Whats your story?

[Suzie77]

Hi Everyone

I'm new here and finally I've got to the point now where I really need some support...

Me and my partner have been ttc for nearly 3 years (I'm 30 he's 31). At first we thought we wouldn't 'try' to conceive, we'd just stop using protection and see what happened. After about 6 months we were a little worried but thought it was because I'd come off the pill and my body was just getting back to normal. About 6 months ago I finally plucked up the courage to go to the doctors and they done a blood test and said I was ovulating (my cycle is between 28 and 31 days). The next step is that my partner has just done 3 sperm samples. He phones up the doctor to get the results tomorrow and I'm so nervous about the results.

I don't have anyone I can talk to about this. I feel a bit better even just having written this down. I feel like I'm the only one in this situation as everyone around me gets pregnant within 6 months and even on the forums I've looked at I don't see many that have been trying 3 years.

Anyway, I've gone on enough. Thanks for listening x

 

[chellieboo]

Goodluck to you all, and huge its not easy but hopefully we'll all get there in the end

 

[Bexter]

Hi everyone,

well i started using this forum nearly 2 years ago but haven't been on much in the last year.. so this is my story:

I'm now 26, my DH is 27. I came off the pill in September 2006 and we got pregnant in Jan 2007, unfortunately we had a miscarriage at 13 weeks in April.
We have been trying since then (so 17 months now) but still no joy. Everyone month i hope, and every month i get disappointed .
I'm now wondering if it's time to pay a visit do my Doctor so see if everything is ok?

Anyway, thanks for listening. xx

 

[Waiting4amiracle]

Hi Everyone great idie to start this thread
Well here goes i am a missed miscarraige patient and had 8 losses 8 beautiful angels in heaven i recently lost twins in march just gone .. Me and Dh was ttc for 2yrs and nothing was happing ....

i had a lap and dye and tested to see if i ovulated and all come back normal
It was time to then test Dh dh's sample come back his swimmers could get me pg but could take a fair bit of time to get me pg and the doctor felt a little bit of help would be needed So i had IUI x2 which failed we then carried on trying by ourselfs and nothing happend so we was put forward for icsi we was told we would have to wait 2 yrs on waiting list and got a letter through 2 wks after saying we had been put to the top of list due to funds being given to the hopsital ..

We went for the meeting then was told to phone when i was on day 2 of mthly cycle 5 days passed still no af thats weird so i did a test i had from a while back and it come up bfp i went out to chemist and got a clear blue digital that come up pregnant we could not belive it the only different thing i done that mth was had sex onec and took asprin for 4 weeks and drunk nothing but volvic water
I went for 6 week scan and told we was having twins sadley baby B stop growing at 6wks 6 days but baby A was on board with strong H/B ...

8 wk scan baby A still on board with stong H/B i wa so happy thought this was our time no more losses .. 10 wk scan No H/B baby died at 8wks 1 day either that night of being told baby was fine or following day ...

My 1st pregnancy baby died at 10wks and the rest of my babies died at 8wks and
twin B was 6wks 6 days .. My local hospital could not find any reason to why this happens and told me there is nothing more he can do for me after being under him as a missed miscarraige uterine death patient ..

I told him i was going to have a second opinon at st marys hospital he said what can they do that he cant nothing ...

I went down to st marys in september had bloods takin and went back on the 4th november for the results .. After being told nothing is wrong with me for 12 yrs i just found out i have 2 blood clotting disorders 1 called lupas and she is going to start me on some treatment when i am next pg and hopefully fingers crossed and say my prayers that this will work and no more losses ...

I had ICSI in june and it failed sadley i only collected 3 eggs 2 fertilised and was put back in but never implanted and i bled before test day ..

I start ICSI again on monday 10th november and hope for a bfp this time round
and to be put on stronger drugs for more eggs to be collected ..

Looks like if all goes well with the treatment and i respond well .. then i will test
on boxing day .. what a lovely xmas present that would be

Look foward to getting to know you all .. i wish you all the best and have my fingers crossed for bfps for you all karen xx

 

[susan_1981]

Me and my husband got married in June 2007 and waited until August 2008 to start trying for a baby. I came off the pill then, didn't try very hard that month as we were on holiday and I didn't think it would be ideal to get pregnant anyway as we would be drinking and smoking a lot over the 2 weeks. I got my BFP on 23 October so we weren't trying for very long. Was obviously over the moon. I had some slight spotting around that day as well which I think may have been implantation (at that point I was only about 3.5 weeks pregnant). Anyway, had no problems after that, or so I thought.

Went for my 12 week scan on 23 December, thinking what an excellent date as I could show my scan picture to all our family and friends on xmas day, but it wasn't to be. I found out that I had had a missed miscarriage at 7 weeks 2 days. Me and my husband were absolutely devastated. I had no sign or warning that I could have miscarried. I didn't have any bleeding or pain, my boobs still hurt (although for about 2 weeks before my scan, this had eased off a lot) and still had morning sickness (but again this had eased off but I thought that was because i was 12 weeks and coming out of that phase).

So I'm booked in tomorrow for an ERPC which I'm not looking forward to, but then again, I'm looking forward to getting it over with and starting again.

With this pregnancy, I never actually felt any connection with it. I didn't feel pregnant at all apart from the sore boobs and feeling slightly sick every now again. At one point, I did wonder if I had some kind of pre-natal depression but I know it wasn't that. I can't help but wonder if I felt no connection because subconsciously I knew something wasn't right. And the other thing was that I couldn't imagine giving birth to this baby and holding it in my arms. I just couldn't see it happening. Maybe that's just shock and paranoia with your first pregnancy. I don't know.

Me and my husband plan to start trying again as soon as the bleeding stops after ERPC so fingers crossed we get a sticky bean. I'm so paranoid it will happen again but the doctor assured me that miscarriage is unfortunately quite common and there is no reason to think it will happen again. So I have my fingers crossed.

 

[deb1190]

Hello Everyone,
I am new on here. Me and DH have been TTC for just over 2 years now . I have had all my blood tests done and apparently I have no probs, unfortunatly after several tests it turns out DH has abnormal sperm morpholgy (apparently 96% are headless!!). We have recently been to see a specialist who informed us that we will need IVF with ICSI. He then as an afterthought asked what my DH's body mass index is. Apparently they have changed the rules last month and now DH's BMI is taken into account! It is higher than thy want and DH will have great trouble losing loads of weight quickly (he has arthritis in he's knees so can't exercise). If we had started trying 1 month earlier we would have been on the IVF waiting list by now . Sooo frustrating.

Anyway plans are to:
1. appeal to the primary health trust or.....
2. have IVF privately on the egg sahring program (if my eggs are ok) or......
3. normal private IVF X???

And in the mean time we are both on serious diets (me to encourage DH, but I could do with losing a stone). Although DH weighed himself this morning and he has already lost 4 pounds in just under a week.

I have decided to join this forum as can't talk to anyone about this. The minimum of people know that we are even TTC. I am 29 so I can still convince people that I am not ready for children . Although DH and I do talk, it is hard as he thinks it is all he's fault. It is hard enough for a man to find that he can't get his wife PG without finding out that he is too heavy to do anything about it!!!

It would be good to talk to someone else with similar probs.

Deb1190