving it as a surprise because I'm not going pink or blue shopping anyway....I'm going yellow/green/white/beige shopping so I wasn't really that bothered - I'm just not going to buy anything until after 24weeks.

However at work last week hubby's mate asked him if he was going to try and find out which started him thinking (don't really think he'd got that far ahead bless him lol). It's taken him all week but yesterday he finally said "why not".

So I guess if bubs is being co-operative next month we'll find out....if not then it'll still be a surprise

 

[Steelgoddess]

we weren't going to find out but then we did and now after a few days of finding out im even MORE excited I just cant wait to meet my little guy, and i think when ppl say ur spoiling the surprise element its crap because the biggest surprise of all is meeting your LO in the first place.

I also feel like I can be more prepared as a first time Mum by knowing im a planner so i like this plan things ahead of time and know where I am with things... i honestly think either way is lovely though Green or finding out the whoole thing is amazing either way...

The only thing i will make you aware of is be weary of other ppls comments if u tell them ur finding out, but even then i have a fck em attitude because im so over the moon now

x

 

[blessed83]

i dont see how it is ruining the surprise, it will be just as much of a surprise at 20 weeks than on the actual day!!knowing now or later its still a surprise, i have my scan on thursday and cant wait to see what sex my baby is
xxx

 

[HideiLu]

i dont see how it is ruining the surprise, it will be just as much of a surprise at 20 weeks than on the actual day!!knowing now or later its still a surprise, i have my scan on thursday and cant wait to see what sex my baby is
xxx

This was my exact thoughts too! And it was something so exciting to look forward too! The big grins on our faces as we left the hospital spoke for themselves! And we would have been smiling either way!

I love being able to tell people that's we're having a little boy and especially being able to be prepared, shopping is soooo much easier!

There are so many other little surprises and things to look forward to, seeing what personality they will have, watching them grow, first smile, word, steps....so many other things for after birth xx

 

[*pud01*]

I had bleeds between 9 and 15 weeks so there was times were i honestly thought I was going to lose her or that i already had. before all that i was considering not finding out and keeping her a suprise.
so when the 20wk scan came up I was desperate to know the sex of the baby she however decided to lie in an awkward position were the sonographer couldnt get all the measurements or tell me the sex of my little one. so i had it rebooked, once again she lay in an awkward position and the sonographer struggled to get the measurements of the umbilical cord becaue of how she had her legs (also covering her modesty). i was like a worm on a hook and the thought of going till i give birth without knowing was killing me so i booked myself in for a private 3d scan, they told me straight away...
Its been great buying for a girl although i do regret buying the unisex things that i did because they look a bit boyish and i know i wont put her in them lol.