Im really struggling to get over the way Morgan was born I can honestly say it was the worst week of my life.
I keep running everything through my head, I feel like I need answers to so many pedantic questions. Like on my notes it said that Id had gas and air during labour and I didnt. I want to run up to the hospital and demand an explanation for this insignificant oversight. I have no idea why or what it might achieve.
Every night when I go to bed I spend a good half hour before I fall asleep just remembering everything that happened. Sometimes I make myself cry. Im so tired looking after a newborn and yet as soon as I get into bed I dont sleep. Im starting to dread bedtime. I dunno why Im torturing myself.
I really feel like Im still waiting for him to be born. I didnt feel him being born, I didnt see him after he was born, my feet barely touched the floor of the labour ward before we were in surgery. I was never officially in labour. I remember being in recovery and looking down at my abdomen and being genuinely shocked that i wasnt pregnant anymore. I cant relate my baby to myself or my pregnancy. It feels like the whole pregnancy was some kind of dream or I was someone else. Most days I feel like Im looking after someone elses baby. Its a REALLY long baby sitting job.
I dont know what it feels like to give birth, I dont know what that moment, that everyone talks about, when you see your baby for the first time, feels like. Until yesterday I didnt know what breast feeding felt like.
I watched that "Cherry has a baby" programme the other day and they showed a clip of a woman have a hypno water birth. I was so excited to do that, it was exactly how I had visualised my own birth so many times. The moment that baby was born was amazing, and when she lifted her baby up and he just started breast feeding I completely broke down. OH had to take Morgan from my arms and he kept asking me what was wrong and I couldnt even speak.He stopped asking pretty quick cos he knew exactly what was wrong.
I cant read any of the posts in the 'new arrivals section' at the mo. I feel really selfish cos so many people read mine and left such lovely comments, but I just cant even open the section let alone read the birth stories. Im so sorry for that. I wish I could celebrate the births of all our lovely PF babies!
I went to a breast feeding suport group and had a lump in my throat just saying to a woman that Id had a ceasarian. It was so much effort not to burst into tears. Ive gone from being super confident and excited about giving birth to being totally afraid of getting pregnant again. I just cant go through that again Im so sad that its gone this way, I feel like Ive been robbed of this experience forever. Even though in the hospital they told me the surgeon assessed me as 'suitable forVBAC' I was told Id have to have continuous monitoring etc... To be honest the only way I could imagine giving birth again would be if i didnt have to go into hospital. Im so afraid of that place. All the wires and the monitors and needles. I know thats not going to happen, I wont ever be allowed a home birth, I will always be 'high risk' because Ive had preeclampsia and a c section.
This is all so wrong, it shouldnt have happened to me. Why couldnt it happen to one of those women who want to have an elective c section cos theyre too posh to push?!?! Not to me, Ive always wanted to be a mother. Ive visualised giving birth just as nature intended and I never thought that I would have to bottle feed my baby. I feel like Im not a mother at all.
Sorry for the long post, I need to offload some of this baggage. Im running out of people to cry in front of!
I keep running everything through my head, I feel like I need answers to so many pedantic questions. Like on my notes it said that Id had gas and air during labour and I didnt. I want to run up to the hospital and demand an explanation for this insignificant oversight. I have no idea why or what it might achieve.
Every night when I go to bed I spend a good half hour before I fall asleep just remembering everything that happened. Sometimes I make myself cry. Im so tired looking after a newborn and yet as soon as I get into bed I dont sleep. Im starting to dread bedtime. I dunno why Im torturing myself.
I really feel like Im still waiting for him to be born. I didnt feel him being born, I didnt see him after he was born, my feet barely touched the floor of the labour ward before we were in surgery. I was never officially in labour. I remember being in recovery and looking down at my abdomen and being genuinely shocked that i wasnt pregnant anymore. I cant relate my baby to myself or my pregnancy. It feels like the whole pregnancy was some kind of dream or I was someone else. Most days I feel like Im looking after someone elses baby. Its a REALLY long baby sitting job.
I dont know what it feels like to give birth, I dont know what that moment, that everyone talks about, when you see your baby for the first time, feels like. Until yesterday I didnt know what breast feeding felt like.
I watched that "Cherry has a baby" programme the other day and they showed a clip of a woman have a hypno water birth. I was so excited to do that, it was exactly how I had visualised my own birth so many times. The moment that baby was born was amazing, and when she lifted her baby up and he just started breast feeding I completely broke down. OH had to take Morgan from my arms and he kept asking me what was wrong and I couldnt even speak.He stopped asking pretty quick cos he knew exactly what was wrong.
I cant read any of the posts in the 'new arrivals section' at the mo. I feel really selfish cos so many people read mine and left such lovely comments, but I just cant even open the section let alone read the birth stories. Im so sorry for that. I wish I could celebrate the births of all our lovely PF babies!
I went to a breast feeding suport group and had a lump in my throat just saying to a woman that Id had a ceasarian. It was so much effort not to burst into tears. Ive gone from being super confident and excited about giving birth to being totally afraid of getting pregnant again. I just cant go through that again Im so sad that its gone this way, I feel like Ive been robbed of this experience forever. Even though in the hospital they told me the surgeon assessed me as 'suitable forVBAC' I was told Id have to have continuous monitoring etc... To be honest the only way I could imagine giving birth again would be if i didnt have to go into hospital. Im so afraid of that place. All the wires and the monitors and needles. I know thats not going to happen, I wont ever be allowed a home birth, I will always be 'high risk' because Ive had preeclampsia and a c section.
This is all so wrong, it shouldnt have happened to me. Why couldnt it happen to one of those women who want to have an elective c section cos theyre too posh to push?!?! Not to me, Ive always wanted to be a mother. Ive visualised giving birth just as nature intended and I never thought that I would have to bottle feed my baby. I feel like Im not a mother at all.
Sorry for the long post, I need to offload some of this baggage. Im running out of people to cry in front of!