Age when TTC?

[Surveyor]

Hey guys! I was wondering at what age you started/are going to start trying to conceive?

Also wondering about what factors went into your decision so feel free to comment.

For me it's all about balance. I want to be a younger mother and also want a stable situation for my baby. That is why I will start trying in a little under a year, which would make me 23 years old. I will be well into my masters degree and ready to take the next step in my life. My husband will have worked at his job for 4 years. We have a house, car, ex... So really it's all about waiting now. I hate waiting.

 

[CornishGirl]

I knew I wanted children from about the age of 12. I was desperate, but growing up in a pretty bad situation I didn't want that for my children, so I concentrated on building my life around having a family. (Sad, I know)

I moved from the north to the gorgeous Cornwall/Devon border, met my partner in crime while at uni, and then we bought a house and married. Then it was a matter of waiting until he was ready because that was important to me. He was finally ready when we were 26.

I'm now 28 and preparing to TTC our second.

 

[Sunflower1]

I would have tried earlier but long term partner didn't want kids, by time I found my husband I had health problems. Could only start at 39. Now 42 and feels like it might be too late.

 

[Kazzii]

Me and my husband got married in August. We started trying in October. I'm 25 and he's 27 x

 

[PeanutButter]

We got married at 22... Wanted a baby but never really talked about it... We wasnt trying but not preventing I got pregnant end of 2015 but miscarried then we started trying properly! Then finally had out LG at 24 x

 

[JustTrying]

Although I have always been maternal, I have never felt ready for my own children until I hit 31. It just came as a natural feeling and I became pregnant exactly a year of trying with husband.

This year has been very lucky for me as I got myself a new and better paid job and found out I was pregnant at the same time. We also have our own home and are quite comfortable now and ready to dedicate ourselves to a little one.

 

[JemRose]

I'm 23 and my partner is 32. I grew up with a dad who wanted nothing to do with me. I never wanted children until I met a man I was confident wouldn't leave our baby like I was left.

My partner always said he wasn't ready for children, this upset me so much as I've always wanted children and finally found a man I felt confident with. But when I had to have a laparoscopy which found endometriosis that was over my ovaries and there was a chance of removing the ovaries (luckily they managed to remove the endometriosis without removing the ovary) - his mind changed completely. He was adamant we should start right away. 9 months later and we got our BFP

 

[millielaura]

We started ttc my daughter when I was 20 and he was 23. She finally came when I was 23 and he was 26 lol. Now we are 24 and 27 and ttc number two. I always always wanted to be a mummy more than anything else and I always thought I would have at least 3 by 25 lol! xx

 

[MoominGirl]

Been with OH 10 years, married for 4. He's 36, I'm 31. After finishing uni, we relocated and finally settled properly about 3.5 years ago when we bought our house. He was never ready before this and circumstances weren't ideal so everything finally felt like it was falling into place. Sadly that was nearly 3 years ago now and we're still here. I've never even come close to being pregnant or even thinking I was other than the times I've let my imagination run riot!!

We've had several obstacles along the way which have now been resolved as much as possible so we're now looking at getting referred back to fertility and will probably end up doing IVF next year. Just hoping for a miracle in the meantime.

I'm starting to think I've just been bringing doom and gloom to these threads lately lol!! I'm not this miserable otherwise honest!!

 

[Surveyor]

Been with OH 10 years, married for 4. He's 36, I'm 31. After finishing uni, we relocated and finally settled properly about 3.5 years ago when we bought our house. He was never ready before this and circumstances weren't ideal so everything finally felt like it was falling into place. Sadly that was nearly 3 years ago now and we're still here. I've never even come close to being pregnant or even thinking I was other than the times I've let my imagination run riot!!

We've had several obstacles along the way which have now been resolved as much as possible so we're now looking at getting referred back to fertility and will probably end up doing IVF next year. Just hoping for a miracle in the meantime.

I'm starting to think I've just been bringing doom and gloom to these threads lately lol!! I'm not this miserable otherwise honest!!

Thank you for sharing your story. It's good to hear about all sorts of experiences not only the ones that are all stardust and sunshine.

 

[Melly41]

Im 42 and been with my DH since we were 17 (married at 26). We had our DS when i was 30 and DD when i turned 32. Now after a 10 year break wanting to ttc #3 at the age of 42.

 

[Jemmlove]

I’m 27, my hubby is 27. We are expats at the moment having left Scotland for Job opportunities at 21 and met each other in another country! We got married Valentine’s Day of this year for visa reasons although we were engaged and had our wedding at home booked for 2019. This time last year I honestly didn’t think I’d ever want children. There’s so much I still want to see and do and experience and with our jobs we don’t know where we will ever settle. Hubby has always wanted children and when I confessed last year I wasn’t so sure he wasn’t that freaked out. Fast forward a year later and after a pregnancy scare, it hit me, a feeling you all know but I can’t describe. When I told him he was excited but hesitant, it’s 18 months untill our wedding , we are in the states but our visas are up in 2 years blah blah, it’s SO the wrong time. But I can’t help how I feel and he’s over the moon anyways.,

 

[Carolhhh]

son is 6 now and I am 40. TTC number 2 and it’s not proving easy

 

[Fastnet1]

OH and I are 38. Ttc no.2 which is taking a little longer this time around. I was 6 months ttc with 1st. Good luck on your journey x