Jayjay027
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Ok, this may be a long one, but I'll try and give u the basics only.
Bit of background info, my MIL has never been my biggest fan, I've never done anything wrong but she's just never taken to me.
Another bit of background info - my DH has a second cousin (we'll call her Dina) who, despite being related by blood, has always had a thing for him, and always assumed they'd get married (I know!! Lol) she is 33 and still single.
About 3 days after we returned from honeymoon last year, my MIL told my DH that he should have married Dina, and that its legal, and to keep her in mind 'for future reference' - to which DH said he never had any interest in Dina and never would, and that's he's very happy with me. They are related through my MIL.
So, as most of u know, my FIL passed away on Sunday, and on Monday, DH and I spent the day at the house while people were coming and going giving their condolences. Dina's parents (who I'd never met) arrived, and I'm not exaggerating, her mother glared at me for 30mins. A real nasty, hateful look on her face. She also blatantly changed the subject when every1 was asking about my baby, then she blatantly changed the subject again when every1 was asking about my photography. She then hugged every1 as she was leaving, and walked right by me as if I didn't exist!
I didn't think any more of it until the funeral on Weds, when we were outside the church my mum pulled me aside and asked me who was the woman giving me daggers. I looked over and it was Dina's mother!! Apparently she had been giving me daggers for 10mins before my mum said anything, and even after I looked at her, she didn't look away. A few other people also noticed and asked me why she was staring at me with a mean look on her face?!
Dina, by this point, hadn't gone anywhere near my DH as I had been by his side all day. After the burial, we had tea and coffee in the church hall, and as soon as I sat down away from DH, Dina ran across the room and threw her arms around him, then stuck to him like velcro.
Meanwhile, Dina's mother is chatting to my FIL's sister, and is pointing over at me, so obv talking about me!!
After a while of this happening, I went to stand next to DH again, who still had Dina hanging off him, and he put his arm around me (ha!) But he then leaves us to say goodbye to someone who was going home. As soon as DH walks away, Dina glares at me, so I turn and politely introduce myself. She says 'congratulations on the...' Then points at my belly, then turns her back to me!
At this point, a few friends of mine and DH ask me if I want to go outside for air, and they all say how fake Dina was and asked me if we'd had a problem before?! I'd never met this girl before so I had no problem with her but she clearly has a problem with me!
They also noticed her mother had been staring at me in the church hall, which I hadn't even noticed myself!
I was made to feel SO uncomfortable and awkward because of them, and the more I think about it, the angrier I am that they could be so petty at such a difficult time!
I wasn't going to say anything to DH about it as he has enough going on, but we bumped into a friend yesterday who was at the funeral, and she brought it up, so he asked me about it and I told him the whole story, and he is so angry about it too.
I told him that they will not be invited to the christening, nor will they meet the baby if I can help it! The only problem they could possibly have with me, is that my DH married me and not Dina!!
Am I over-reacting? Or would u be upset by that kind of carry on too?
I just thought it was completely out of line. What's your opinion?
P.s. If I don't get a reply, I completely understand that u all fell asleep trying to read this essay of a post!! Lol xx
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Bit of background info, my MIL has never been my biggest fan, I've never done anything wrong but she's just never taken to me.
Another bit of background info - my DH has a second cousin (we'll call her Dina) who, despite being related by blood, has always had a thing for him, and always assumed they'd get married (I know!! Lol) she is 33 and still single.
About 3 days after we returned from honeymoon last year, my MIL told my DH that he should have married Dina, and that its legal, and to keep her in mind 'for future reference' - to which DH said he never had any interest in Dina and never would, and that's he's very happy with me. They are related through my MIL.
So, as most of u know, my FIL passed away on Sunday, and on Monday, DH and I spent the day at the house while people were coming and going giving their condolences. Dina's parents (who I'd never met) arrived, and I'm not exaggerating, her mother glared at me for 30mins. A real nasty, hateful look on her face. She also blatantly changed the subject when every1 was asking about my baby, then she blatantly changed the subject again when every1 was asking about my photography. She then hugged every1 as she was leaving, and walked right by me as if I didn't exist!
I didn't think any more of it until the funeral on Weds, when we were outside the church my mum pulled me aside and asked me who was the woman giving me daggers. I looked over and it was Dina's mother!! Apparently she had been giving me daggers for 10mins before my mum said anything, and even after I looked at her, she didn't look away. A few other people also noticed and asked me why she was staring at me with a mean look on her face?!
Dina, by this point, hadn't gone anywhere near my DH as I had been by his side all day. After the burial, we had tea and coffee in the church hall, and as soon as I sat down away from DH, Dina ran across the room and threw her arms around him, then stuck to him like velcro.
Meanwhile, Dina's mother is chatting to my FIL's sister, and is pointing over at me, so obv talking about me!!
After a while of this happening, I went to stand next to DH again, who still had Dina hanging off him, and he put his arm around me (ha!) But he then leaves us to say goodbye to someone who was going home. As soon as DH walks away, Dina glares at me, so I turn and politely introduce myself. She says 'congratulations on the...' Then points at my belly, then turns her back to me!
At this point, a few friends of mine and DH ask me if I want to go outside for air, and they all say how fake Dina was and asked me if we'd had a problem before?! I'd never met this girl before so I had no problem with her but she clearly has a problem with me!
They also noticed her mother had been staring at me in the church hall, which I hadn't even noticed myself!
I was made to feel SO uncomfortable and awkward because of them, and the more I think about it, the angrier I am that they could be so petty at such a difficult time!
I wasn't going to say anything to DH about it as he has enough going on, but we bumped into a friend yesterday who was at the funeral, and she brought it up, so he asked me about it and I told him the whole story, and he is so angry about it too.
I told him that they will not be invited to the christening, nor will they meet the baby if I can help it! The only problem they could possibly have with me, is that my DH married me and not Dina!!
Am I over-reacting? Or would u be upset by that kind of carry on too?
I just thought it was completely out of line. What's your opinion?
P.s. If I don't get a reply, I completely understand that u all fell asleep trying to read this essay of a post!! Lol xx
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