WolfMamma
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Morning all!
Some background on me.
I have a 6 year old from a previous relationship. Hers was a terrible pregnancy and a traumatic birth. I always swore I'd never do it all again! (Her birth story is around here somewhere under another name.) I had SPD from 18 weeks and was on crutches until her birth, she was sunny side up and I was induced. Plus tearing and forceps, it wasn't fun......
I'm just about to marry my fiance of 2 and a bit years and although we have discussed kids, he's always been a bit evasive. The other day I cornered him as my coil runs out in January and I wanted to know whether to replace or remove it. He's told me to get it removed on previous occasions but I've never felt that he meant it seriously so didn't do it.
I was blunt with him this time and told him that I didn't want him to hit 60 one day and look back on his life and regret not having kids. I said that I wasn't chomping at the bit to have another one due to how badly the first affected me but that I'd do it for him if he wanted me to. After thinking about it he decided that I had a good point and we decided to start trying in January so that the wedding and honeymoon is done with.
I'm both exited and terrified..... I don't know how to put myself through that all again 0_o I'm hoping to find a pregnancy buddy when I fall because I know he'll struggle to understand pregnancy. He's not the best with emotions and empathy!
We've already mutually agreed that he won't be at the birth as he just couldn't cope with it (seeing me in pain gives him anxiety) so I've told my best friend and she's happily agreed to be my birth partner. I can't think of anyone better 😊
So that's me! Here begineth the journey!!
Some background on me.
I have a 6 year old from a previous relationship. Hers was a terrible pregnancy and a traumatic birth. I always swore I'd never do it all again! (Her birth story is around here somewhere under another name.) I had SPD from 18 weeks and was on crutches until her birth, she was sunny side up and I was induced. Plus tearing and forceps, it wasn't fun......
I'm just about to marry my fiance of 2 and a bit years and although we have discussed kids, he's always been a bit evasive. The other day I cornered him as my coil runs out in January and I wanted to know whether to replace or remove it. He's told me to get it removed on previous occasions but I've never felt that he meant it seriously so didn't do it.
I was blunt with him this time and told him that I didn't want him to hit 60 one day and look back on his life and regret not having kids. I said that I wasn't chomping at the bit to have another one due to how badly the first affected me but that I'd do it for him if he wanted me to. After thinking about it he decided that I had a good point and we decided to start trying in January so that the wedding and honeymoon is done with.
I'm both exited and terrified..... I don't know how to put myself through that all again 0_o I'm hoping to find a pregnancy buddy when I fall because I know he'll struggle to understand pregnancy. He's not the best with emotions and empathy!
We've already mutually agreed that he won't be at the birth as he just couldn't cope with it (seeing me in pain gives him anxiety) so I've told my best friend and she's happily agreed to be my birth partner. I can't think of anyone better 😊
So that's me! Here begineth the journey!!
