advice on a few things....so long thread...sorry :(

[laura dec 1988]

Hey girls and guys...

Dont get much chance to come on here latley as everything is a bit crazy (thats a diff thread lol). So i needed a bit of advice on things that have been going on, so i just thought id point them and if u have advice on any it wud help loads

So i mentioned, doctor wants me induced in 2 weeks time because of the size of Evie after my growth scans ect ect im now measuring 40 and literally cant move at min. Well went to the midwife tues, and Evies heartbeat was racing, she asked me to wait in the waiting room anouther 10 mins and had her heart checked again, and again it was fast . Mw thinks that she may be gettin a bit stressed out in there and her words were "i would prefer this lil lady to be out dot on 37 weeks" She then gave me an internal as iv had 2 shows now over the last 3 weeks and im havin twinges that last about 20 mins then just stop she her head is in a lovely position
She then went on to say (her own words) "laura im not confident your gunna be able to do this naturally, and i think an eletive c-section is best if im honest im gunna mention it to Dr Simpson to discuss with u next fri
GUTTED!!!

Got hosp on 7th may now to discuss wether i can no it on my own, or i have to have a c-section or what day im gunna be gettin induced.

What u all think on the above first of all??

Next thing lol....This is gunna sound silly, and i feel silly but i keep having nightmares and panic attacks. I was completely ready for having the baby early, even prepared or her been a chubby lil monkey haha but now im stressed. Her heart rate is worryin me as is her size and her general well being, i just want Evie to be happy and not stressed in there, or to be under any strain ya know?? I wake up after a nightmare and then cant breathe and start to panik, my mum had been here the last 4 nights and its happened 3 out of them!! I just feel like i want her out now, just so i can hold her and protect her!!

Any advice would be great ladies, as im going mad and im constantly upset and this is gunna have a effect on Baby Evie and im not been fair but i just cant help it.

xxx

p.s hope ur all well especially the ladies who r due very soon...Ria and racheldee iv missed our chats

 

[mel_ed]

aarrr u poor thing. i know all about panic attacks my OH used to have or 3 a day for months, its bad enough watching it never mind having 1.
did the midwife say why she thinks you cant do it on your own?? i think if u think you can do then you should insist on being induced and c section being a last resort

 

[MrsR]

I agree with above post-did mw explain why she doesn't think you can do it? x I think you should make a list of questions/worries you have and go back to the mw, better prepared and mentally ready rather than having all this dropped on you! x big hugs babe x

 

[Rosie's Mummy]

Good grief, Im pretty shocked by this - I think you should have a word with Merv's Mum for sure xx

 

[fairydust1984]

didn't want to read and run nothing to offer but hope you get some good advice on herex

 

[racheldee]

totally agree with all the above posts!
i'm sure if the midwife has checked her heart and left her with you that she'll be just fine so try not to worry sweets, just get loads of rest and try not to tire yourself out, take it slow
you're always welcome to pm me if you ever want to chat, i'm here to listen
xx

 

[klam]

not wanting to sound as if im interfearing but a c section maybe not 2 bad especially if u are prepared! at least u would know when she was coming and that she would be here quickly and safely. and on the plus side ur mum seems 2 be a great help so maybe she could help after the birth with baby and house if ur sore? whatever u decide the best of luck, it will all be worth it xxx

 

[ria__x]

yep, i certainly agree with above posts and same as rachel! pm me or even get my msn address off my profile if you need to talk, i'm gonna be on most of the night i think anyway i miss our chats too!

but yeah i don't agree with the midwife sounding not so confident in you, she could've at least explained her opinions! just think though if anything was seriously wrong she would've kept you in hospital. you just need to try and keep calm, do as little as possible and make sure you're eating/drinking properly! put your feet up as for now it's all you can do for now. wish i could help more, but wish you all the best hun and if you can update us on here, but remember to keep rested and try not to worry!

btw, i get panic attacks too aqnd what my consellor told me to do is sit down, close your eyes and breathe in for 5 secs, breathe out for 5 secs and try to imagine your feet are rooted in the ground (whilst doing this hold onto seat, bed etc. for comfort) i tried the breathing of it and feeling something comfortable and it usually works for me!!

good luck hunni, we're here for you!!

xxxxxx

 

[Tasha89]

You poor thing. I cant imagine what you're going through.

I would have a word with your doc/mw on 7th May and have a really good talk through your options and what you/they think will be best. Don't let them talk you into anything you're uncomfortable with unless they have bloody good reasons for it!

I agree with the others, make a list of your concerns and questions to take with you so you're prepared for next week. And I also agree that the MW wouldn't have sent you home if the she was in incredible distress - i'd have imagined they'd have you on bed rest and being constantly monitored if Evie was in a bad way.

Best of luck hun - hope everything turns out for the best Xx

 

[katiejane]

Aww honey, you poor thing. Nothing really to add than above, i agree that the MW would have admitted you if she was very concerned about babys heartrate and also don't be pressured into anything, do what your comfortable with. Keep us updated if you can, we are here for you x

 

[titch]

She then went on to say (her own words) "laura im not confident your gunna be able to do this naturally, and i think an eletive c-section is best if im honest im gunna mention it to Dr Simpson to discuss with u next fri

nothing like a positive attitude eh? I dont really see how she can tell from an internal examination whether you'll be able to do it or not. My Mum had 3 planned c-sections because she has small feet she so badly wanted to give birth herself just once but the doctors wouldnt allow it, and i suppose in the 80s youwere expected more to just do as youre told. But what they did allow was to wait for her to go into labour and allow her to dilate some of the way and have contractions. She said she instinctively knew this was the best things for the baby, instead of no contractions and suddenly arriving.

How do you feel about it? I think now that the midwife has said that its gonna be really hard for you to be positive and relaxed, but if I were you Id want to try a natural labour if the baby is not showing too many signs of distress. I think you just need more info than what shes given you.

My favourite quote (cant remember who by..) "whether you think you can or you think you cant, you are nearly always right"

 

[laura dec 1988]

Hey girls, thanks to everyone of u for ur help and advice A lot of you asked why the midwife feels i can not do it alone....i didnt explain properly...sorry lolBasically with out giving you tmi lol i am lets just say very small downstairs, I have bled bad on nearly every internal and always ended up in tears as it hurt so much. It took me a good 3 months to be able to enjoy sex with the oh. When she did the internal on tues i bled again. I know u dilate to 10cm but its just a bit worrying thats all. Been to the docs this morn about panic attacks, he have me a few tips and pointers (similar to Ria's, thanks babe ) i had 2 lastnight it was bloody awful...iv had enough. Doc also sed he wud think it is best to get her out from 37 weeks as heart rate is still fast...im just gunna wait till next fri and talk threw all my concerns and worries....unfortunatly at the min there is a few. thanks again girls xxxxxxx

 

[Sam's Mum]

You poor thing. I hope the advice from the doctor helps with the panic attacks, and your appointment goes well next Friday. If they didn't think she was safe in there they would have kept you in hospital, so don't let it worry you too much (easier said than done, I know). Big s

 

[ria__x]

aw nice to hear from you hun, all i can say is don't worry! but like sams mum said, deffo easier said then done! maybe try to concentrate on other things in the meantime like sorting nursery, through clothes, baby stuff etc. you'll feel better for it afterwards! and when you start over thinking (as i do this often) try sinking yourself into the computer! i usually browse on this or read biographies of people! lol, it helps to stop over thinking though good luck hun xx

 

[MrsR]

Aaaah I see! x As other people have said listen to yourself x I used to have panic attacks and I have to plan everything meticulously before going anywhere/doing anything. Ria's given some wonderful advice and I'm glad you went to doctor too! x Good luck babe x

 

[ria__x]

aw thankyou helen! i try my best to help hehe, again feel better laura! as you know we all here for ya xx