Adopting

[hayes]

Fab news hun, congratulations October isn't very long at all!!!

Michelle.x

 

[skeando]

Wonderful news...... so pleased it's all gone well.

How did you find the process with the assessments and things? It worries me we could apply and then get turned down. I'm not sure I could handle that

 

[Blueflower]

Thanks Jennymarie! What is he like? So exciting!
Skeando, I work in Children's Services alongside Adoption Social Workers and it seems very inclusive, only turning people down if they felt they couldn't care for a child or would harm children. I'm sure all of us would be ideal as we are ready and can't wait to look after our own little one. X

 

[Blueflower]

How's it all going? X

 

[Jennymarie]

Hi Blueflower - it's going really well thanks. He's been living with us for 5 weeks now and he's settled in really well. Just can't imagine life without him. He has such a sense of humour

Whole process took about 9 months so really good! x

 

[Blueflower]

Ah lovely! How old is he? Is he similar to either of you at all?

 

[Jennymarie]

He's 9 months old now. Yes he's just like us! Everyone keeps telling me he has my eyes lol!! He loves his food just like me and seems to already have our sense of humour..!!

 

[Blueflower]

Aww, sounds wonderful, its great you got a baby! Do you have to do sibling contact and letters to the birth parents?
He must have really changed your lives.
I just want a child soon, however it happens.

 

[laurat]

So happy to hear its going well for you! Your are now a mummy to an amazing boy! Congratulations! Have a brilliant Christmas. It willl be so special! ❤️

 

[FBTTN8079]

What an amazing journey and so happy that you have your little boy, what a fantastic Christmas for you all x

 

[Jennymarie]

Thanks all.

Blueflower - yes we have direct contact with his siblings who are adopted elsewhere and letterbox contact with his parents. It's not compulsory but I think it's important for our little boy x

 

[tinselcat]

It's so lovely to hear that you have a wonderful little baby to share Christmas with - hope you have a fantastic first Xmas together!! xx

 

[hayes]

So pleased to read this hun. Hope u have a wonderful first Xmas with ur little boy.

Michelle.x

 

[Blueflower]

Hi! How's it going?

 

[Joolz1975]

Hi lovely to hear from you both!

Greekgirl - they've relaxed a lot of the previous rules they had for adoption. You can also go for adoption if you're unemployed or in rented accomodation as long as you can support a child.

Laurat - they try and get you approved within 6 months now, although this can vary. We started process end of Jan and we're due to go to approval panel in aug or sept. It's taken me a while after my final ICSI to get to this stage but I must admit I wouldn't swap this for the world now. It sounds very strange for me to say but the adoption process is so special I have no regrets about not pursuing further fertility treatment. I have grieved that I'll never experience pregnancy and I will always find that hard but I'm so excited about growing a baby in my heart not my tummy

Your quote about growing a baby in your heart touched me! What a lovely thing to say!!

Best of luck with your little boy it's amazing to think of the great chance in life he now has.

look forward to reading your updates x

 

[Jennymarie]

Hi Blueflower only just seen your message as I haven't logged in for ages! It's all going really well thanks. How's everything with you? Our baby is now 2 years old and we're considering going down the adoption route again very soon..!

Joolz that really sums up how it is! Adoption has been best thing that we've ever done. I'm so lucky I got to be his mummy �� Hope your journey is going well xx

 

[Phoenix85]

That's lovely

Really pleased for you.

I worked with a woman who adopted 8 month old twins around the time I went on Mat Leave to have my first.

If I had the spare room(s) I'd definitely adopt too.

Good luck if you do decide to adopt again x

 

[phonixgirl]

It's so lovely to here that there are other options available for happy endings. I work with a lady who adopted a baby girl after going through 8 rounds of IVF. She then fell pregnant naturally. It's so surreal as you'd think the two girls were biological sisters if you didn't know any different - they even look similar. That little girl was definitely meant to be in their family.

Adoption is not an option for us due to DH having a previous conviction for GBH (old, but I believe it would be automatically exempt). Otherwise, we would definitely consider it and may even double-check that we definitely can't. Xxx

 

[PeanutButter]

Awhh, this is so nice it made me tear up! I'm so happy for you!
I've wanted to adopt since I was young, but I do also want a child myself (if its possible).
If you adopt again, i wish you all the best xx

 

[Mar_15]

Thanks so much for coming back to the thread. It's really picked me up to know that and that it was fairly straightforward for you. I like the idea of adopting but I just worry the process would be too much. Feel so much happier knowing it is a real option. Best of luck to you and your family. x