Who is going to support you in labour? Husband? Friend?

[sunflower33]

I'm due in a couple months...

I Wondered who people plan to have in the delivery room with them?

My husband wants to be there, but I wondered whether to have my sister too. She's awesome - kind, positive, and I'm sure she'll do all the right things. I almost wonder if she'll be more helpful than he would...!!

Is having two people in the delivery room too much?

Grateful for any opinions x

 

[JulyBug]

I'm planning on having just my OH, I want it to be just us two when LO arrives.

Although I have my concerns! My OH does not handle blood very well, or anything remotely 'gory' so I'm just really hoping he doesn't pass out!! lol!

xx

 

[SalisburyMum]

I'm having baby at home. To be honest I'm thinking it might just be me and husband for a bit, then midwives will come and see us and I'll have them around as well.

 

[SalisburyMum]

For first child I wouldn't do it without a woman who had had a baby and you knew really well. My mum was my absolute rock with my first child.

Liam was really busy experiencing watching his child be born, he wasn't really supporting me so much as having his own experience.

I would definitely have your mum/sister if your sister has given birth. You need someone who can look you in the eye and you know that they know what you're going through. It's empowering

This is our fourth, so we know what we are doing now and it's really not too much of a major thing anymore!!

 

[Aurora_J]

I had hubby and my sister in law with me. Don't think hubby would have coped with supporting me on his own. Well he actually left the room for awhile as he said he hated seeing me in pain..

Definatly worth having someone else with you.

 

[Eryinera]

Both my labour's have been a two man job. It's nice for the birth partners to be able to take shifts. Kreps their energy up and thus they can support you more. I had my husband and mum at both. I don't think we could of coped with just 1 birth partner hubby was giving me my on demand trigger drug and water. Mum was giving me gas and air and sometimes decisions have to be made on your behalf sof it's good if the birth partner has someone to bounce ideas of.

 

[redbear]

I had my last labour with just my husband and it was perfect. Really intimate and special xx

 

[snowbee]

I just had my husband (and 3-4 midwives!). Personally I can't think of anything worse than having anyone else there, even though I get on well with my mum and sister I just wouldn't want them there.

I was worried that my husband would be stressed as he is a panicer but he was so good with it all and I'm glad it was just the two of us.

 

[SoGentleNWild]

My sister would pass out, so she stays at our place and watches the kids and pets. Plus, I've had two very boring labors, so no need for more people.

 

[Kitana]

My boyfriend will be with me during the whole affair! We're taking breathing/birthing classes together. It's​ comforting to know that when the time comes, he'll know what to do instead of just standing there clueless and helpless. It's helping with the bonding too, he's getting more involved.
Good luck!xx

 

[lisey]

My mum was at my first birth with OH of that time. I was only 18 though so wanted my Mum with me.
This time I wanted just me and my OH as I wanted it to be our moment.
It's a very personal thing though and whatever you feel comfortable with x