Anyone thinking of having an early scan?

[Rainbow1234]

I was trying to hold off with this but anxiety has kicked back in today. I had a mmc first pregnancy. Found out at 11 weeks baby had stopped growing around 7. And an early mc 2nd pregnancy. 3rd pregnancy I had my beautiful daughter with no complications.

This time I’m swinging between feeling ok and feeling so scared. I’ve not got many symptoms but then I would hardly have known I was pregnant with my daughter either. I’m terrified of having a scan and getting told bad news again but at the same time I need reassurance.

I have midwife tomorrow and going to ask for an early scan. I’ll hold off until 8 weeks. They allowed me one with my daughter but unsure if they’ll say no because I’ve had my daughter since the mc’s. If not I’ll just book privately.

Is anyone feeling the same?

 

[Princess81]

It’s very rare now to be offered re-assurance scans on the NHS. I’m a midwife and I will only refer if the lady has had persistent bleeding in the pregnancy or If she’s had 3 or more miscarriages in a row. The strain that the system is under really doesn’t allow for much deviation from that.
I would pay for a private one if I was you, if the wait is too much.
I hope you start to feel more positive soon, the anxiety of early pregnancy is horrible xxx

 

[Chase]

Im in my Tww so don't have a bfp yet. But I already know I'm going to book an early scan because I suffer with anxiety and have ptsd and I know that it will help my mental health.

I could get an early scan if I chose to do genetics again but I don't want to go down that route.

A early scan near me is only 40 quid, thats a meal out so its a no brainer for me.

 

[Princess81]

I would possibly consider one.... I had one with C. But then I had some bleeding with him. If I get a BFP I suppose I’ll see how I feel. I have no issues in paying for one though, the nhs sonographers are at breaking point x

 

[Rainbow1234]

Thanks guys. My issue isn’t paying for one, I know the NHS is under strain so have no issue with that at all. I didn’t actually ask for it with my daughter, the midwife offered it. You can get them near me for £40 too so it’s not an issue.

It’s more the decision of whether to do it and when to do it. I’m pretty certain I am going to do it - probably around 8 weeks. The thought just absolutely terrifies me.

 

[fpts2509]

I was so anxious i booked one at 8 weeks. And I'm really glad I did. Wasnt a lot to see but it really reassured me. Xx

 

[Gemsy]

Yes, I would....in fact I have already had one at 5.5 - it was a tad too early to see details although they found a heartbeat but I'm going back at 7.5 weeks just before I go on holiday so I can go away and enjoy myself without the worry. I had one with my son at 8 weeks and it was very reassuring.

 

[Rainbow1234]

Thanks. I think I’ve decided I’m definitely going to get one around 8 weeks. It would be such a reassurance if everything looked good and if not, I suppose I’d rather know!

Early pregnancy anxiety is awful. I really wish i could be carefree in pregnancy like some people can x

 

[fpts2509]

Thanks. I think I’ve decided I’m definitely going to get one around 8 weeks. It would be such a reassurance if everything looked good and if not, I suppose I’d rather know!

Early pregnancy anxiety is awful. I really wish i could be carefree in pregnancy like some people can x

The anxiety is awful isnt it. Im so close to 12 weeks, ive had 2 scans and have a third next week but I cant shift it. Husband gets frustrated with me but I cant help it.

 

[Rainbow1234]

Yeah it’s really consuming. Will you feel better when you reach 12 weeks? I’m only 6+2 so feels like an eternity away. My mum keeps telling me I need to stop being so negative but she doesn’t understand that I do that to protect myself. If I think the worst it’s not such a shock if it happens x

 

[Frankinstein12]

I’m having one done on Saturday at 7.5 weeks
Nervous, feel like they’ll tell me there’s nothing there and I’ve made it up! Haha

 

[Rainbow1234]

I feel the same Frankenstein!! I don’t really feel ‘pregnant’! In work all day I could even forget, I feel so normal. I hope your scan is amazing!

 

[Frankinstein12]

I’ve had lots and lots of nausea, not actually been sick, and tender breasts but they haven’t really effected me.
Let’s hope they see a little blob haha
I just want some reassurance that it’s all real :-D

 

[fpts2509]

Yeah it’s really consuming. Will you feel better when you reach 12 weeks? I’m only 6+2 so feels like an eternity away. My mum keeps telling me I need to stop being so negative but she doesn’t understand that I do that to protect myself. If I think the worst it’s not such a shock if it happens x

I hope I do. I've tried to explain it to hubby tonight through tears. He said whats happened to make you so anxious? I said nothing and he was like well then! I kind of get his point but I need to put it to the back of my mind and try and enjoy it xx

 

[Rainbow1234]

Fpts, i feel this way because I’ve had 2 miscarriages previously but I’ve had a healthy pregnancy too after this. This is me putting my advice hat on now. If you’ve had 2 scans and everything looks good and you’ve reached 12 weeks the chances
of anything bad happening are tiny. It was so difficult with my daughter but I didn’t want to ruin my whole pregnancy worrying. After my 12 week scan I decided to just take it Day by day and to start being positive, it gets much easier when you can feel them moving around. I still feel I’m too early to try and get into that frame of mind just now but IF everything looks ok by my 12 week scan I’m going to need to try and change my perspective. I hope you manage to enjoy your pregnancy x

 

[Kholl]

I really thought I wasn’t going to have an early scan (I am wary of them for various reasons, plus I didn’t want a reason to be more anxious). I ended up having one at 10+1 and I’m SO glad I did. I think around 10 weeks is a great time cause if you see a heartbeat at 10 weeks the chance of miscarriage is roughly 0.5%— and also baby is big enough to really see something and be reassured on a deeper level.

I realized I had to balance my concerns about the safety of early ultrasound with the reality of my overwhelming anxiety. Mom’s mental health is important for the health of the baby too. I wasn’t comfortable with an ultrasound before 10 weeks but felt good about having a scan when I did. The sonographer was quick and just measured heartbeat and baby’s size so I felt good that the ultrasound exposure was brief, too.

Long story short- I’m so glad I got one and that it was early but not *too* early. 9-10 weeks is perfect, I think.

 

[Sparky Mum]

I echo what Kholl says above.
I've got one booked in for 8+3.
What's on screen is worth seeing by then and if a strong heartbeat is detected then you're chances are pretty darn good!

 

[Rainbow1234]

Thanks everyone. I’ve got one booked for 8+1 x

 

[Sparky Mum]

Eeeek!