10months and so frustrated

[Maximus17]

Hi everyone I have been away from the forums for a while. This is our 10th month and yet another bfn. I am using the fertility monitor and doing everything correctly but it’s not happening and the more time goes by it feels like it’s never going to happen. Just so fed up of TTC sex and opks and everything else sorry just wanted to rant. Anyone else feeling fed up?

 

[Flump1518]

Me! Im at 15 months and ive had 5 urine infections, caused by BDing, in that time too. We are being referred to the fertility clinic. My initial blood tests came back fine. Im soo irregular tho. OH doing semen analysis soon. I know its really difficult but try to stay positive (im trying) as chances are you will get your bfp eventually. The struggle will hopefully just make us appreciate it even more! A girl at my work fell naturally with baby no.1 after trying for 2 years. She then thought she better start trying quickly for baby no.2 and got a bfp first try! She now has 2 under 2.

P.s. im.beyond sick of opks too and if someone forensically examined my bathroom there is prob pee everywhere! ^_^

 

[alwayscoffee]

Hi! I haven't been trying for as long as you, but for me it's already tiring. I'm on my 4th cycle right now and already preparing myself for AF. I told hubby after this month, I'm taking a break for a month or two. I'm already tired of using OPK's and waking up every morning to take my BBT. Sex isn't as fun when you have to plan it either. And the 2ww is the worst!! I hate it, time goes by so slow and that's not the way to live! I know I always spot during my luteal phase and it just gets me down. Then once you see that negative PT, it just seals the deal and you have to start all over again. It's definitely rough.

 

[xMillie]

Hey, I’ve been fed up for the last 5 years! I always knew I wouldn’t catch quickly with hubby as ttc with an ex partner and never got a bfp in 2/3 years. I hate sex so we’ve purchased everything we need for at home artificial insemination for times I don’t want to dtd over ovulation.

Have you ever taken time away from doing opks/fertility monitor? 10months isn’t really that long, though I know it feels like it.. and if you’re doing everything you can anyway then there’s every chance it might happen.

I’m pretty sure in the first year of ttc with hubby I never used any opks and just had fun. Obviously it didn’t work for us but for some people they catch when they actually switch off from ttc and just enjoy dtd whenever.

Hopefully you get your bfp soon xx

 

[Donna88]

Sorry you are feeling like this, I can't relate completely as only in month two of TTC - but we were going to try a few years back and coming off the depo injection took me over a year and that was awful (I felt like we were TTC but not because I didn't know when or if I was ovulating) Try and not let it stress you out too much, 10 months is completely normal as horrible as it is when you're going through it.

 

[Maximus17]

Hi all thank you so much for your responses and sharing your stories. I also hate TTC sex and I get urine infections every other month. It’s also true 10 isn’t too long but I am nearly 40 and I really wanted have a baby by than obviously it didn’t happen so maybe by the time I am 41 it will happen. But I don’t think I would want to wait till 42. It just than I want to do other things as well in my life. It’s sooo strange how I don’t meet many people in real life with TTC troubles as I don’t think anyone wants to share it. I also haven’t told anyone apart from my mum. Telling her felt good and felt a relief afterwards. And she hasn’t been asking me questions about it which is great. I also get so moody during the 2 week wait. I get this anger inside me than also not enjoying life as much as I should. I tried booking a holiday, reading books, working nothing really takes away the frustration.