Depressed after Emergency C-Section...

[charlotte2010]

Ive had 2 c sections, the 1st was ok but not what i wanted, the 2nd was the most traumatic experience of my life and neither me or my baby were in trouble. I experienced the same - rude doctors, not telling me what they were doing, telling me I had to have a c section or go somewhere else, I had to be put to sleep, I had about 6 internal examinations by 3 different people and 1 included them making me poo all over the bed in the operating theater....! I was horrified.
I woke up in pain, wasnt allowed food or pain relief, my baby was in the nursery most of the time ( i wasnt 100% sure she was mine, now i can see she is). then without warning the doctor pushed her fingers deep into my stomach which was excruciating when I had just had an operation and then no pain relief! (i think she did it to start off the postnatal bleeding)

My advise is..... Learn from it, research, educate yourself and never let yourself be pushed around again.
Ive researched so much, gained a backbone and explained everything to my midwives with this pregnancy (my 3rd) so now I am booked in for a home birth even tho i have had 2 c sections, because im not gona be pushed into hospital policies anymore. no one cares more about the birth of a baby than the mother so im not gona be made to feel Im putting my baby at risk because im not strapped to a machine or induced.

 

[kirstymichelle]

These stories are shocking and i have cried for each and every one!! this is life that they are dealing with! precious life! i cannot believe it and i am so glad i went to a natural birthing centre where only if you are in immediate danger do you get sent in an ambulance to hospital, no doctors there just midwives , i was so lucky i had two and a health care assistant. Natural birth and she came out in shock and it was dealt with swiftly and respectfully! I feel so sad for you ladies with these horrible memories i found birth a shock anyway and hard to adjust after i sat feeling numb and disconnected i honestly think if anything like this had happened to me i would have been a mess. Hugs and i hope you all your mental scars are healed x

 

[Momma`Kat]

I have a complaint in with the NHS over mine. As I had declined the Section and they went with it anyway, While i was already in transition about to be ready to push!

But yeah, Next time, Definatly getting a home birth. Screw them all im not having them ruin my miracle.
I wanted one this time around, but didnt have a birth partner i felt was enough for me, so got pushed into having it in hospital. I have my backbone now. Noones pushing me around.

 

[Maria1977]

I took legal action against the hospital where I gave birth to my twins.
When I went into labour at 37wks they scanned me and found that twin 1 was head down but twin 2 was transverse (sideways). They said they wanted to try for a normal delivery as twin 2 might turn once twin 1 has been delivered. I was really concerned, it was too many mights and maybes for me, this was my babies lives here!
So as I was delivering twin 1, twin 2 started to get distressed, they needed twin 1 out asap, the consultant was getting loud, the room was already full of people as it was twins. They got the forceps, made a massive episiotomy from front to back diagonally reaching my bum cheek and pulled twin 1 out rapidly, the dr had his foot on the bed for leverage. The consultant then started screaming to the other dr's, I mean screaming, loudly. Twin 2 was now arm presentation, (still transverse but an arm in the birth canal) and his cord had prolapsed. I was also now losing too much blood and going into shock, we were both in danger.
Lights started flashing on the ceiling and right down the corridor, alarms were blurring. They raced to theatre with a midwife with her hand up my birth canal pushing Babys arm back in the whole time. The GA had to be administered so quickly that the dr had to put pressure on my throat like he was strangling me (I found out later that this is a technique used in emergency procedures to stop reflux of stomach contents when putting someone under quickly).
I woke up an hour later (during a blood transfusion, 2 pints were needed) not knowing if twin 2 was alive or not.
Luckily we all made it through alive.
I was in agony from the vaginal birth, the episiotomy, the forceps and the Caesarian that I had experienced all within an hour.
I researched twin delivery heavily after my mis-managed delivery and every piece of literature I have read states that if twin 2 is transverse, a c section should be planned to prevent the situation I went through.
I still to this day suffer pain and numbness from the massive, poorly stitched episiotomy and because the c section cut was made so quickly it is a lot higher than it should be and on a slope (the top of it can be seen above my jeans!)
This has destroyed my self confidence, I don't allow my oh to see the scar and even find myself with my hand over it in the bath so I don't have to look at it. I'm sure that this and the episiotomy pain has contributed to my lack of a sex life since the birth.
I still have flashbacks every now and again although they are fading with time.
My precious twins are here and well and I thank god for that every day xx


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OMG cosmic, that is horrendous. So glad you and your LOs made it through all that.

 

[Sassysugar]

You poor girls, these stories just made me want to give you big hugs. I'm so sorry they didn't go to plan and I would definitely complain as you need an explanation to why you were treated this way

 

[Jayceesmumma]

I'm still speechless by all this!! It's disgraceful you all have been treated so poorly!!! I don't blame any of you for wanting home births after all that!!