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Oh exciting times with your scan! I'm getting an early 8 week scan in two weeks. Will be a bundle of nerves! Xx
Keep us posted. Sure he / she will be fine. Just remember it is the father's loss if he decides to walk! Xx
Awww thanks i know i have waited 2 weeks for this last one its actually gone quick and now im nervous baby wont be okay you know the usual flapping i think im just about 6 weeks and you are so right it was allover because i wanted to go for some tea just me and him and have a chat it was a rough day for me hormones allover and i just wanted me and him to chat and it was the first time i actually fancied food in 2 weeks but he had invited his mum and brother and i just said im not going they didnt know i was pregnant well his mum did because i told her wen i found out but she asked me to promise not to tell him till he told her 2 weeks on he still hadnt he just wanted rid and says we can try again in a year wtfff!! .. i also have an eating disorder and when im anxious i hate eating infront of people and i had been throwing up all week basically i was nice i said its ok u go i will grab something from kfc u still go and the fuss and screaming was unreal and i just didnt need it all havent heard off them its actually an eye opener how someone can live under the same roof for 3 years and this happens when i need him most there is no excuse for this behaviour .. i bet you cant wait for your scan it does go so quick its dragged but it hasnt now i dont want to go i will just wait 9 month and give birth hahaaa xxx
Have u been getting help for your eating disorder? I'm a psych nurse so came across those who have had. A good friend of mine is bullimic. Feel free to pm me too if u want xx
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It's weird how you think you know someone but then something like this happens and then they show their real face.
I was together with someone for 8 years, of which 5 years married. We always talked about children but he wanted to wait til he finished his studies (verrrry slowly). When we were about 6 and a half years together, I had a strange cycle where I probably didn't ovulate. I was already a week late when I told him I might be pregnant. He completely lost it and told me to get rid of it! Something broke inside me, it destroyed the future I had for our relationship. How can your husband, 34 at the time, ask of his wife to get rid of "it". I was 28 and wanted children some day, but that day I realised he never would be ready. AF came 4 weeks later than normal and he was relieved. The relationship started to crumble, but he couldn't see it. After a year and a half, I asked for a divorce and I think I had made the best decision of my life.
You see, when people ask you to do something like that, I don't think it can get better. I tried for another year and a half but knew that if I were to really get pregnant, he would bolt or ask me to get rid of it again. I don't think people can change drastically like that.
If it's not what you want to do, don't let them intimidate you. Have you talked to someone about this? Friends? Family?
I was together with someone for 8 years, of which 5 years married. We always talked about children but he wanted to wait til he finished his studies (verrrry slowly). When we were about 6 and a half years together, I had a strange cycle where I probably didn't ovulate. I was already a week late when I told him I might be pregnant. He completely lost it and told me to get rid of it! Something broke inside me, it destroyed the future I had for our relationship. How can your husband, 34 at the time, ask of his wife to get rid of "it". I was 28 and wanted children some day, but that day I realised he never would be ready. AF came 4 weeks later than normal and he was relieved. The relationship started to crumble, but he couldn't see it. After a year and a half, I asked for a divorce and I think I had made the best decision of my life.
You see, when people ask you to do something like that, I don't think it can get better. I tried for another year and a half but knew that if I were to really get pregnant, he would bolt or ask me to get rid of it again. I don't think people can change drastically like that.
If it's not what you want to do, don't let them intimidate you. Have you talked to someone about this? Friends? Family?
Awww thank u yes my eating is under cont
Aww thank you so much i actually manage quite well it started when i was 13 and i have off days but nothing major it was just with the morning sickness the covering up and pretending his mum didnt know was just too much for me to sit and eat a meal i just felt overwhelmed and it was my previous boyfriends birthday that particular day who passed away with cancer a few years back and when i get stressed i dont like to eat out in groups but so nice to know you ladies are so supportive best thing i did join this group! But i will keep you open to that offer xxx
Omg what you went through wow!! What an amazing woman to come through all that im so glad you are out the other end im so sorry you had to go through it though! But in a way i bet its made you ... see i knew it would be a shock and a process for him as this was totally unplanned and i just feel his mum has stepped in and caused alot more trouble than needed it wasnt her place he is 32 but hes grown i cannot make excuses for him i know he wanted to come to the scan tmoro we planned it and now it seems his mum has got in the way its very strange i understood his worries as hes always said he doesnt want me to lose again as we have lost twice and i think he blames himself but its all very strange how his mum has been im not quite sure whats going on as i have taken her 2 younger children out to docs dentist college days out with her and the kids we were really close so im really baffled by it all.. but im glad to see your strength and hopefully i can learn from you Xxx
I still worry incase it is not true! I keep taking pregnancy tests and probably will until my scan in two weeks!
Awww im on my way to my scan and im so worried baby wont be there its awful i hope my little pea is healthy never been so nervous!! Xx
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I'll keep my fingers crossed! Keep us posted!x
I shall
I shall do sat waiting to go in please be okay sweet pea thanks so much!! Xx
How did u get on? Xx
Hi id wrote in the wrong post haha...
Im dead on 6 weeks little pea had a heartbeat but was abit slow they said it can be normal to do that but then another nurse told me she had never seen a raise in a heartbeat even though the sonographer and epu nurse said in 10mins time they could do it again and it would be fine but im back next week to double check .... now i feel hopeless after that nurse saying to prepare for the worst xxx
I have replied underneath have you ever heard anything like it pick up little pea ... thanks ladies id put it in the march group instead of here xxx
I've got everything crossed for you that the heart beat gets stronger.
Your little peas may have just started beating so possibly could get stronger.
Getting mixed information for the hospital isnt going to help how you're feeling at all.
Fingers crossed everything turns out okay. Keep us updated xxx
I know the epu congratulated me said it was probs because im just 6 weeks and so did the sonographer and then the miscarriage nurse said she had never seen a heartbeat get stronger which i thought was abit out there so its been a rollercoaster by my workings out im dead on 6 week tday and they said we could scan again and it might be fine on 10 mins it happens ... yeno im staying away if i get the all clear they worry you to death!! But i seen my lil pea beat and i was expecting the worst so for now im hoping everyday gets stronger my gestation sac is really quite big that measured at 7 weeks which is impossible and then the top sonographer had a go and agreed with me just said i have a large sac but my uterus was causing problems as its heart shaped so baby is sat now in the right horn im tempted to get a private opinion this week thanks for being there for support lovelys xxx
So do i absolutely gutted the misscarriage nurse said to prepare that it wont speed up at all thats not what epu said im just absolutely praying baby makes it healthy and speeds up lazy bugger! Haha i cant get over what she said to me im just like how can u be 100% when they told me something totally different last week if epu thought there was no chance im sure they would have said we need to stop the pregnancy now ... im going to ring the doctors tmoro about it ... im back next week they said i could wait 1 or 2 weeks to go back i said one turns out my scans my birthday praying for a bday miracle thanks for the support id be a tad lost without this group! Xx
