LuW
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After 4 years I didn't really think I'd find myself here again.
We caught first try by some sort of miracle, everything was find, regular symptoms, no bleeds no nothing.
Went for an early private scan, saw baby there complete with little heart beat. Went yesterday for our 12 week NHS scan which changed my world again.
No more baby. Lady doing our scan said to my boyfriend while I went to use the loo and have a private 'lose my Sh!t' kind of cry that we'd been lucky to see baby alive, that it had only lasted maybe a week more if that.
Then was put in a room at the back to wait for 'someone from upstairs' to come and get us. That only took about 30 mins. So can't complain at the girls in ultrasound or the lady that came to get us. It was when we got upstairs the problems started.
They were expecting us and had said to said us up, so they did. When we got up there, there wasn't anywhere apart from the waiting room in a busy corridor for us to sit. I felt like a bloody side show at a circus. Every staff member that walked passed sucked their teeth a little or 'awh'ed at us and every other person stopped and gawped at us.
After an hour of this the woman that had brought us up walked passed and practically lost her sh!t that we were sat there and threw a massive tantrum to get us somewhere private. So we were moved to a small 'cupboard' with a sofa in that smelled like fart and BO. And then left alone for another hour and half not knowing anything.
G went out about 3 or 4 times asking when we'd be seen and on the 4th someone went 'oh fine then I'll see you now'.
She rudely and rather directly said 'you're here because we need to terminate your pregnancy' - if I hadn't already been in bits now then I would have been. Went for medical management in the 5 seconds she gave us to pick then had to wait for another hour for the DR (don't blame him for the wait, he was stretched across three wards poor lad)
Really sweet student nurse came in to do obs at some point in that and honestly couldn't have been kinder.
Dr came in, was more tactile in re-explaining what had happened and what was next. Until he made me describe in depth how I'd lost my baby 4 years ago - wouldn't even let G do it for me or let up when I was having a full panic attack having to relive it and then cleared off without telling us anymore.
nearly 2 hours later, witch nurse came back in with a glass of luke warm and cloudy water and four tablets. I suck with tablets so I took my time taking them as not to add the smell of fresh vomit to the attractive odor already in the room - she spent the time sighing and tapping her foot. Then left telling me to wait til she came back.
another hour later she came back to check I hadn't thrown up. I said at that point that I was already in a lot of pain and felt I could really use a pad for the journey home. Was told that wasn't possible.
half an hour later I was allowed to leave with already stained jeans and feeling very queasy and shivering. G had to steal one of those cardboard bowls for the car incase I needed to throw up - luckily did make it home and onto the drive before I vomited.
The whole time I had assumed this was all because they were short staffed. Until we were leaving and walked passed the nurses station where 10 different nurses, 2 student nurses and 2 ward staff stood around having a good old chat.
G's been more than a saint, doing everything he can to cheer me up - going out to buy foods he knows I can't resist to try to get me to eat something. Putting up with sitting through my crappy girly films all night. Sitting up with me even after I'd fallen asleep even though he's had to go to work all day today. Then moving one of the laptops, a bottle of water, a bottle of pop, some crisps and some fruit up to the bedroom before he went to work in case I didn't feel like going downstairs. Just can't help but feel like we were taken the piss out of at the unit and that everything could have been dealt with much more sensitively and also faster. All I wanted was to come home - I didn't want to be turned into a sympathy act or a side show. I just wanted my dog and my bed.
We caught first try by some sort of miracle, everything was find, regular symptoms, no bleeds no nothing.
Went for an early private scan, saw baby there complete with little heart beat. Went yesterday for our 12 week NHS scan which changed my world again.
No more baby. Lady doing our scan said to my boyfriend while I went to use the loo and have a private 'lose my Sh!t' kind of cry that we'd been lucky to see baby alive, that it had only lasted maybe a week more if that.
Then was put in a room at the back to wait for 'someone from upstairs' to come and get us. That only took about 30 mins. So can't complain at the girls in ultrasound or the lady that came to get us. It was when we got upstairs the problems started.
They were expecting us and had said to said us up, so they did. When we got up there, there wasn't anywhere apart from the waiting room in a busy corridor for us to sit. I felt like a bloody side show at a circus. Every staff member that walked passed sucked their teeth a little or 'awh'ed at us and every other person stopped and gawped at us.
After an hour of this the woman that had brought us up walked passed and practically lost her sh!t that we were sat there and threw a massive tantrum to get us somewhere private. So we were moved to a small 'cupboard' with a sofa in that smelled like fart and BO. And then left alone for another hour and half not knowing anything.
G went out about 3 or 4 times asking when we'd be seen and on the 4th someone went 'oh fine then I'll see you now'.
She rudely and rather directly said 'you're here because we need to terminate your pregnancy' - if I hadn't already been in bits now then I would have been. Went for medical management in the 5 seconds she gave us to pick then had to wait for another hour for the DR (don't blame him for the wait, he was stretched across three wards poor lad)
Really sweet student nurse came in to do obs at some point in that and honestly couldn't have been kinder.
Dr came in, was more tactile in re-explaining what had happened and what was next. Until he made me describe in depth how I'd lost my baby 4 years ago - wouldn't even let G do it for me or let up when I was having a full panic attack having to relive it and then cleared off without telling us anymore.
nearly 2 hours later, witch nurse came back in with a glass of luke warm and cloudy water and four tablets. I suck with tablets so I took my time taking them as not to add the smell of fresh vomit to the attractive odor already in the room - she spent the time sighing and tapping her foot. Then left telling me to wait til she came back.
another hour later she came back to check I hadn't thrown up. I said at that point that I was already in a lot of pain and felt I could really use a pad for the journey home. Was told that wasn't possible.
half an hour later I was allowed to leave with already stained jeans and feeling very queasy and shivering. G had to steal one of those cardboard bowls for the car incase I needed to throw up - luckily did make it home and onto the drive before I vomited.
The whole time I had assumed this was all because they were short staffed. Until we were leaving and walked passed the nurses station where 10 different nurses, 2 student nurses and 2 ward staff stood around having a good old chat.
G's been more than a saint, doing everything he can to cheer me up - going out to buy foods he knows I can't resist to try to get me to eat something. Putting up with sitting through my crappy girly films all night. Sitting up with me even after I'd fallen asleep even though he's had to go to work all day today. Then moving one of the laptops, a bottle of water, a bottle of pop, some crisps and some fruit up to the bedroom before he went to work in case I didn't feel like going downstairs. Just can't help but feel like we were taken the piss out of at the unit and that everything could have been dealt with much more sensitively and also faster. All I wanted was to come home - I didn't want to be turned into a sympathy act or a side show. I just wanted my dog and my bed.