Cycle buddies!

[Sam15]

I really recommend it. I don't enjoy the needles but I like the effects!

I completely agree re dtd becoming a chore. We're similar to you when not ttc. The spontaneity goes when ttc and I'm aware I'm really keen for that 1 week and then happy to have a long break! Not right really but I guess a reality when ttc. I admire Millie being able to keep up dtd every day throughout the month...I feel knackered just thinking about that!!

 

[millielaura]

Haha for some reason I never thought twice about dtd daily when I wasn't TTC it just sorta happened. Since TTC I do find myself having to sort of make myself sometimes, an sign of ewcm or ov pains and I need to dtd right there and then haha! Keep it up throughout cycle just in case I ov super late haha I'm so paranoid about missing it, but I guess now when I have my fertility appointment I can say there is no way in hell I've even missed one month haha!
I can't imagine DTD just for the fun of it now lol!
TTC is pretty all consuming! xxx

 

[rachyboo]

Yay!! My wifey off to collect the little swimmers from our donor at 8pm so I've gotta get myself all relaxed and ready...I'm being as positive as I can...first month on clomid first month using conceive plus and soft cup after insemination so Fx!! X x following to see when u ovulate ladies

 

[millielaura]

Eeeek that's so exciting rachyboo sounds like this could be your month! Xx

 

[hopingforbabyf]

Does anyone else worry that they won't be able to cope with a baby?? We're babysitting tonight and usually he's a dream....but usually his mum and dad are home by about half 10. Tonight hubs has just gone to collect them so been a late one...he woke about an hour ago but refused his bottle. Changed his nappy and put him back down...not happy. So took his sleeping bag off as it's quite warm and cuddled him in, stopped crying but as soon as I put him down he started again. He then stops for a few minutes then starts again. I left him to hopefully cry himself to sleep but he shares a room with his brother and he started shouting. So out he came again....by this point I'm pulling my hair out, nearly in tears thinking how on earth am I going to cope with a baby if I can't even cope with babysitting?! Anyway he cuddled right in and once he had calmed down he decided he did actually want his bottle. I put him down again and he started crying so thought he maybe wanted more as he hadn't finished...nope didn't want it. So I've ended up putting him back to bed and leaving him. Thankfully all is now silent so fingers crossed it lasts half an hour til his parents are home!

I'm really worked up now and worried I won't be able to cope when we have our own as I have no idea what I'm doing. Please tell me I'm not the only one who feels like this? I'm now totally questioning ttc and whether we're ready for a baby...just an hour of an unsettled baby is hard work so I can't imagine what full time with no parents to give baby back to must be like! But then part of me is telling myself it's different when you have your own baby because you learn what they want and what settles them, whereas with someone else's you haven't got a clue and I'm sure they probably just want their mum/dad and not some person who doesn't look/smell like either of them!

 

[millielaura]

Oh bless you sounds like a tough night! I think it can be harder with other peoples children as scared to do the wrong thing etc? I would imagine with your own baby it's different as they would be easier comforted by you and you would get to know instinctively what they are wanting?
I babysat for 5 or 6 years when younger each week starting from when the kids where 18 months and 3 years so I feel okay with coping at the hyper toddler stage lol but feel like I'd be clueless with a baby. I've never baby sat an actual baby properly before haha but I'm not really worried I think it will all come naturally once a baby was here and everyone starts out in the dark not knowing what to do and it all turns out just fine .
Totally normal to be questioning your decision about ttc though, it is a scary change isn't it. I think sometimes when trying for a while as well the enormity of it gets lost? When first trying it's like omg we are gonna have a baby soon etc etc. Then after months of no success it's more like doubtful it will happen and then if you sit and think about it its like wow a baby.. life would change so much etc etc. So can feel more of a shock sitting and thinking about it. I hope that makes sense haha??

I think you will cope perfectly fine with your own though! xxx

 

[hopingforbabyf]

I'm sure I will be. As you say they will settle easier with their own mum. Plus by the time they get to tantrum stage you're going to them pretty well. It's very overwhelming when it's someone else's baby and you have no idea what to do. Apparently it's normal for him to have a bit tantrum when he first wakes and then finally take his bottle...They could have told me that lol.

He stayed down but only til not long after his parents got home. He was full of cheeky smiles when his mum brought him through though!

I used to be a childminder but looked after mainly 2 year olds so haven't had much to do with babies either apart from this one. As I say he's usually a dream but we're usually away home before he wakes for his bottle.

 

[Emily0505]

When I was preg with my first I felt so overwhelmed and wondered how I would cope. I remember looking at clothes and crying because I didn't know whether to buy newborn or 0-3 months after all surely 0 is newborn! I cried and ran away!! I remembered thinking that I can hand rear puppies and kittens and even a baby fox but apparently I am unable to even clothe my own species!! Silly really!!

I worry now about how on earth I will cope with a newborn and a 3 year old! Fills me with dread sometimes!! How will I look after two children? Keep up with the house work and the laundry? Find time to cook? Shower? Pee? But then I think to myself if everyone else can do it then so can I!

XX

 

[Sam15]

That sounds like a stressful evening! I think I would also have been questioning my ability to look after my own baby if I'd have been in your position.

My experience of babies is practically zero! I have worked with children 18 months and up in the past and feel semi-confident once they reach that stage but I've probably only held a baby a handful of times. I'm not one of these people who is desperate to hold newborns, simply 'cause I don't feel confident with what I'm doing, and panic when they cry!! I'm embarrassed to admit I've never even changed a nappy!

My OH actually has a lot more experience than me (through younger siblings), so that gives me some comfort. Really though, I'm just hoping that a lot of it I'll just pick up or it'll come naturally?! There must be a lot of ladies on here who feel the same and I'm sure many new Mums feel out of their depth, so try not to worry at this stage. I'm sure when it comes to it and it's your own baby, you'll be just fine

 

[millielaura]

I'm definitely the same lol fine with toddlee stage onwards but don't think I've even held a baby since I was 7 and my sister was a baby haha. I'm just gonna put faith into natural instinct though (and probably lots of frantic texts to my mum haha)
Xx

 

[rachyboo]

Our donor had to work late so we didn't get to insem last night, he can't do tonight as he is religious so won't masturbate on a Sunday do u think tomoz night will be too late??? I got a smiley today at 11am on cb ov test...???

 

[millielaura]

You ovulate anywhere from 12-48 hours I think after solid smiley so I think tomorrow night will be okay better than nothing isn't it and I'd say you'd defo still have a chance! xxx

 

[rachyboo]

Ok thanks so much. Once I ovulate how long does egg hang around?

 

[Emily0505]

Egg will last 12-24 hours once released before it starts to break down. Honestly, with timescales like these it's a wonder anyone gets pregnant!!

XX

 

[rachyboo]

Lol Omg!! Ok thanks...Fx!!

 

[millielaura]

Fingers crossed for you, you should hopefully catch that egg xx

 

[hopingforbabyf]

I caved and did an opk tonight...I didn't think I had any but found a big bag in the drawer I knew my pee would be quite concentrated too so thought why not. There's definitely a line, not as dark as the control line (it was quite faint too) but definitely a line and getting there I think. Fills me with a bit of hope as when I've used them previously (when I wasn't ovulating) I didn't get any hint of a line at all. I'm going to try not to drink anything after 3pm this week and test when I get home from work just after 5pm. I've got the dual hormone one from clearblue as well so if my bloods confirm ov this month I think I'm going to start using it next month. No way I'm using it until ov is confirmed as the sticks are so expensive!

 

[Sam15]

That sounds like great progress - fx you get your positive in the next couple of days. I use the dual hormone digi and had to fork out for a new test last month when I ran out of the sticks. Such a rip off that they don't sell them separately!

 

[hopingforbabyf]

I think I saw them on amazon but they're pretty expensive!

 

[millielaura]

Those clearblue digi ov sticks are so expensive... I remember doing their trial and getting them but I don't think I would buy them normally lol

Can headaches be a good sign in the tww? Usually I get a hormone headache for a couple days before AF in the evening. The last 5 days I've had a constant headache all day everyday. It's so bad tonight! Xxx