Breast Feeding

[midnight]

ive been following your blog makes good reading

 

[Rayoflight]

Aww thanks. I need to update it before the next run of adverts to promote it start on Tuesday. Wish I could do it via tapatalk!

 

[pinkymum]

Thank you all for your advice! I need to catch up with your blog Gem, really enjoyed the first few days
What about single mums? How have you managed? I know Me, my girls and I breastfed with her first. Is it harder to bf without help from your OH?
My mum is gonna stay for a few days after baby is born so I know I'll have that help.


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[evie_smith]

My DH is at work allot of the time and I have thee kids I know it's not the same as being single buy even when DH is here he rarely interacts with the kids unless I put Chloe in his arms or anything so it shouldn't make a difference my DH doesn't change nappies do feeds or get Chloe changed so hopefully you will be ok xx

 

[Rayoflight]

Sometimes I think having Shaun around hinders me bf. That sounds a bit mean but the times I've expressed and put it in a bottle for him has purely been for Shaun's benefit because he wants to and wants to feel involved. The other night he said he'd do the night feed so I expressed and left in the fridge. Shaun's downstairs sorting out the bottle, shouting stuff up to me about what to do. Took a good ten mins to warm up by which time Blake is screaming in my arms and looking at me as if to say "mummy why aren't you feeding me?" it was horrible and completely pointless. Plus when Shaun had fed him he had wind quite bad from the bottle so cried for a good hour. I think all the feel good hormones from bf make me immune to his cry being annoying so I seem more patient when he cries at night whereas Shaun is so tired he gets frustrated and I find some of the things he says to Blake harsh.
Shaun is good for getting me pints of water when breastfeeding and making brews but that's about it and he can only do that when he's not working, which after Xmas will be rare as he'll be working lots. There's not much more he can do so I don't think it will be any harder for you. I'd say the opposite. No sterilising to do, no making up the bottles - just whip them out and go!

 

[jardiggle]

I agree with others...give it a try, but don't be too hard on yourself if it is difficult. I had a VERY difficult time with each of my two. The first I only lasted 5 months (he was a difficult baby, I couldn't give him enough milk, he was always hungry etc.) - the second I worked my TAIL off and had to supplement a bit with formula the first couple months; by the time she was 5 months I didn't need to give any more formula, and I continued full time until she was 12 months, and at night until 17 months. BUT --- I about drove myself insane. I was OBSESSED with "getting enough milk" for her - and it made me feel like a bad Mom to my 2 y.o. son!!

I agree, there is SO much pressure on Mom's to bf, and I have to admit, I did feel like a failure when I had to quit. Even with #2, it WORKED, but it was at the expense of literally not remembering her first six weeks, and feeling like I basically ignored my other child for months. I get VERRRRY irritated when I go on certain boards that talk down on formula feeding - bfing is NOT easy for everyone!

I am also very nervous about bfing again when #3 comes...I KNOW I will try and will have to give it all I've got, but I also know how very hard it is, and I tend to be hard on myself. Just do the best you can, that's all you can do! BEST of luck to you!

 

[Cantstop]

Not sure if this sounds daft or not, but my nipples tend not to stick out much usually - will they pop out a bit more later on or are they likely to stay like this? At the mo if they stayed like this, there would usually not be anything for baby to latch on to.

 

[pinkymum]

Not sure if this sounds daft or not, but my nipples tend not to stick out much usually - will they pop out a bit more later on or are they likely to stay like this? At the mo if they stayed like this, there would usually not be anything for baby to latch on to.

Mine either Hun, I think someone mentioned nipple shields? Although I have no idea what they are lol.
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[Cantstop]

I've seen nipple shields and from what I recall, they seem like plastic things with like a suction teat thing to pull your nipple up, but (and someone please correct me here lol) it seems like I would need OH to have a suck first to pull nipple up to get them to work??

 

[Rayoflight]

Nope not at all. I can put them on when my nipples are basically flat (I say flat but they never really are these days...so not looking like a fat tic tac more like a smartie) and as soon as he sucks they pull up.

I only use nipple guards when my nipples are really sore which isn't too often. When he had a growth spurt and he was feeding every hour and when he was a bit under the weather and not latching on properly.

Also if he's gone a while without feeding and my boobs are the same size as my head (no joke) if I remember I'll use a nipple shield as it slows my flow down and he's less likely to feed as fast and puke it all back up.

 

[Cantstop]

Ah that's good, I shouldn't worry about that then, but will make sure I get some of them in case they don't pop out much in the next few months

 

[Rayoflight]

Think you might be getting confused. They don't make your nipples pop out. You can get something else for inverted nipples but I cant think what it's called.

The nipple shields are really to protect them and allow them to heal if they're sore. I'd also recommend Lansinoh cream before the shields. It is a godsend. The only one you can use where baby can feed straight away, you don't have to wash it off like other nipple creams.

 

[Cantstop]

Hmm, on page 1 mablestarr mentioned that she had used a nipple shield for flat nipples, that's my only source of info for that.

Actually, just googled inverted nipples and mine def aren't inverted, they're out but just not sticky out like peanut out (sorry tmi lol) and read that a proper latch be on areola not nipple per se anyway so shouldn't be an issue.

 

[mumofmany]

I think there is so much pressure for women to breastfed that they take it worse and worry more about it not working. I gave my 1st the first feed that it, 2nd 2 weeks breastfed, 3rd was prem so i breast fed him till he was due so 7 weeks, then my 4th 8 weeks, then my 5th 6 months it took me till my 5th to be comfortable doing it but i will say this from my experience the baby did it all, i read articles now about breast feeding and they just confuse me more, put the mouth here and the nipple there, i would advise do what feels right and follow your baby's lead, yes those first 2 weeks can be hard when getting your milk established and they seem to always want feeding but then once that stage passes its great from a lazy persons point of view no bottles to clean or make, no getting out of bed of a night. NEVER LET ANYONE BULLY YOU INTO BREASTFEDING i stopped feeding my 3rd and then he got admitted to hospital with whooping cough and i got blamed for stopping breastfeeding by someone good job it was my 3rd cause if it had been my 1st i would have believed it.

 

[PinkPunch]

I found breastfeeding to be the most stressful and difficult part of having a newborn, I just don't think I did a very good of it but I managed to do it for 4 months. Breast milk goes through a little baby very quickly so they need fed often whereas with bottle feds, it knocks them out for much longer. In saying that, formula gives them awful wind that you don't get with breast milk.

There are pros & cons to both but if you are wanting to bf, you need to be determined from the start. If you just "give it a go" you probably won't last long. If it's something you really want, work hard for it and it will be rewarding in the end

 

[pinkymum]

I found breastfeeding to be the most stressful and difficult part of having a newborn, I just don't think I did a very good of it but I managed to do it for 4 months. Breast milk goes through a little baby very quickly so they need fed often whereas with bottle feds, it knocks them out for much longer. In saying that, formula gives them awful wind that you don't get with breast milk.

There are pros & cons to both but if you are wanting to bf, you need to be determined from the start. If you just "give it a go" you probably won't last long. If it's something you really want, work hard for it and it will be rewarding in the end

Yeah I keep thinking it won't work unless I'm determined and tbh I don't think I am. Guess I have a bit more time.
Thanks for the advice ladies

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[midnight]

I found breastfeeding to be the most stressful and difficult part of having a newborn, I just don't think I did a very good of it but I managed to do it for 4 months. Breast milk goes through a little baby very quickly so they need fed often whereas with bottle feds, it knocks them out for much longer. In saying that, formula gives them awful wind that you don't get with breast milk.

There are pros & cons to both but if you are wanting to bf, you need to be determined from the start. If you just "give it a go" you probably won't last long. If it's something you really want, work hard for it and it will be rewarding in the end

Yeah I keep thinking it won't work unless I'm determined and tbh I don't think I am. Guess I have a bit more time.
Thanks for the advice ladies

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im going with i will try it and if it doesnt work or im not comfortable with it i will switch to formula if it doesnt work it doesnt work it wouldnt mean ive failed as a mum