An initimate question

[CARNAT22]

I had a M/C back in May. Bleeding started the morning after OH and I had sex for the first time after finding out

On Saturday (before I had my positive result) OH and had to stop mid way through as I had a really severe pain in my lower right side. I mean it was so bad it reduced me to tears.. I've never felt anything like that before. Pain was sudden and stopped really quickly too..

Since then there has been nothing else of any concern.

We will have an early scan in a few weeks due to previous M/C but in all honesty I don't want my OH anywhere near me in that way. Even a cuddle in bed at the moment is making me freeze up...

He is of course respectful of my worries about sex and knows it wont be forever but it doesn't seem fair really?

We're not a new couple and of course waiting a few weeks [until at least the early scan] is not a problem but I am worried that I will always feel like this about being intimate!

I will of course speak to a professional about this but I am just wondering if anyone has any words fo wisdom?

 

[Lacey's Mummy]

I had a mc back in 2009 and started bleeding the day after we dtd too.
When I fell pregnant with my son the year after I was too scared to have sex so waited until I was around 14 weeks pregnant until we dtd, even then I was scared. The further into the pregnancy the more I relaxed and falling pregnant with my son actually helped our sex life after as before it was non existent. Of course your gonna be worried it's only natural. Take your time with it, I'm sure you and your baby will be fine x x

 

[Maria1977]

When I was in early pregnancy sex hurt like you describe, really bad. It brought tears to my eyes too and put OH off for a bit coz it hurt me so much. But as the pregnancy goes on it gets better. Everything is just stretching and changing making room for LO to grow xxxx

 

[CARNAT22]

Thanks guys!

I think I really freaked the OH out (especially as we didn't even know I was pregnant then - although that kind of tipped me off)

In fact I don't know what I am worrying about, I doubt he will want to come anywhere near me after that palaver tears during sex aren't all that attractive LOL!