Actually quite terrified now :S

[LaurenMM]

Bit random and strange but I've just realised I'm going to be a mom in 12.5 weeks :O and I'm scared!!!

I've never even held a baby properly, let alone changed a nappy or fed one. And... I'm embarassed to admit this but when I playing with my OH's cousins baby, he was sat on the living room floor and I was just patting his little back. I didn't even realise he wasnt strong enough to support himself... I looked away for literally 2 seconds and he rolled forward and full on headbutted the floor. He wasn't hurt and OH's cousin found it hilarious, as did everyone else, but I just think its my fault I hurt a little baby even if it was an accident

Just so scared I'm going to be a crap mom I don't have the best relationship with my own mum unfortnately and I feel extremely let down by her and not close with her anymore.... Will I turn out the same? Will I let my daughter down? Don't get me wrong I'm still so so happy and so looking forward to it I'm just scared :S

xx

 

[Lilelephant]

You will be a wonderful mum Hun! I am the same I have ko experience with babies but we all have to start somewhere x

 

[Lilmoomin]

Awww hun, not having a good relationship with your mum, will make you more determined to make sure you have a great relationship with your LO my friend has been to hell & back with her mum & its made her determined that she will not put her kids through that.
As for being a crap mum, trust me hun, once LO is here, natural mummy instincts kick in! Try not to worry, your going to make a great mum x x x

 

[DaisyPurple]

There is a very good book out there called feel the fear and do it anyway, it is a self help book that will help you with realising you can do anything you put your heart in to, you can and will be a wonderful mummy xxx

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[BevG]

it comes naturally, you just have to relax and be gentle. you'll see that you can do it easily once you have the baby in your arms.

 

[nikki87]

Just the fact that you are already worrying about being a crap mum and the fact you were genuienly upset about your Ohs cousins baby bashing his head shows that you will be a great mum! its only natural to worry - i sometimes think il be a rubbish mum! havent been around babies since my brother was born 16 years ago!!
But seriously dont worry - any advise and help you need you will gt from classes at the hospital etc!

youl be fine!! xx

 

[l_maclean]

I know its easier said than done - but try not to worry. We all have to start somewhere - being the oldest of a huge amount of cousing I always though I knew lots about babies - but when my neice arrived I realised just how totally wrong I was.

Nikki's right - the fact that you are upset about that little baby - shows just how much you will care about your own, and if it help you are by far the first person to unitentionally "hurt" a baby (i mean that in a lose sense) - I once dropped my little cousin off a bed, then a couple of years later my mum let his little brother slide off her knee and he bashed his mouth off the coffee table - his mum was really good about it - especially when she saw the teeth marks in the table - we didnt know he had teeth at this point. My point is - everyone makes mistakes - but babys are tough little things.

When bubs arrives you'll know what to do - mothers instinct and all that.

xxx

 

[LaurenMM]

Thanks so much for your advice girls. Just got myself a bit wound up I think lol I already care and love my little baby so much and I only want the best for her. My OH is the same - his Dad is not the best Dad in the world and OH is terrified he's gonna be a bad father. But I can already see he's going to be brilliant but I guess we all this fear when expecting but like most of you have pointed out its instinct and it'll kick in

xx

 

[Jayceesmumma]

Awww hun, not having a good relationship with your mum, will make you more determined to make sure you have a great relationship with your LO my friend has been to hell & back with her mum & its made her determined that she will not put her kids through that.
As for being a crap mum, trust me hun, once LO is here, natural mummy instincts kick in! Try not to worry, your going to make a great mum x x x

Exactly what i was going to say

 

[LaurenMM]

Thanks hun xx