And then there were 2 :)

[deedee84]

OMFG...Jamies work are saying his wage is right, what the hell, i cant stop crying, were gonna end up friggin homeless or something we cant possibly live on that! OH's on his way home for getting angry and kicking a trolley, had a disiplinary, cant see him going back there either i know what hes like! I just dont know what to do, apparently hes not entitled to sick pay! I am so so upset more so for my girls, all i ever wanted was to give them a really good life and now i cant even afford Elises school trip, they need winter clothes, lexi needs food and nappies and we have shite all, OMG thi is bad, this is really really bad

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[misscrazycooki]

And once again the working class get screwed hun i hate it. Are you going to sign on if he doesn't go back. Just don't tell them he quit x

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[deedee84]

I'm gonna ring agency at my brothers work place tomorrow, he's a team leader there and his girlfriend also works there so it should go in my favour, they are setting on atm, shit hours like 2pm-10pm but the wages are better than OH gets now, he's just gonna be a stay at home dad for the time being, what with his anxiety and stuff its best all round, well apart from the fact i'll hardly see Elise but needs must and its not forever, i can always look for something more suitable while i'm there! Theres no point in us both claiming benefits when one of us at least is well enough to work iykwim! Been a while since i was in the land of the working, i'm sure i'll slot back in just fine! Doesnt really help our position right this minute but at least if i get set on straight away its weekly pay so that'll be of some help this month so fingers crossed!

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[Spammy]

Sorry your having such a rough time honey. Hugs x

 

[deedee84]

Dont know if Lexi sensed the upset in the household yesterday, she slept away most of the morning, after a rung OH at dinner time i just cried well into the late afternoon, my friend picked Elise up from school and took her to her house for tea! Lexi spent most the afternoon awake, it came to her normal settling hour and she was still awake, when she did fall asleep she was waking easily! at 10:15pm she was still awake after her feed, laid in my arms smiling at me and babbling away so i thought i may as well just take her up awake as i was never going to get to bed other wise, just seemed she didnt fancy sleep last night! I popped her into her cot awake and by 10:30pm she was nearly in the land of nod, stirring occasionally she woke at 11:10pm and again was wide awake so again after i fed her back in her cot awake, she nodded back off but woke again at 11:40pm, this time she did fall to sleep in my arms while feeding so i put her down and she next woke at 1:25am, 3:50am, 5:10am and lastly 6;05am where she was wide awake so i came downstairs with her, so i've had a rough night as well! Just feel like someone up there is trying to break me or something...had bad news and shite thrown at me since Saturday and i cant see it getting any better!

Going to ring the agency today as i want Jamie to quit his job so we can take them to the fecking cleaners as i asked his mum to find his contract out and that was dated 14th September, meaning he was entitled to paternity pay! Also with this sickness saga, last months wage was down by 80 but had a ssp put onto it which should of been on this months wage, so really that wage was 200 down...and all he had off was 2 days unpaid...so again, thats not right, and for this month, the accountant is saying he got paid £358 and some pence, ok so this incoporates 2 x ssp at £120 and 2 weeks full pay!!! pah dont think so when he gets around £200 oer week!!!! I dont know how they can argue that this is right, plus they are arguing him down that he isnt entitled to full sick pay even though his manager at the time said he accrued so many days sick a month and was entitled to a week at full time at least! Tried saying he doesnt have a leg to stand on as he didnt start full time with them while November last year, but his contract firmly states september, i'm so friggin angry with them, using the guilt trip on him that they "have done everything to help him out when he has needed it" fucking morons!!!!!

Anyway, i hope i get this job at my brothers work, it actually pays more than what Jamie gets anyway, not by much but every little extra helps! Gonna be gutted that i aint gonna see my little big princess hardly through the week as its 2-10pm just means i'll have to make the weekends extra special and as soon as something comes up on the day shift i'll apply for that!

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[deedee84]

Eugh been for a smear today, the joys! Think child birth has deffo expanded things downstairs as it wasnt as uncomfortable as previous smears! She has also changed my pill as i had a migraine yesterday and had flashing lights, i put it down to crying all day but she still changed it to be on the safe side!

Had more bad news money wise today! We get £200 every wednesday in child tax credits and working tax credits which would of got us through this month...just! It was going to pay the rent and give us a little bit of money to live on! Anyway, received a letter from hmrc, tax credits ammendment notice, as of tomorrow OH's working tax credits are going from £88 to £16, so now we will only get £128 every wednesday...friggin rents £130 its getting worse! And to top of this purely miserable day, got back from the docs and OH told me the council had posted a letter because we have all of 2 dog turds in the friggin garden...i mean seriously...the dog did those late last night (he cant shit in one friggin place) and the council came checking everyones gardens, no word of a lie, at half 6 this morning (sad twats) there coming back in 7 days and if nothings changed they will take things further! Friggin idiots! Wonder if theres gonna be any more crap thrown our way...what a lousy 4 days we have had so far!

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[misscrazycooki]

That's mad over the dog turd. Hugs hun i hope something comes out better for you soon. James hasn't even got work at the moment as no one is buying anything lol crap agency x

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[deedee84]

its a flaming joke over dog shite...in my own friggin garden, i could let him out the garden and let him shit all over the streets but i dont...nob heads!

Yeah work is hard to come by atm isnt it! The agency woman was supposed to call me back today but hasnt, i'll text her again tomorrow morning and see if she rings then! Probably would be better of on benefits tbh but ya know what, i cant be arsed with the job centre griefing me to get a job etc all the time! lol

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[misscrazycooki]

Its a safety net though hun for time being x

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[misscrazycooki]

Glad to hear your smear went well hun i not had one yet only 23 shock i diet your older than me you look my age x

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[deedee84]

Ahh thanks hehe! And i had one when i was 21, had it before the new guidlines were introduced on the age thing etc so i've had quite a few!

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[deedee84]

So tired this morning, Elexis slept a hell of a lot yesterday! she zonked out properly in her swing at 9:30pm she looked knackered bless! we went up to bed at 10pm and she woke for her first feed at 11:50pm then she went until 2:45am, 4am, 5:10am and lastly 6:20am i have no idea why she starts so well and the goes down hill as the night wears on! Must of deffo been a growth spurt that she had where she slept past 3 hours for 3 days! Roll on the next growth spurt!

Me and OH are going to go to the job centre today, see if theres any help for us, i really hope they can suggest something otherwise i just dont know what to do
Gonna get back onto that agency today too who were supposed to ring me back yesterday and never did...such a pet hate that for me!!!

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[deedee84]

Some nights i cope with hourly feeds fine...some nights i get up and could cry as i just need sleep...and last night was one of them! Little lady woke as i was carrying her to bed didnt want that to happen but hey ho i had to just put her in her cot awake! This was at 10:40pm, she was asleep by 10:55pm. She woke for her first feed at 1:10am and then wanted more bottle at 1:40am, her feeds were then at 3:50am, 04:55am and 06;05am god knows why she does ok in the early stages of the night and then decides to go hourly after that, its so frustrating! Its not like she over slept yesterday, and she didnt spend loads of time awake either, just wish she would sleep through, or even go every 3 hours at least...2 would be alright as well!!

Still not got anything sorted money wise yet, its obvious OH cant work, he's in no fit state and we cant rely on him not getting ill again, so i thought before i get an interview with TK Maxx i'll go on the benefit calculator and see whats what! Well if i got the job, we would get £230 in benefits (working tax/child tax etc) so that on top of my wage would be £480 a week, but then we have full rent and council tax to pay which would leave us £325, if we were to go onto benefits, we would have no rent or council tax to pay and would get £390 a week...no brainer really, i'm not really bothered what people think of us, OH is unfit to work and tbh i didnt really want to leave him looking after the kids, i think he would struggle, we have to do whats best for the kids and more money is best for them right now! Its not like i havent worked in the past, we've both done our fair share and i can bet we have paid enough taxes to cover our own benefits...were just getting a refund...thats all so were ringing the job centre today to see whats what and see if we can get some immediate help!

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[misscrazycooki]

Did say hun hope he is ok. Sounds like he needs a break. By the way if your partner gets sick note from doctor you will go onto esa x

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[deedee84]

i think he would easily get one, he has severe anxiety and depression, they are constantly having to change his meds as they work for a couple of week then he's bad again, if this last lot dont work he's to go see a specialist as well as been on the waiting list to see a councillor, when he has a funny turn which happens most days, he cant concentrate, feels paranoid and ill etc, hes just not fit to work tbh, he needs sorting out before he goes into employment...i think so anyway! so we will see what they have to say today when he rings! dont know how we go about him coming out of employment onto benefits, has the doctor got to sign him off work or something do you know? xx

 

[misscrazycooki]

Instead of him quitting which would look bad and leave you unable to claim get the doctor to sign him off then start up the claim and send sick note to job centre x

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[deedee84]

like long term sick? he has just put a 2wk sick note in at work xx

 

[misscrazycooki]

Yeah James got them monthly then after 3 months they send you for medical x

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[deedee84]

Ahh right cool thanks for the info hun, so does the doctor sign you off from working or are you still employed but just on long term sick from them? I have no clue about all this, i'm sure OH will get the ins and outs when he rings like but still lol

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[misscrazycooki]

No hun you basically start a claim with job centre like dole but your on sick so you don't have to sign on or worry about your money not getting sent. They will send him for a medical with their medical staff to prove he needs to stay on it hun after a certain amount of time James had too but they found no problems with him so he had to transfer back to dole x

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