What age do you think your baby should be in their own room?

[Minxy]

Just curious, those of you who have your babies in your room for a few months or more, do you have to move their cot into your room? I wouldnt have room to move if their was a cot in my bedroom as well as my bed and bedroom furniture, or do you move into their room with them?

We've moved our wardrobe out to fit the cot in! I drive OH mental staring at the baby monitor when it's downstairs as it is, don't think I'd get a winks sleep if we had it set up at night. This way, i just lean over in the night to check on him! (baby, not OH )

 

[mum2be?]

Hello

my MIL still has your youngest daughter her her room today and she is 10, going to senior school September, She has tried everything to get her out but as she allowed her in her room at young age she does not want to be alone at night now

 

[Ebony_Mommy]

I'm a believer in having babies in your room until they are 6 months old at least.
It's supposed to reduce the risk of SIDS.

Lydia is 15 months and still in our room - we don't have anywhere to put her at the moment. We will be moving house *fingers crossed* soon, so she will get her own room then.

The next baby will be with us until at least 6 months, but longer if necessary.

agree wholeheartedly

 

[Icecream]

Just curious, those of you who have your babies in your room for a few months or more, do you have to move their cot into your room? I wouldnt have room to move if their was a cot in my bedroom as well as my bed and bedroom furniture, or do you move into their room with them?

We've moved our wardrobe out to fit the cot in! I drive OH mental staring at the baby monitor when it's downstairs as it is, don't think I'd get a winks sleep if we had it set up at night. This way, i just lean over in the night to check on him! (baby, not OH )

I could try to make room, but there is a lot of big furniture in our room and the rest of the house is full of stuff, so it would be a big job (that OH wouldn't do). PLus I know OH would use it as an excuse to say the baby has somewhere to sleep and there is no need to do the nursery. I don't want to sleep with my children forever!

No I think it is best to move baby when it outgrows its swinging crib, but when would that be?

 

[minikins]

They recommended 6 months to us when Dom was born 17 months ago, but we lasted 5 before I wanted my bedroom to be mine again and have some bedroom action without being paranoid - LOL

 

[kelly'n'jack]

jacks been in his own room for 3 nights now and last nite he slept through! i actually hear him more on the monitor than i did when he was in my room cos it makes him louder! can hear every breath!

 

[budge]

With Ryan, he wasn't in his own room until he was in a bed at 22 months but I was on my own with him, I think I'd have been different if I hadn't been.

The social worker told me that the recommendation is that they are in your room for at least the first year.

I think I'd agree although I don't know the reason, I would because of the risk of cot death and would feel safer. I don't want to keep Jade in with me though until she's in a bed as I think I did that wrong with Ryan, it was really hard for both of us. This time around I plan in Jade having the cot in her room for a few months so she gets used to sleeping in their before she's in a bed.

what the fook does a social worker know.
shove them in their own room when you feel its right. then it can't be wrong.

 

[Icecream]

You are right Budge. Social workers know absolutely nothing. They are amongst the worst people on the planet.

 

[jennywren]

How can weather a baby sleeps in your room or in their own room next door decrease or increase the risk of cot death?

 

[SarahH]

We put Arianna in her own room from 6wks. We always put her down in her cot for her naps through the day since she was born so that she'd be used to it for when it came to sleeping there at nights.

Now when we take her through to her room at night for bed and you say "who's cute little room is this?" She puts the biggest smile on her face!!

S. xx

 

[budge]

We put Arianna in her own room from 6wks. We always put her down in her cot for her naps through the day since she was born so that she'd be used to it for when it came to sleeping there at nights.

Now when we take her through to her room at night for bed and you say "who's cute little room is this?" She puts the biggest smile on her face!!

S. xx

aww god love her

 

[Alfiesmummy]

How can weather a baby sleeps in your room or in their own room next door decrease or increase the risk of cot death?

i thought that too ... iv got one of those angel monitors so ifeel safer him in his own rrom as i know if god forbid anything ever happened id no pretty sharpish

 

[jennywren]

How can weather a baby sleeps in your room or in their own room next door decrease or increase the risk of cot death?

i thought that too ... iv got one of those angel monitors so ifeel safer him in his own rrom as i know if god forbid anything ever happened id no pretty sharpish

Exactly. I mean, I know they could say ''because if the baby is next to you, you will wake up easier if you hear anything'' but like you say these monitors these days are so good with the movement sensors etc that the alarm will sound if god forbid anything did happen so apart from that reason I can see no other reason why the risk of CD would be higher because there in one room instead of the other!

 

[x-kirsty-x]

You are right Budge. Social workers know absolutely nothing. They are amongst the worst people on the planet.

Well thats reassuring - Im training to be one!!

And while we're on the subject I just feel compelled to point out that, if it werent for the social workers that helped to find a new life for me when I was a baby, I doubt very much Id still be here.

So in your experience they might be 'among the worst people on the planet' but please dont tar them all with the same brush, some of them actually do a good job

 

[Dee1985]

i agree Kirsty. i really respect socail workers. my friend is one. i could never do it though im not strong anough.

apparently one of the reasons the baby is less likely to die from cot death if you are in the room with them is that by hearing you breath it teaches them to follow. as some babies just forget to breath. sounds barmy to me bu its something i read before

 

[jennywren]

apparently one of the reasons the baby is less likely to die from cot death if you are in the room with them is that by hearing you breath it teaches them to follow. as some babies just forget to breath. sounds barmy to me bu its something i read before

Really Dionne - That's weird isn't it. I agree with you sonund bloody barmy. Considering they don't know the causes of CD how can they say that statement!

 

[cassi]

This topic is going strong, I agree with Kirsty about the social workers, think before you say things like that ladys, they are not all the same and someones relative on here could be a social worker and you are calling them the "worst people in the planet" Its a tad off.

Im going to train to be a health visitor and I know what alot of you think of them but it dosnt make me a nasty person....

 

[x-kirsty-x]

Thanks Dionne & Cassi, Im glad someone knows what I mean

I didnt want to say what I thought at first cos I know how things can be taken out of context and turned into an argument. That definitely wasnt my intention, I was just putting my point across and I tried to do it in the nicest way possible

As for the topic, I think we'll be keeping this baby in our room for the first 6 months or so but that isnt set in stone, I guess we'll just see how things go.

I had one of those sensor pad monitors with Josh and it helped me relax a bit so I think we'll get one this time too 8)

 

[cloud9]

This is the adivce from FSids

Advice for parents to reduce the risk of cot death:

Cut smoking in pregnancy - fathers too!
Do not let anyone smoke in the same room as your baby
Place your baby on the back to sleep
Do not let your baby get too hot
Keep baby's head uncovered - place your baby with their feet to the foot of the cot, to prevent wriggling down under the covers
If your baby is unwell, seek medical advice promptly
The safest place for your baby to sleep is in a cot in your room for the first six months
Do not share a bed with your baby:
if you or your partner are smokers (no matter where or when you smoke)
have been drinking alcohol
take medication or drugs that make you drowsy
feel very tired.
or if your baby was born premature, was small at birth or is under three months old

There is also a risk that you might roll over in your sleep and suffocate your baby, or that your baby could get caught between the wall and the bed, or could roll out of an adult bed and be injured.
Never sleep with a baby on a sofa or armchair

 

[jennywren]

Never sleep with a baby on a sofa or armchair

LOL I know loads of people who do this - not on purpose, but like pass out out of tiredness after a feed or a cuddle!

And all the pics on here of daddies with the babies on their chest and their both sleeping lol