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the hope.of having another baby or your relationship or...? I'm.so sorry it's horrible to hear you hurting so much xx
Dotty_woman
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Oh no! Not my relationship. We'll have been married 24 years this year and I'm not going to break up over this. Should have thought that could be misinterpreted. We had a big talk last night and it sounds like there's no way. He says we're lucky that our little girl was ok and he loves her to bits but he wants us to enjoy her. My mum had Violet 2 days a week and he says whilst she loves having her, she is getting older and looking after 2 would be a big ask. And then there's the stress of the pregnancy. I managed to get extra scans last time round although Ifound that reassuring rather than worrying. Violet was breach and wouldn't turn so I had to have a c-section. Then there's the what if it was twins or was disabled in some way. He grew up with a sister with learning difficulties so has first hand experience of a mild disability. I feel like I've been selfish wanting another as he had made some very salient points but it doesn't stop me hurting inside. In my defence I did explain how I felt too and that Vi would be missing out on a companion growing up as well as me being ridiculously broody. My argument seems rather shallow now. I'm not fishing for sympathy and will be taking time off from PF to avoid baby talk and try to enjoy what I do have. Thanks for all your support. It's been very helpful.
Janet x
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Aw Janet not selfish at all you can't help how you feel it's natural and cause you love your kids so much. Never think you are seselfish for feeling this way. Such a shame your taking time off Pf, you're always so lovely it'll be a little sad not seeing you around but I understand why you are taking a break. Hope to see you back soon,enjoy your time with your lovely little family xx
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That's too kind Lyllian. I've decided it might have been a bit rash to ditch PF. It's the only place I can talk to people with kids apart from a few Facebook friends. Plus, I might be able to help someone which always makes it worthwhile. Need to feel useful at the moment. Will be taking a bit of a back seat though. xxx
