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[millielaura]

Oooh I so hope it was something hopingforbaby fx for your blood test xxxx
I was so frustrated after mine as she said anything higher than 10 meant ovulation and I was 10.2 so very borderline. Although it ended up that I had got them done on 10dpo as AF came 4 days later so that may be why!
Feel so sluggish today and very dizzy and anxious. Xxx

 

[millielaura]

Also got a bit of a funny tummy but it may be because I had a glass of milk. Starting to wonder whether I may be a little lactose intolerant. Usually hot drinks with milk make me have a funny tummy and a bit shaky and I always thought it was something to do with water being hot but since I've dunk more milk I've been getting a funny tummy quite a bit. I eat a lot of cheese and stuff so I dunno :/. Does anyone know anything about it? I used to never have milk for a few years so could be why? Xx

 

[hopingforbabyf]

Well my consultant has requested I do them on day 19 (which is actually today) but I don't know when I ovulate. Apparently I'm due af next Monday so tomorrow I should be either 7 or 8dpo if I've ovulated and it was when my app said I would.

It does sound like you may be lactose intolerant. My mil gets funny tummy if she has creamy desserts or normal milk although she's never been actually diagnosed as lactose intolerant. She now uses soya milk, you could try changing to that and see if you notice any difference?

 

[Sam15]

Thanks for the lovely messages girls

It's starting to sink in a bit - I was feeling sicky nervous earlier. Only thing I can liken it to is how you feel in the early heady stages of a relationship! I'm seeing the gp on Weds (was supposed to be to request blood tests) so will be good to ask her stuff. I've no idea what's normal - have low down pains on and off, and can only assume these are normal, but who knows! It's all new to me.

Can I stick around a while with you girls? Want to see everyone move over to Tri 1

Millie - I so hope you still get your BFP this month. Really thought that was it a few days back. Jeez, our bodies are confusing at times! btw, I've told the cat he needs to hang around so he can be a cat brother (he would hate a baby I'm sure!) - a bit ambitious, but I can but hope!

Emma - hope your opk is positive later. You surely can't have missed the surge. At least there'll be sperm up there waiting if it's positive today.

Hopingforbabyf - I've got a really good feeling about your ovulation - will be fantastic if the blood test confirms it. How long do the results take?

Off to see my Mum now...if she was capable of being discreet I would tell her our news. But she's not, so I won't! If all goes well, this will be her first grandchild and I know she'll be beyond excited, as has wanted to be a granny for years!

Xxx

 

[hopingforbabyf]

They usually only take a few days so should know by the end of the week at the latest.

Have a lovely afternoon and I'm sure your mum will be thrilled no matter when you tell her

 

[millielaura]

Hopingforbaby, sounds all good with the day your blood test will be will be keeping my fingers crossed it's come back that you ovulated.

Aww Sam I so know what you mean by feeling like you're in the heady stage of an early relationship such a wonderful feeling! Aw bet your mum will be over the moon when do you think you will tell her?

I was so sure that FRER was the start of a bfp too! Had a cry to OH earlier today as I find it so stressful not getting AF when I expect to yet getting negatives. We were talking about what could be wrong and we are starting to think the scar tissue that was mentioned after my ovarian cyst op must be affecting things. As well as that I remember after having BV in the past I had really bad AF type pains, this was a few years ago, and I got given antibiotics and they said they suspected it was PID. The anitbiotics worked but I read that PID can also cause scarring causing probs with implantation etc. Going to mention this atfertility and say I really want that investigated. It may be that an op to remove some of the scarring could make all the difference. After crying I tried the whole ... I'l only feel better if we get another kitten. Didn't work though hahaha!! xxx

 

[hopingforbabyf]

I had suspected PID aswell millie! Last year when I saw the gynae with all my bleeding problems he thought it may be PID but apparently it's really hard to actually diagnose. He gave me antibiotics anyway and that was the first time I actually had a proper cycle with no spotting. Unfortunately the spotting came back after my next af so I don't know if it was that or not but I know exactly where you're coming from with the scarring thing. I'm now convinced my tubes must be blocked or something. That's the only thing bothering me - if this blood test shows I'm ovulating then we have to try until the end of the year and if no bfp that's when my tubes will be tested but if I'm not and still no bfp after clomid then they'll be checked then. So, part of me is hoping I'm not ovulating because other 'investigations' will start sooner but obviously I'd love to be ovulating and us fall naturally. I just don't think I can take another 9 months of af turning up if I am ovulating and there's something wrong with my tubes.

 

[millielaura]

Big hugs to you xxx its a horrid thought. I'm convinced I have some scarring somewhere that affects things. It's stupid isn't it that they make you try Clomid before testing tubes and then it could turn out it was all for nothing? Really hope they aren't though and that you get your bfp way before the end of the year. Xxx
I know what you mean. I feel like I wanna dtd less because we dtd all throughout the cycle very regularly so there's no chance Ive ever missed it so I feel crap that I know the sperm at there at the right time yet I get AF. I'd rather think ive msised it. I don't wanna go through it all every month for it to turn out scarring is an issue. When I got the scan for the pain she did say there is scarring from my op so hopefully if I mention that they will take it seriously.
It's all so frustrating isn't it. Wish you could just choose which tests to have then choose what treatment you want to go for rather than all these stupid rules on guidelines and try this for so long before trying this etc xxxx

 

[angel6901]

Aww Millie
Sending you lots of big hugs sweetie, I really thought that FRER was the start of your Bfp but hopefully it will still be fingers and toes crossed it's a shy bean and because you have been pregnant before you know it is possible so just try to think positive that it will happen and it can happen ...positive thinking is soooo hard when you want something so bad!!! and it's not happening
You deserve and want your baby so much and i'm hoping and praying for you.....
when you hold your baby in your arms it will such an amazing feeling and even more so as you have waited and wanted him/her so much...
You will be a mummy.... not just a kitty mummy (not that that isn't a very important job lol )
Sending you positive vibes darling

xxxxx

 

[millielaura]

That is true I've been preg before I guess so can do it again. Read scar tissue can cause implanting probs though and I've had chemicals so really am thinking it might be something to do with that. Or I'm thinking that maybe because I only have a small bit of my left ovary left that my right tube is blocked and that I ovulate from my right usually. But then I only ovulate from left rarely and thats how I got preg. OH said we will write all my theories and concerns down and we can mention them at our appointment. I'm taking a big notebook in haah.
I almost wish I hadn't been preg before. Makes it worse in some ways knowing what its like as want it more.
And thank you so much for your kind words xxxxx

 

[millielaura]

Hopingforbaby I really hope this is gonna be your month and you dont have to worry about any further appointments etc . Got my fingers crossed so tightly for you xxx

 

[hopingforbabyf]

Do you not ovulate from a different side each month? If you've been pregnant before it's definitely a good sign but I can imagine it's also very frustrating because you know it can happen and wonder why it isn't happening again!

I hope it is too - it's quite funny because each month I'm like 'maybe I've ovulated this month' so dtd regardless as I think I'd feel awful if I found out I'd ovulated knowing we hadn't dtd. I feel positive this month but I don't know if that's because the consultant thinks I may be ovulating. I'll probably be a depressed mess at the end of the week if it turns out I haven't ovulated at all. Especially since I've had ewcm passed couple of months and I've had some strange twinges etc this month. I'm never going to trust my body if I've not ovulated this month. If I haven't then I hope something really spectacular happens when I do!!

 

[millielaura]

Haha I joke that I'm gonna be a stay at home kitty mum. My uni course is ending in May. The plan was always going to be I have baby either during (only in 2 days a week) or straight after my course and that I'd be a stay at home mum. So now not only do I not have a baby but it's kinda like my whole life plan is out the window. I don't wanna be sat at home all day so was planning on finding a job.. just anything to keep me occupied.
But now I'm thinking well do I really want to start a new job whilst starting fertility treatment? I know it sounds ridiculous but I'm so bad with hormones. Soy iso even made me feel crap so no doubt Clomid will also. Then I think if we are having treatment hopefully I'm more likely to get preg and I would leave straight away when I got preg as with my last preg and the preg I had when I was 18, I suffered really badly with sickness..being sick over 10 times a day and I just couldn't work like that.
I feel awful if I was to get a job just to let them down. I hate hate letting people down i'd feel awful.
So think it makes this whole thing worse as feel my life/career is in limbo land too! Only have a couple months to figure it out. I think over summer I will defo be being a stay at home kitty mum as don't think I could cope with the stress of a new job just yet. I feel such a wimp as people cope with much worse and get new jobs when going through it all the time but just feel with my anxiety and with all this that I feel very fragile atm lol.
Haha woops given a proper life story there! Just so thought wed have a baby by now. We got engaged last April and we wanted to be married this year but we said lets wait till 2016 so baby is a bit older. Now wedding is in July 2016 so we have a chance of having to move it if we do fall preg haha typical!
Just thought- fertility wont say something stupid like ooh you have your wedding wait till after then? The venue are perfectly fine with changing it. Actually she told us when we booked it there was a couple who had IVF and no luck so they took a break ready for the wedding and they fell preg naturally and had to move the wedding! I nearly cried when she told us haha think we'd been ttc for about 6 months then so I was starting to get a bit anxious about it all and I thought how lovely it must of been for them and felt so emotional haha!! xx

 

[millielaura]

Ooh I dunno hopingforbaby I thought you did but the doc said I may not ovulate often from the side where some ovary has been taken. But then people have ovarian drilling which takes away some ovary and thats meant to help. It's so confusing! Yeah it is so frustrating. I always thought it would happen easily

I really really hope you have ovulated it defo sounds good if youve had ewcm and twinges so sounds like you have. Can't wait to hear your blood results to confirm you have and so hope you get a bfp at the end of it xxx

 

[millielaura]

Keep feeling gushes and thinking its AF and rushing to check and its just cm. Wish itd hurry up if its coming lol xxx

 

[hopingforbabyf]

I can't imagine they will ask anything about your wedding and I very much doubt they wouldn't give you treatment because of it.

We haven't decided what we're going to do when we do actually have a baby - I'd love to be a stay at home mum but I really love my job too. I would only want to go back part time though so we would have to look at finances and how much better off we would be after paying out for childcare. I'd be gutted if I had to leave as it would only be until they were at school and I wouldn't want to end up in a job I hate again (been there plenty times). Last time I looked I'm sure we wouldn't be entitled to any benefits etc if I was to give up work though! Who knows...It's something we'd have to look into properly if/when the time comes.

I know, I'm feeling so positive because I've had so many signs that I've ovulated so I'm going to be gutted if my blood test doesn't confirm it!

 

[millielaura]

Yeah that's true I'm probably being silly. Just paranoid they would say no for any reason haha! It was such a battle because we are 21 and 24 (but very nearly 22 and 25) I saw 3 doctors before seeing the nice lady who agreed to refer us and 3 of them brushed us off for being young and told me to go and have fun and not worry about a baby. One of them even asked how we would have enough money which was so rude and we actually own a 4 bedroom house with no mortgage so I very smugly told her that. When I finally got a nice doctor she said she thinks my age is irrelevent and said she'd refer us. I cried I was so happy haha. So I'm just worried at our appt that they have the same attitude. I've always always wanted a family young and it's literally all we want.

Yeah maybe see how you feel when pregnant/had baby about it you wanted to go back part time? . Before we struggled we planned to have 3 children and me to be a stay at home mum till youngest goes to school. Now I'd be happy with just one but still my dream to have 3 of them! I think if I was in a job I loved I'd probably work part time but because I don't have that atm I'm not giving it up if that makes sense?

Hopefully since you've had so many signs youve ovulated then it means you have especially if you didnt used to get them! xxx

 

[hopingforbabyf]

Ha yeah hubby and I are 28 and 25 but were only 24 and 27 when we were referred. My age was never brought into it and I think that's how it should be! If you've been trying the recommended time then it shouldn't matter if you're 20 or 30+. It really annoys me when people think they can stick their nose in to your business and tell you what you can and can't afford. We own our house outright too and also have a flat we let out so we're lucky in that we have no mortgage/rent to pay and have extra income from the flat if I was to give up work. I think that was so rude of the dr to ask how you were going to afford it

I was the same as you when we had our first appointment - so worried I was going to say the wrong thing and they were going to refuse treatment. It was really laid back and really just answering questions about my cycle, forms of contraception used in the past etc.

This is only the 4th cycle that has been a decent length since 2011/2012. I had a 30 day cycle in December then 26 days in January and 24 days last month...I hope this one isn't going to be 22!! Since June last year I was getting af fortnightly, my longest cycle was 22 days but I think that only happened twice so I never got the chance to ovulate, therefore never noticed anything. It's only been since my cycle lengthened that I've noticed the likes of EWCM but we weren't really actively ttc because I didn't think I was ovulating and had no idea when af was going to show up so was just waiting for our appointment. I think I thought the 30 day cycle was a fluke

 

[millielaura]

Ooh yeah you will defo be able to rely on the extra income from renting it out if you where to take time offwork as people will always need somewhere to live, so bet that's a massive reassurance! . I know it was so rude I was pretty gobsmacked but glad I had something to say back. I don't really see why age would even come into finance, OH didn't go to uni so he's been working almost 9 years full time, I do still feel like putting in a complaint about her!!

Glad appointment was fairly laid back I feel so nervous for it and don't even know when it is. I think I'm over reacting though haha will be nothing how I'm imagining it I bet. I feel like I'm gonna have to prove to them why they should help us haha!

Ah that's great they seem to be lengthening I had a few really short ones too so am pretty pleased it seems longer this month. I hope they stay at a decent length for you! Every fortnight must of been so frustrating! xxx

 

[angel6901]

Hi Girls
My boobs are killing me today! !And I woke up this morning to tons of ewcm
Opks are definitely negative today (ive tested twice) ....I must of Ovulated already but im only CD 10 I'm really confused