Wonderful Childhood - Want to give my children the same!

[Julia]

Hi All,

I had a wonderful childhood: I was adopted when I was a tiny baby and my parents (adoptive) gave me all the love, attention and care that I needed throughout childhood. I am still very very close to them now - they mean the world to me. I suppose I have been spoilt but I don't mean like a horrible spoilt brat....

I really want to give the same to my kids but I just feel that I am too impatient with my three year old daughter. I feel so guilty because I never seem to play with her, I also complain about her making a mess in the house! My mother had plenty of time for me and always played with me. She also gave me plenty of fresh air with lovely long walks and day trips to the beach. I want to be able to give my kids the same but just feel that the pace of life is too fast.

Both me and DH work full time (although I am on maternity at the moment) and have stressful jobs (which does not help). We like going out at the weekends for the evening (either apart or together). I just feel that we are soooo selfish that sometimes we don't deserve our lovely children!

What I would give to bring up my children the way I was brought up OR to be a child myself again!! Then again, actions speak louder than words so I should really make that extra effort to make time for my little girl (my son is 11 weeks so does not play yet!).

I really want to enjoy my children's childhoods because they go soooo fast!!

Rant over,

Julia xx

 

[nori]

Hiya hun, it sounds like you are being really hard on yourself. I know from speaking to you previously that its been bloody hard work having two little ones. Could it be this that is making you a little impatient with your 3 year old? Do you really enjoy your job if its really stressful? Have you thought about cutting back hours maybe?

I cant tell you what to do but i hope you feel better soon. You know where i am if you need a chat,

Claire x

 

[Julia]

Thanks, Claire....

We have had a family day out today at a local farm. Feel a little less guilty today as I have not lost my patience with my little girl - she is sooooo good.

I am not actually working at the moment - but still get frustrated! I adore my job but I am going to work 4 days a week instead of 5. I think the difference is is that my mum did not work when she had me, and I was also the only child so i was a bit easier.

Decided to really make an effort now. Include my little girl in tasks that I do for the baby, etc etc etc

Thanks for your support - you are a lovely girl!!

Julia xxx

 

[nori]

Glad you had a nice day out. I think everyone loses their patience now and then. My mum was a stay at home mum and i feel guilty about going back 2 and a half days a week (wouldnt be able to break even with the bills if i didnt). Ive only been a mum for 12 weeks and im already realising that feelling guilty about lots of little things seems to be the norm!

 

[lauramumof2]

Hi All,

I had a wonderful childhood: I was adopted when I was a tiny baby and my parents (adoptive) gave me all the love, attention and care that I needed throughout childhood. I am still very very close to them now - they mean the world to me. I suppose I have been spoilt but I don't mean like a horrible spoilt brat....

I really want to give the same to my kids but I just feel that I am too impatient with my three year old daughter. I feel so guilty because I never seem to play with her, I also complain about her making a mess in the house! My mother had plenty of time for me and always played with me. She also gave me plenty of fresh air with lovely long walks and day trips to the beach. I want to be able to give my kids the same but just feel that the pace of life is too fast.

Both me and DH work full time (although I am on maternity at the moment) and have stressful jobs (which does not help). We like going out at the weekends for the evening (either apart or together). I just feel that we are soooo selfish that sometimes we don't deserve our lovely children!

What I would give to bring up my children the way I was brought up OR to be a child myself again!! Then again, actions speak louder than words so I should really make that extra effort to make time for my little girl (my son is 11 weeks so does not play yet!).

I really want to enjoy my children's childhoods because they go soooo fast!!

Rant over,

Julia xx

Snap! I could have written that post.
It gets me down sometimes.

 

[Julia]

Think the guilt trip lasts forever!! Thanks for the facebook acceptance! I was friends with you before so don't know what happened there?? Fab pics of your little one! Would be nice to stay in touch as they grow up!