What age do you think your baby should be in their own room?

[Alfiesmummy]

I'm thinking 3-6months, but OH seems to think a lot longer. He says that kids who get left in their own rooms early become clingy and withdrawn later in life. What do Mums with older children think of this?

I would of thought that it would make the child more independant really and as most have said their babes actually slept better in their own rooms Alfie loves his room and smiles like a lunatic whenever we go in there and chatters awqay to the teddys (well his massive winnie the pooh i think he thinks its a person - beautifull little wierdo that he is)

 

[Londoner Claire]

I'm thinking 3-6months, but OH seems to think a lot longer. He says that kids who get left in their own rooms early become clingy and withdrawn later in life. What do Mums with older children think of this?

I would of thought that it would make the child more independant really and as most have said their babes actually slept better in their own rooms Alfie loves his room and smiles like a lunatic whenever we go in there and chatters awqay to the teddys (well his massive winnie the pooh i think he thinks its a person - beautifull little wierdo that he is)

I love the way you talk about Alfie, he's obviously your whole world.

I won't be able to put Jade in her own room as I won't be moving until she's at least three months old, I aim to though if I find somewhere, by the time she's 6 months.

 

[mary70]

hannah is till in our room and she is 16 months, will move her when she is more settled at night

 

[Londoner Claire]

hannah is till in our room and she is 16 months, will move her when she is more settled at night

Oh good, glad to read that, I was starting to think I was bad for leaving it so late with my son.

 

[Alfiesmummy]

awww thanks Claire I think that i probably annoy people cause i talk so much about him but yes he is everything to me, i adore every single thing about him
I think it is whatever makes every parent comfortable if you felt that you should be with them untill they are five thats each persons choice.

 

[Londoner Claire]

awww thanks Claire I think that i probably annoy people cause i talk so much about him but yes he is everything to me, i adore every single thing about him
I think it is whatever makes every parent comfortable if you felt that you should be with them untill they are five thats each persons choice.

Not annoying at all, I think it's lovely. I seem to moan a whole lot about Ryan but I love him to bits.

 

[ToriElla]

Eva is still in my room because we are going to be getting a loft conversion done soon so we can't move her yet!! I would have moved her earlier but i'm not stressing about it. I don't think there are any set rules about it, you just gotta do what you gotta do x

 

[Alfiesmummy]

awww thanks Claire I think that i probably annoy people cause i talk so much about him but yes he is everything to me, i adore every single thing about him
I think it is whatever makes every parent comfortable if you felt that you should be with them untill they are five thats each persons choice.

Not annoying at all, I think it's lovely. I seem to moan a whole lot about Ryan but I love him to bits.

aww hun i know you do you dont moan about him i think it was so sweet when he was chatting to us in the chat room and some of the things you tell us about him is so funny he seems to have such a personality its lovely

 

My mum had me in her room for ages and had BIG problems getting me out. She tried and tried and I was still in there when I was 6 it was only when I was 7 and my sister Ruby came along that I was evicted and had to share a room with one of my sisters

PS Lennon seems a lot more settled now he is in his own room

 

[paulaws]

Hi everyone,I am going to go out on a limb here by telling you that Keiran went in his own room the day we brought him home from the hospital. We didn't ever consider having him in with us and we are planning to do the same with this little man. We did relent and put him in with us after bowing to pressure from friends who thought we were awful but that only lasted one night because he didn't settle.
I am not quite sure what difference it makes I think it is all to do with how you feel as parents.

 

[Alfiesmummy]

omg friends actually said that to you? I was in my own room when i came home from hospital and i slept through from 3 days old too. people shouldnt tell you you are "awull" that you dont sleep in the same room. Ok if you lived in a mansion and slept opposite sides of the house and you had no monitor on that ould be rather harsh but imn guessing that isnt what happened ay!

 

[Icecream]

I'm thinking 3-6months, but OH seems to think a lot longer. He says that kids who get left in their own rooms early become clingy and withdrawn later in life. What do Mums with older children think of this?

I would of thought that it would make the child more independant really and as most have said their babes actually slept better in their own rooms Alfie loves his room and smiles like a lunatic whenever we go in there and chatters awqay to the teddys (well his massive winnie the pooh i think he thinks its a person - beautifull little wierdo that he is)

I would have thought that too. I think he means that if the child is neglected than it will feel unloved and become withdrawn and then get all sorts of problems. I know I was like that for most of my life so far (I'm only 22), and have only recently sorted it all out.

But there are other ways of bonding with your child. My Mum worked all day and I won't be. Plus as has been said, both the parents and babies do need to sleep on their own. Personally it wasn't that i was sleeping on my own, but that i couldn't sleep full stop for as long asI remember until very recently (about 6 months or so ago), but I don't know that having my own room (with my sister when aged 3) was a contributing factor.

 

[Xena]

I'm a believer in having babies in your room until they are 6 months old at least.
It's supposed to reduce the risk of SIDS.

Lydia is 15 months and still in our room - we don't have anywhere to put her at the moment. We will be moving house *fingers crossed* soon, so she will get her own room then.

The next baby will be with us until at least 6 months, but longer if necessary.

 

[kelly'n'jack]

i have put jack in his own room for the first time 2nite. he is only accross the hall and i will his intercom on full volume. weve been waking each other up and im hoping we will both get a better nights sleep!

 

Kelly, my Lennon is across the hall too - maximum of about 3 steps away but although we have an intercom (one of those with a tv screen), we can hear him quite loudly anyway

 

[Strangeness]

Aaron is still in with us but that's due to lack of space seen as we are living with my mum. There are 5 of us in a 3 bedroom house so no space at all. It's starting to annoy me now that Aaron is getting older because I think he'd sleep a lot better in his own room and I worry how he will take to a new room once he gets any older. Not sure how long we will be here though as we're trying to part buy and no places are coming up!

 

[swan1]

Just curious, those of you who have your babies in your room for a few months or more, do you have to move their cot into your room? I wouldnt have room to move if their was a cot in my bedroom as well as my bed and bedroom furniture, or do you move into their room with them?

 

[Emmerdale]

We put Oliver in his own room from about 10 weeks I think. He had outgrown his moses basket and our room isn't big enough for his cot to fit - I was a bit worried but I have to say it's the best thing we ever did. Once he was in his own room he started sleeping 11.30 till at least 8.30 and has carried on doing this since. It's upto each individual and you have to do what works for you and your baby. Oliver loves stretching out in his cot and in the morning he talks to his mobile and toys for a while before I go into him as I just love listening to him - he is so cute!

 

[Gemma & Jake]

I am going to put Jake in to his own room at about 6 months. All of the books that I have advise keeping your baby in the room with you until 6 months to reduce the risk of cot death.

 

[Sarah&Braydon]

oh no i feel like a bad mummy now Braydon went straight into his own room weve only spent to nites together one wen we was in hozzie and two wen we went away n stayed in a hotel the nite he hated it n wouldnt sleep