When did you first leave them alone . . . . . .

[MagicMarkers]

..........because i dont want to but everyone assuming il be quite happy to toddle off and leave Flo behind !

so far OH;s friends came round and theyre having a halloween party, dinner about 6ish n then party partyy from about 9, we said we'd pop round with Flo early on and then i said id bring her back, then i heard Oh say to them yeah me n Em will stay il get my mum to take her home...... no you bloody wont !

And then his mum keeps saying, if ever you need to pop to the shops for anything il look after her, its a lovely offer but i wish she'd offer to go to the shops for me instead !
Iv sort of hinted, " itd really be helping me out if you could grab this or that on the way here instead, i really dont feel comfortable leaving her yet etc" but she says i need the fresh air

Shes only a week old today i dont want the fresh air without her! Weve been to the park, town, supermarket and every relatives house i can think of this week, thats alot of air for a me let alone a Newbie !

I just think that if this is what theyre like after a week i need to sort it out now, i dont want to feel pressured to leave my newborn on her own !!

 

[LisaJ1986]

Angel was about 4 months when i first left her with my sister, and that was for about 20 mins! Some friends of ours nipped to the shop for us 5 weeks ago and took her in the pram. I was going insane with worry!
I certainly couldn't do it early on. I hated leaving her in her cot while i had a shower until she was 3 months. Coz i couldn't hear if she cried.

 

[mamichuli]

Hunny, she is your baby. Dont let pple pressure you into anything you dont want to do. I didnt leave Ani until she was quite a bit older, and even now I have never left her at anyones overnight (not even my mum). You will know when it is right for you to leave her.

By the way, yr ticker says she is one year and one week old - bit confusing!


Lisa

 

[charlie84]

She is your baby hun so you decide when you want to leave her with anyone. Dont feel pressured by anyone.
Just tell OHs mum that although her offer to look after LO is ever so nice you dont want to at the moment but if she would like to help then it would be really appreciated if she wouldnt mind popping to the shops to get you some things then hand her a list of items

I have yet to leave Calleigh with anyone for longer than an hour and then it was only when i popped to the shop or to wash the car. And i have only left her with OH and my mum for those times. Missed her like crazy and couldnt wait to get back to her.

I never was away from her in the early weeks i just couldnt do it plus she fed all the time so it wouldnt have been possible for me to leave her. I think the furthest i even ventured out in the early days with baby was to the shop down the road.

 

[Sylvie]

I understand very well how you feel. Louis is more than 5 months old now and I still haven't left him with anyone else than my OH. We're taking him everywhere with us and don't really feel confident leaving him
I'm sure that if my mum was living nearby and not in the south of France things might be a bit different... but I don't think I could leave him overnight though.

 

[MagicMarkers]

When i go to the lilypie ticker page tingy they dont give you a year of birth option, anyone have any ideas how to make Florence a week old ??

 

[charlie84]

When i go to the lilypie ticker page tingy they dont give you a year of birth option, anyone have any ideas how to make Florence a week old ??

When you design your ticker take a look at the left hand side of the page and select 1st birthday.
Think that should work

 

[MagicMarkers]

Thank youuu and Dur !

 

[Squiggle]

The only time I have left my little one for a couple of hours was a few weeks ago when I had to go for a job interview. I hated leaving her so much. We go everywhere together

I can't imagine leaving her when I have to return to work. It breaks my heart just thinking about it

 

[Redshoes]

I left Isaac with his Grandma in April this year, and that was only because OH and I wanted to go to Ophelia's 12wk scan, also because Isaac needed to learn that he could be left, though it was horrible to leave him and I still don't like doing it today but it doesn't matter either way in respect of your situation, do whatever YOU feel comfortable with, your friends/family may often have differing opinion and ideas to you but its your baby so tell them thankyou but you know best. Very best wishes

 

[maybebaby]

We left him with my mum when he was about 3 months to go to the cinema. I checked my phone every 10 mins and literally RAN out of the cinema as soon as the film finished. I hated it. After that the only time I left him was when I had to go back to work 2 days a week & had no choice. Even now I hate leaving him anywhere for 'fun' - in my head I can justify it for work but not for me to go out!

Noone should assume you want to leave your baby, just make it clear it's thanks but no thanks everytime anyone offers and they'll get the message soon hopefully! Make sure your OH understands so that he doesn't try to arrange a babysitter behind your back as a 'treat'!

 

[Sherlock]

I only left Galen with my hubby for the first 8 weeks or so. And then only for an hour tops. We had our first evening out to the cinema when he was about 12 weeks old. And as maybebaby did, I zoomed out of the cinema and had OH calling home to check with my mother that all was well. I just wanted to get home as quickly as possible.

I'd be polite but firm and say once and for all you are not anywhere near comfortable to leave LO with someone else just yet, even if MIL. And that when you are ready you'll let them know. Until then if they want to help you out they can go do the shopping and let you rest up, bond with your baby and recover from having given birth.

Fresh air is good for you yes, but you also need lots of rest and so going to the shops isn't going to help right now. Have MIL do that for you. Shove the shopping list in her hand and tell her thats what you need. She'll have plently of time later on to babysit. If you need fresh air take LO out for a walk for 20 minutes. MIL can come with you if need be but you stick to what you feel you want to do, don't let someone else push you into things if you are not ready for it.

 

[Redshoes]

Booby feeding is a good way to avoid offers too, as you need to be with baby as they feed on demand

 

[Mildly]

I first left Oscar in hospital when the midwives took him for a couple of hours so I could get some sleep. Since then I have only left him with OH and for 20 minutes at the most whilst I've gone to the shops.

I'm quite looking forward to having our first night out alone (leaving him with OH's sister). I think my OH will find it more difficult than me.

Gah, now I feel like a bad Mum for not worrying about leaving him

 

[Sherlock]

I'm quite looking forward to having our first night out alone (leaving him with OH's sister). I think my OH will find it more difficult than me.

Gah, now I feel like a bad Mum for not worrying about leaving him

Oddly I wasn't overly worried when I left Galen for the first time for an evening out. At least not before hand. Once we were gone all I wanted to do was get back to him and see his little face.

You may feel differently when it actually happens. You might not

 

[Red_Fairy]

i went to glastonbury when Hannah was 6 weeks old. Missed her like mad, but knew she was in the best care (mother in law) I didnt leave her again till she was about 5-6 months i think - and even then it was only over night.

I left Emily at 3 months for the first time, again to go to glastonbury I was fine, she was fine, and at the time it was good for me to get that little tiny brake, one weekend a year, to be me! lol.

At the end of the day, i dont have MIL/babysitters/sisters/aunties ect at hand to help me out (mil lives 300 miles away!) so when she/they do does have them, they have them for a few days at a time, a couple of times a year. Its whatever your comfortable with hun

 

[trixipaws]

gosh, when millie was a newborn i felt anxious about not being in the same ROOM! lol it was months before i left her- and even then it was only for 20 minutes to pop to the shops. i had no choice i suppose, she wouldnt take a bottle so i had to be with her in case she got hungry. not that i minded!

the first time i had a nite out and left her for a long amount (24 hours) she was 6 months old.

 

[MagicMarkers]

After explaining to everyone that i didnt want to leave her, Ohs just come back from work saying that were going out for dinner with his friends thursday and his mums coming round to look after her............ no shes fucking not !!!!!

 

[Redshoes]

Just tell him you aren't comfortable with that, he should listen to your wishes even if he doesn't understand I think Mummy's will but sometimes Daddy's really don't, I do hope you can find an agreement, always do what you're comfortable with otherwise you'll just feel doubly bad and that's not good, very best wishes

 

[Mrs_Jay]

Jack was 5 months and that was only coz i had to go back to work