Who persuaded who?

[Dotty_woman]

So everyone, when it came to starting a family or adding to it, who persuaded who in your relationships or was it a mutual thing? For all my babies, I've had to convince the hubby, especially Violet. However I'm sure there are couples where the man has been the instigator. I know I'm old now and would really like another baby so Vi has someone to grow up with when my boys have flown the nest (Morgan is 14 & Lewis is 17) but OH sounds like he isn't for swaying this time. Any hints and suggestions would be most welcome. xxx

 

[Cupcake85]

My husband was the one who put the idea into my head.... Both times!

 

[TaffyRose1]

Our son was a mutual decision, our daughter was a happy surprise xxx

 

[fcroxy]

Same as above. It was my OH who initially suggested it. X

 

[Pumpkin9]

I brought it up with hubby but we agreed. This time with ttc he's told me I can do what I want as it's my body lol,

With my inlaws it was fil who decided it was time they started a family

 

[Dotty_woman]

Interesting! Thanks for sharing ladies! x

 

[Natalilly1288]

I got pregnant by accident it turned into a happy suprise but I mc. We both decided to try again so s mutual decision think the next one will be me lol xxx

 

[hayes]

As soon as it was serious between me n hubby we had a chat n both wanted kids but marriage first. He proposed nit long after n we got married 6 months later n started ttc straight away. Unfortunately as most of u know took us two yrs n a lot of heartache to get that bfp, so wen Harry was born we both discussed trying again straight away so that we had the best chance of having another. Luckily fir us month two was a success. I think if we had the money n space we wud think about a third but it isn't poss so two will do us.

Michelle.x

 

[littlemonkey]

We'd both discussed having kids and had agreed to wait until we were both in our 30s. I actually convinced OH to start trying about 9 months sooner. It was just a good time with what was happening in life and I thought if we're going to try soon anyway why not now. As it happens it took us nine months to conceive and we got the bfp on OHs 30th birthday weekend!

We're both from big families and always knew we wanted more than one. We had initially thought about a small age gap, but after our eldest was born it was a lot tougher than both of us expected and there was a time both of us said never again! Once LO was a year things started getting easier and I thought about having another. Mil was seriously ill around the same time and we both kind of thought life's too short to put things on hold. We did pause for a few months after things got a bit stressful and started trying again when we were on holiday in August. I think with the second I was more of the instigator but it was something OH had thoughts about anyway. But I really believe nearly losing his mum is what made up OH's mind and influenced me too.

 

[flisstebbs]

I've been quite keen on the idea of adoption especially for #2 given the number of losses we had and the amount of meds it took to get lovely Jess. Hubby has had to talk me into trying for our own again as he just can't get his head round adopting.
Good luck dotty

 

[StaceyRainbow]

It was a mutual thing with us my OH is 39 and already has a 19yo and an 8yo and now stanley who's 9mo, he said it's up to me how many we have he's pretty laid back about it I'm 26 and deffo want more.

 

[LD1978]

I've always wanted kids more - hubby is happy either way. Initially in the early days he said never again ha!! He's slowly come round and decided we will see what happens. He still says he's happy if we only have one and happy if we have 2.

Have you had anymore conversations about it? How are you feeling xx

 

[Maid of Kent]

I'm trying to convince my partner....no luck yet

 

[Baby2sky]

Our first was a mutual decision. Second was a surprise, but I had been trying to convince hubby.

 

[Mrbump83]

My OH was massively the instigater.
I didn't want children ( or never thought about it) until I met him even though I'd been in a very serious relationship before.

He wants 6 lol
We are currently pregnant with our 2nd x

 

[Lyllian]

Me for our current 11 week old, he's dropping hints about a second, I'm not convinced, depends what day you as me but he's adamant he wants another,he's besotted and dint have to go through the pain lol

 

[Dotty_woman]

Seems like there are more blokes pushing for kids than I thought! Shame mine's not one of them! xxx

 

[H16]

Our daughter was a surprise but we agreed after she arrived that we would not actively try but if it happens it happens and lo and behold baby number 2 is on the way x

 

[Mum2Many]

It was mutual with our first 7 children. I really had to convince DH to try for #8 though, and even then I think he only agreed because we both thought I was unable to have more children!

As for anymore in the future, the jury is out. Some days we both say yes, others he says no or I say no. LOL We're waiting until we can come to a joint and sustained decision on yes or no!

 

[Lilmisshopeful]

Me lol all the way. After so many losses and nearly dying twice I still badgered him into agreeing to another lol xxx