Hello everyone,
I am here again - I have a 9 year old boy and me and my husband have been talking about trying on and off since a year or so before we got married. My son is from a previous relationship but my husband and I have been together for 8 years. When we first met we both said we wanted to have more children. Life obviously happens, we were planning on trying after the wedding but I got a new job a few months before and so it didn't seem like the right time.
I went on the depo injection because of that and when we decided the time was right it took over a year for it to come out of my system, we had one month where we tried and then we booked a cruise and found out we couldn't go on it if I was so far along and that there was a good chance they might not allow an infant on board depending on how many others there were... (when we booked we assumed we may get pregnant but we'd be able to take the baby or I'd just be pregnant) so we put trying on hold for a while.
We then decided we'd wait to try when I'd be okay to travel if I did get pregnant - but my husbands heart clearly wasn't in it, he would always ask about whether I would mind being pregnant on holiday and how I wouldn't be able to drink and what if I felt ill... eventually we talked about it and both decided that actually we enjoyed our life, my son was getting older and his dad has him most weekends and we enjoyed having nice expensive holidays and being able to go out almost whenever we wanted to. At that point we thought maybe we didn't want anymore kids at all. We always said if it happened by accident it wouldn't be the end of the world and that we'd ''deal'' with it and probably be very happy about it, but no more than that.
Over the months running upto Christmas my husband started saying some things which should have made me realise something was going on in his head. He talked a lot more about our friends with children and their children, he quite often added ''but I don't want one'' which I assumed was just because he didn't want me to get the wrong end of the stick. Then over new years he said how if I got pregnant he'd be really happy, we spoke about it and I pointed out that we have booked another cruise and we'd have to cancel that if I did but that if we did want it, we could start trying in April or May time. We started off saying how maybe we'd just stop preventing it come May, however that has very quickly turned into trying in May. I wouldn't be surprised if that is moved forward to April to be honest, but for now we are saying after my April period.
The time just feels right for us now, we've both moved on in our careers and seem to be in a good place, we have got over the whole going out all the time thing and are feeling much more settled at home.
So essay here, but come spring time we are at it once again
I am here again - I have a 9 year old boy and me and my husband have been talking about trying on and off since a year or so before we got married. My son is from a previous relationship but my husband and I have been together for 8 years. When we first met we both said we wanted to have more children. Life obviously happens, we were planning on trying after the wedding but I got a new job a few months before and so it didn't seem like the right time.
I went on the depo injection because of that and when we decided the time was right it took over a year for it to come out of my system, we had one month where we tried and then we booked a cruise and found out we couldn't go on it if I was so far along and that there was a good chance they might not allow an infant on board depending on how many others there were... (when we booked we assumed we may get pregnant but we'd be able to take the baby or I'd just be pregnant) so we put trying on hold for a while.
We then decided we'd wait to try when I'd be okay to travel if I did get pregnant - but my husbands heart clearly wasn't in it, he would always ask about whether I would mind being pregnant on holiday and how I wouldn't be able to drink and what if I felt ill... eventually we talked about it and both decided that actually we enjoyed our life, my son was getting older and his dad has him most weekends and we enjoyed having nice expensive holidays and being able to go out almost whenever we wanted to. At that point we thought maybe we didn't want anymore kids at all. We always said if it happened by accident it wouldn't be the end of the world and that we'd ''deal'' with it and probably be very happy about it, but no more than that.
Over the months running upto Christmas my husband started saying some things which should have made me realise something was going on in his head. He talked a lot more about our friends with children and their children, he quite often added ''but I don't want one'' which I assumed was just because he didn't want me to get the wrong end of the stick. Then over new years he said how if I got pregnant he'd be really happy, we spoke about it and I pointed out that we have booked another cruise and we'd have to cancel that if I did but that if we did want it, we could start trying in April or May time. We started off saying how maybe we'd just stop preventing it come May, however that has very quickly turned into trying in May. I wouldn't be surprised if that is moved forward to April to be honest, but for now we are saying after my April period.
The time just feels right for us now, we've both moved on in our careers and seem to be in a good place, we have got over the whole going out all the time thing and are feeling much more settled at home.
So essay here, but come spring time we are at it once again
we're unsure when to ttc but the earliest would be May. It would be fun to do this journey together
sounds like you’re both in a really good place with ttc. I’m starting June, so slightly after you. Best of luck on your TTC journey but will be nice to hang out in here for a bit 
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Ill be booking them All on soon no doubt.... life is going to start to get very busy! At least itll keep me occupied until I can start trying 
loves mind games, not fair!
