any advice most welcome!!

[lottielou]

Hey girlies.

Basically ive got myself in a stew and wondered if any of you had any info or advice.
I got back with my partner (babys dad) a few months ago. We had had a bit of trouble both to blame. And everything is going amazing. Cant fault him. House is ready for our baby to arrive. Which could be very soon depending on how the pregnancy progresses. 34 weeks.

OH has asbergers syndrome and has had a social worker for the last ten years since he was 18. nice bloke and meets with oh every 6 months or so to see where hes at. This fella has announced that he would like to come see oh amd baby after she has been born. Just to make sure he is adjusting and doesnt need any extra support.

I am glad he is been supported. But it has really worried me. I may have been nieve but since he has been managing his own life so well i kinda didnt know how to take this announcement.
Does anyone thing im right for been concerned or am i worrying unnecessarily (i hope its just me been over sensitive) but i feel like were been criticised!

thanks in advance if anyone reads. I am really grateful!!
Lottie x

 

[lottielou]

Oh dear. Just spoken to him. He said stop worrying. Thinks ive gone bonkers ha. Its no big deal. Why do i feel so anxious and stupid. i feel like im not good enough. Arghh

 

[tabbi]

It's normal hunni, as it's such a big change they will only do the one visit to see how your settling in all that sort of thing.
Just take it slowly and work with them.
I'm glad you have both been able to work through your problems and are back together, it's nice when couples work through their problems and come out better.
Just stay the same as you are now hun, when SS turn up just ignore them and carry on as you normally would. Thats all they want to see. I hope everything goes well for you hunni. Your OH is right there is nothing to worry about. x x x

 

[lottielou]

Thankyou so much for the reply hun. Yeah they said its just to make sure that he is fine with the responsibility etc. Im trying my best not to worry.. Thankyou for the advice hun. We will definatly be okay! Xx

 

[glass angel]

I'm a social worker in adult services, honestly there is nothing for you to worry about. They will just want to see how your OH is coping as people with aspergers often find it difficult to cope with change. They will see if your OH needs / is eligible for any more help, and will only refer to children's services if he is really not coping and you're not protecting LO. Even then, children's services would look at helping too.

Hope things go well and your OH adjusts quickly.

Carrie

 

[babyslog]

Hey hun, glad you've both sorted things out
Hopefully not long till baba is here

I wouldnt worry, think of it like when the health advisor would come over to check one you and your baby, your OHs support worker is just basically doing the same to make sure hes all ok with the new changes

Im sure everything will be ok, he'll be a brill dad! xx

 

[lottielou]

Thankyou carrie thats amazing valuable info. Yeah im sort of glad they are coming because if he does need any support then he will get it. Its amazing the info and advice you get from the ladies on here. Im totally calm now. As im sure he will be an amazing daddy dani!. None of us first time parents know how we will actually feel about the biggest thing ever happening to us! !. but im so happy thay were back togeather! xxx

 

[iWitch]

It's all part of these personalised budget assessments. His circumstances have/are due to change and they are just ensuring he's got everything he needs to help care for the baby. I've worked in Social Services for a long time and it sounds like you OH has a really good, on-the-ball Social Worker