2 in a 2 bed house

[Kaylip29]

Hi all,

So I am currently pregnant with my second child, and my son is nearly 3. We live in a 2 bed house with my husband, and I have recently started panicking as everyone we tell about baby, then asks when we are moving! I guess I'm just after a little reassurance from others who have had a similar experience, as most people seem to look at us like we have gone mad!!

I understand we will likely have to move in a few (maybe 5) years to give then their own space, but I'm now just panicking about them having to share a room! Surely it's quite common??

Xx

 

[GBLiz]

we'll have 3 kids in a 3 bed house so my youngest two will have to share a room. I cant see that we'll be able to move even in 5 years time so they may have to share until my eldest leaves home (she's 10!) my 18 month old is a boy and the baby coming is a girl so not sure how it will work out but....plenty of kids share not everyone has as many bedrooms as children!

 

[PeanutButter]

Me and my bro had to share a room when we were little, around 6/7 we wanted our own space... If you have another boy i think theyd be ok toghtyer until teen years, if its a girl id say less time. X

 

[Shanivy]

I have a 3 bed but if I had a 2 bed I wouldn't be worried. I'm having my 2nd girl and I'd put them in the same room if necessary. My two nephews share their bedroom with no bother in a 2 bed. There's a almost 4 year gap between them. And I know countless families with siblings sharing. some with 4 kids sharing 2 to a room etc, so its definitely common. There's nothing wrong with your plan to put them together.

I'd say if they are both the same gender then theres a chance you wouldn't need to move at all. And if the baby is a girl theres only a 3 ish year gap so plenty of time before you'd need to think about maybe moving. Don't stress yourself about it hun xx

 

[Jamie.d]

we have two in a three bed and third room will be a nursery...we tried them in their own rooms but they didn't sleep well (they're 13 months apart so practically like twins!)

I suppose they do get to an age where they need more space but that's a long way off! and bubba doesn't move out of your room for at least 6 months

 

[SarahTWD]

I'm in a 2 bed and no way am I ever moving again! I've spent a fortune doing this one up. I have an almost 7 year old son and expecting another boy in August so they're just going to share. We've had people asking whether we're going to be moving though. My 2 brothers shared a room until the elder of the two moved out at 20, there was a 4 year age gap between them. Worst case scenario with us is we will save and convert the loft xx

 

[elouise123]

We in a 2 bed and in no position to move and also don’t want to as we love our home at the moment! We’ve had the same thing a few people have asked us if we’ll be moving when we’ve told them we are having another baby! Our daughter is 5 and she will share with the new baby, I used to share with my brother when I was younger so don't see the problem. If we have a boy then we may move in the future but after a few years!

 

[MoominGirl]

I also don't think it's an issue. Plenty of siblings share rooms. As the others have said, it will become an issue sooner if you have a girl but certainly not a problem right away. I think it's just something people say. One of the first pieces of advice I've been given is 'you need a new car'. Yes a bigger car will probably be a good idea but I don't have it up there as priority one haha!!

 

[Kholl]

We are about to have four kids (so 6 people- and a dog!) in a 2 bedroom house. It’s all about having not too much STUFF. The number of people has never been an issue, we don’t feel cramped at all, it’s all about how you arrange the beds and how much stuff you have! We love our cozy house and all 3 kids share a room (their room is all beds haha). We actually have a third bedroom but it’s in the basement and only guests use it, but at least it’ll be an option for an older kid (or 2!) one day.

We get he “you need a bigger house!” thing all the time. I’m like, no we don’t, do you have any freaking clue how most people in the world live?!? Like 8 people in 450 square feet. We are so fortunate it’s absurd.

Congratulations!!!

 

[songbird]

when i was a kid i shared a room with my older sister we lived in a 3 bed house with mum dad me my sister and my little brother we were fine sharing we only got our own rooms when we were 16 and 18 and that was because mum and dad decided to sell the house. I also have a cousin who has 4 kids with her husband in a 2 bed house kids her girls are 16 14 9 and her son is 5. I dont see a problem with siblings sharing at all

 

[CornishGirl]

We’re in a 2 bed with two cats too. Baby 2 will share until we can move and maybe after too if they are happy. I loved sharing with my sister growing up.

 

[KHTW]

Same here. Our 2 girls will share for as long as need be. We may move one day but love where we are right now and see no reason to move. Kids are OK sharing until teen years I think x

 

[BunnyN]

We are expecting our 4th in a two bedroom apartment. We are planning on converting the attic but until now it hasn't been a huge problem. Clutter is definitely the biggest issue. I work hard on not having too much stuff but I am not the best at it .

 

[Kaylip29]

Thank you for all the replies, I'm definitely not concerned if baby turns out to be a boy as I wouldn't be in any rush for 2 boys to have a room each. I just wasn't sure how long is a reasonable amount of time to have a boy and girl share, I figure we have a good 5 or 6 years (my son would be 8) until we would need to consider a move or extension xx

 

[SarahTWD]

Thank you for all the replies, I'm definitely not concerned if baby turns out to be a boy as I wouldn't be in any rush for 2 boys to have a room each. I just wasn't sure how long is a reasonable amount of time to have a boy and girl share, I figure we have a good 5 or 6 years (my son would be 8) until we would need to consider a move or extension xx

I guess it all depends on the size of the bedroom etc. When we moved in here we have our son the largest of the two bedrooms as we knew we wanted him to have a sibling one day. I know there's going to be a 7 year age gap between them that may become a problem when my eldest is in his teens but they're just going to have to deal with it

There is no law regarding sharing room but if you're renting the landlords may have some rules in place.

From the NSPCC website
There is currently no law in the United Kingdom about children of different genders sharing a bedroom. We would not advise that children of the opposite sex over the age of 10 share a room.

 

[BunnyN]

My husband and his brother shared until his brother left home to get married. There is a 6 year age gap between them.

 

[Juice]

We have 2 girls, 2.5 years apart, who share a room perfectly well. We're having a boy this time and I plan on them sharing a room until one of them becomes uncomfortable with it and expresses a wish to have more space/privacy.