Birth partners-really need advice

[Jazz]

I no im thinking ahead but any one given birth alone. I had a partner until a week ago but he is no longer around. My first daughter has epilepsy and other extra needs and medication,only person that can look after her is my mum. I have one friend asked her as she has a little one she said she may be there but changed mind. So looks like I will be doing it alone. Had a horrible first birth and daughter was prem so worried.Any one else been in same position x

 

[knopk@]

Cant really help but didnt want to read and run. I am sorry to.hear about your OH, will he be on the scene, maybe he can look after L?
There are couple of ladies who did it alone i think.

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[Jazz]

Don't want to go in to details but due to his actions towards me and little one he isn't allowed to, he hasn't seen her in a week. Not even had a text to see if she is ok, she had a important EEG never even contacted us then

 

[Durhamchance]

If there is no-one else would it be worth hiring a doula? I have no idea how much they cost though x

 

[knopk@]

I know my hospital now provides doulas for free, maybe worth asking your mw hun? I am so sorry its come to this. X

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[Jazz]

I will ask mid wife not heard of them before, do you know what they do? Its a position I never thought I would be in

 

[knopk@]

I will ask mid wife not heard of them before, do you know what they do? Its a position I never thought I would be in

Big hug hun, i cant evem begin to imagine. Pretty much you.can request one at my hospital now(i.think they brought it in so births are less medicalised).
Can be worth asking mw

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[positivity :)]

I will ask mid wife not heard of them before, do you know what they do? Its a position I never thought I would be in

Big hug hun, i cant evem begin to imagine. Pretty much you.can request one at my hospital now(i.think they brought it in so births are less medicalised).
Can be worth asking mw

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What do they do Hun?

I'm so sorry uv been left in this situation, must be awful. Any other family members? Aunt? Grandmother? X

 

[CARNAT22]

Wow what hospital are you at Knopk@??

Doula's are very expensive (so are private MW's though!!)

Jazz, whilst it is not ideal the MW's that look after you on the day will do a stellar job and I would try not to worry too much. Easy for me to say I know...

xxxxxxx

 

[knopk@]

Chelsea and Westminster, it wasnt there in 2011 so quite new. I read about it online tbh. Not sure how many hospitals do it

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[positivity :)]

Oooh! That's great! They haven't mentioned it to me when iv been in, do u know who ur mw is? Can u imagine we could have the same mw deliver our bubbas?! X

 

[positivity :)]

Mine is Claire btw! X

 

[Pudds86]

I will ask mid wife not heard of them before, do you know what they do? Its a position I never thought I would be in

They are trained in being birth partners. They know all the relaxation techniques and work as a go between you and the midwife. They help keep you to the.birth plan you would like x

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[Jazz]

After what happened at last birth I find it very hard to put my trust in them. Will talk to midwife and see what options there are. I don't have close family just my parents.

 

[mrswoody]

Here is a link to the Doula UK website about costs http://doula.org.uk/content/how-much-does-doula-cost I hope you manage to sort it out lovely xx

 

[Squeakz]

this also might sound a bit out there but could you not see if theres a student mw whi could birth partner you!!? u could conyact a local uni or speak to the hosp.....it might be nice if theres someine there who could help explain be cheaper than a doila and the student qould see it as invaluable experience. a labour from beginning to end?!? xx

 

[Rowesb]

There are funds that you can access towards the cost of Doula's and also mentored doulas (training) are usually substantially cheaper too x

 

[babyem]

this also might sound a bit out there but could you not see if theres a student mw whi could birth partner you!!? u could conyact a local uni or speak to the hosp.....it might be nice if theres someine there who could help explain be cheaper than a doila and the student qould see it as invaluable experience. a labour from beginning to end?!? xx

I think this is a great idea! They csn answer some questions you may have too x

My fat fingers can't spell! x