Weight gain!

[Mummy2Adam]

OMG im sat here in tears, why do people (my OH) think its acceptable to have a go at me because of weight gain during pregnancy? I already feel massive without him having a go. I might not be the size 10 hes used to but im in the process of making sure our beautiful daughter is ready for the big wide world. Is anyone else getting this or is it just my inconsiderate, selfish OH? x x

 

[DaisyPurple]

Oh M2A I'm so sorry to read this, hope you can let him.know how he's making you feel, considerate sod, xx

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[Jaxx01]

Aww hun I dont have that at the moment...but my first babies dad was like that I felt awful then at 6 weeks he presented me with a gym membership and told me to get down there I was absolutely gutted!!!

Tell him straight how you feel!!! What a sod xx

 

[Mummy2Adam]

Thanks ladies, i wouldnt mind this isnt my first, so he knows what its like, especially when you get into tri-3 and the cute little bump turns into a gaint gym ball in your belly and water retention takes over! I could of literally thrown something at him but i was still in bed. Hes made me feel so down and unhappy about myself now.
Men really know how to make you feel special, they are very strange creatures!! x x

 

[Jaxx01]

I know!! It's easy for them to sit there and not go through it all, we have to do all the hard work!! I sometimes wonder what goes through their minds!! lol xx

 

[DaisyPurple]

I think you should just ignore him and remember that your body is incubating your new little baby, its no longer (for now at least), just yours, you are literally like a greenhouse, nurturing your little bubs, ready for their big appearance, its a wonderful, amazing thing that you are doing, he needs to ( and forgive me if I offend with this oppinion) shut the hell up and show you some respect, show him this and may he feel embarrassed at moaning about your weight gain .. bloody men sometimes sorry for the rant love xxx

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[Mummy2Adam]

I agree DP, if i wasnt so gobsmacked at what was coming out of his mouth i should of told him that to his face, gggrrrrr men!! hes going to get it today and not in the nice way!! x x

 

[DaisyPurple]

He needs to understand he's being very inconsiderate and actually making himself look like a nob, try to let him know without falling out though as the stress will do you no good hun xxx

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[Sarah13]

How nasty, men just don't think sometimes, what does he expect you to do, go on a diet and get down the gym! He should really know better as well! Did he possibly say it in a non nasty way and the hormones took over? Some people think we want to hear we're getting big as it means baby is growing and we're 'blooming'!

I really wish men could go what we go through, they wouldnt be able to handle it and would end up far bigger than us using it as an excuse to eat take aways every day!

 

[Franna75]

I was also going to ask, was he being serious - when i was about 20 weeks my other half said "go big or go home, that's why i'm with you". It had been a bit of a joke for years, but never about my weight more about large portions of food. My hormones threw me into an absolute frenzy and I could have ripped his head off and smashed it on the table....i refused to eat for two days and we had a very uncomfortable "mini break away". He was actually only joking, its his sense of humour albeit not funny - i can now laugh at it but at the time it was so awful.

Please try not to take it to heart - it can sometimes be a bit of jealousy cause its not them carrying the baby...he'd love to be able to put baby weight on but he can't because its your big job that he has no control over. Just eat more cake infront of him and enjoy it! Ignore him, men are sooo inconsiderate....i've learnt that the hard way.

p.s I've put over 2 and a half stone on and I don't care xx

 

[knopk@]

Seriously, men need more brain cells. What exactly did he say? Maybe hewas trying to make a bad joke?

My OH tried once in the beginning but I warned him its a sensitive topic so he doesnt make jokes about weight

 

[Mummy2Adam]

He apoligised and said he didnt mean it as it came out and gave me a big cuddle, ive still not forgiven him though and I havent let him forget, we have just been food shopping and when we got back i said the goodies shelf was still looking empty because I didnt want to eat naughty things just incase i broke the bed! Men pffftt! x x

 

[Geminiblue]

OMG OMG OMG!!!! Id batter my OH if he said that...then again he is a big lad so he has no room to talk.... tell him that when you have your baby you will be able to lose the weight and he will always remain stupid!!! ha ha ha not very nice but it would make me feel better big hug hunni not long now hey xxx

 

[Sarah13]

Glad he said sorry. I would fill the goodies shelf and deliberately eat naughty things for a few days just to make a point! What baby wants baby gets!

 

[Mummy2Adam]

I had another chat with him this afternoon to say i am concious of my weight anyway (i love my bump but hate the weight gain on my legs ect) and his comments really upset me, he didnt realise I already felt concious and told me to stop being silly as I was carrying our precious little daughter and the weight is only temp. Wish he'd said something along those lines this morning!! x x

 

[knopk@]

Ah hun, men can be insensitive, they dont understand sometimes how we feel. I constantly moan about the weight I have gained but we are doing a great job carrying our babies, its worth it in the end and then we will lose the weight. I am confident I can lose it but at the moment we can onlhy gain weight for our LOs.

I am trying to eat healthy but cant resist chocolate or ice cream on top of healthy food.

 

[Geminiblue]

ahh thats good glad he's making you feel better and he is right lovey, you look beautiful as its a miracle you are carrying, and Im going to keep watch for your marathon updates so you will be slim again soon xxx

 

[Tracey M]

My hubby went to great lengths the other day telling me all about how he saw a lady who was in the last week of her pregnancy but she was just super skinny and all bump, nothing anywhere else!!!! I coulda killed him!! Then he decided to share it with my mum and dad when thay came round..... My boobs alone have put on half a stone each!! seriously, in total I've piled on about 3 and half stone but I will just have to work hard later when baby 6 weeks old. Try not to worry and I'm glad he apologised to you!