Wedding plans! Too much

[Yvonne]

Hi all,

I was wondering what people thought of this the original plan is.......
Get married at the registry office, have pics done then go straight to the hotel we have booked for a sit down meal then a disco and the general night do after, all this plus the toast masters and red carpet etc.

The worry is......... I don't want all that, i easily get embarrassed which will onlt make me worry more and the nerves be 10 times worse.
I don't like to be the center of attention...
So..... i was wondering if i would get away with marrying in the registry office, then going to a restaurant with literally immediate family then booking a cricket club, social club, hotel room for the evening do where everyone is invited. and have a good party.

What do you think, honest answers please.

 

I'd go for the second one if it's better for you hun, it's you and your OH's day, do what you feel most comfortable doing

 

[Rosieroo]

As Sami said do what ever you feel comfortable with. We were going to have the wedding, a meal for close family and then an evening do, but ended up doing it the other way. TBH we didn't get to speak to a lot of the people there, a load of them were just freeloaders (sorry but some close family members came for the meal and left before the speeches!) and I wish we'd just done it how we originally wanted it.

 

[Sarah&Braydon]

i agree with the girls hun do wot u want its ur big day

 

[sam96031]

yeah you do it either way that you want hun its your big day and it should be special to you. i got married on saturday and i dont remember any of it as it was a complete whirlwind!!!!!!! so you do what feels best for you hun and good luck

 

[violet-glow]

ooOoo that sounds alot like what were planning.

Were going to get married in church, go for sit down meal with immdiate family then off to a hotel, then have a disco thing in the night with all our family and friends.

Basicly because we cant afford everyone to be at the meal and we just want close family at that anyway. Meals going to be costing 300+ quid as it is

 

[nicki]

Its your day hun so do exactly what makes you & OH happy.
Don't worry about other people, its a celebration of your love & commitment to each other not about putting on a show for everyone else. I'm sure your friends & family will be happy with what ever you decide to do.

 

[Rubys mummy]

I am divorced, had my wedding the traditional way with sit downmeal etc....It was nice but paid £40 a head for people we didnt know that well (some of them)

When OH and I get married, it will be so different, just immediate family for a nice meal, then a party for our friends

Do what you want not what you think you should do sweetie xxxx

 

[Yvonne]

Don't worry about other people, its a celebration of your love & commitment to each other not about putting on a show for everyone else.

That is exactly how i feel, like i have to do is as that what everyone is expecting, but the meal seems to be "you can't invite then without them" this is why we cancelled last years wedding as families were putting too much input in. I want some thing to remember and if i only have immediate family for the meal then no one falls out cos they haven't been invited, plus the less peope,at the meal the less Andy will get embarrassed about the speeck!

 

[cassi]

the last wedding i went to they got married in the church and the people that came to the wedding went to the meal after, and then after the meal the other friends etc and less close people came for the disco and buffet

 

[K X]

Yvonne one of my best mates just got married and it cost her 21k! I mean ffs thats a deposit on a house! It was £4000 alone for the meal. It was a beautiful day but no way would I spend that! She agrees that it is a waste of money and it should of been close family members and friends (she had people at the meal who she hated! )

Go wiv what u want, it is ur day afterall!

 

[missac]

Go with exactly what you want. I had the whole shebang and absolutely loved every minute of it, because that is what I wanted, at the end of the day that is whats most important!

We had the guests that were at the ceremony to the wedding breakfast and then others came to the evening part. Why don't you use the money and go and do it abroad? I love the idea of that, but I couldn't have done it as I prefer the white wedding for me! But abroad would be perfect for you as it could be you and some close family and you wouldn't have to worry about upsetting people!

 

[Tara & Liam]

i am the same as you yvonne, i had a registry office then a small get together round my sister in laws. that was bad enough for me, hated the photographs and everything was too much.

 

[sam96031]

i know a lot of people have mentioned cost i dont know if this is an issue for you but it was for us so we got a buffet at around £9.50 a head and whatever we didnt eat at the main reception they brought back out for the frientds that came to the night doo. ooo and we had bacon butties for the night people to soak the alcohol up just a suggestion ignore if you want lol

 

[budge]

Hi all,

I was wondering what people thought of this the original plan is.......
Get married at the registry office, have pics done then go straight to the hotel we have booked for a sit down meal then a disco and the general night do after, all this plus the toast masters and red carpet etc.

The worry is......... I don't want all that, i easily get embarrassed which will onlt make me worry more and the nerves be 10 times worse.
I don't like to be the center of attention...
So..... i was wondering if i would get away with marrying in the registry office, then going to a restaurant with literally immediate family then booking a cricket club, social club, hotel room for the evening do where everyone is invited. and have a good party.

What do you think, honest answers please.

its your day. Do what YOU want to do.
I did.
We invited imediate family only. Went to the registry office. Then we went to a pub for evening meal. Then me and hubby went to our bed and breakfast in the peak district.
It was lovely!

 

[cassi]

Yvonne one of my best mates just got married and it cost her 21k! I mean ffs thats a deposit on a house! It was £4000 alone for the meal. It was a beautiful day but no way would I spend that! She agrees that it is a waste of money and it should of been close family members and friends (she had people at the meal who she hated! )

Go wiv what u want, it is ur day afterall!

oh thats nothing compared to the wedding i went to was £35k I MEAN WHY? WHY? WHY?! its 1 bloody day, fair enough make it special but surely 12k MAX is enough for a special day?!?!?!

 

[budge]

my friends cost her 20 thousand and it was crap. No one enjoyed it coz it was so organised and boring.

 

[cassi]

my friends cost her 20 thousand and it was crap. No one enjoyed it coz it was so organised and boring.

gutted.

 

[sam96031]

Yvonne one of my best mates just got married and it cost her 21k! I mean ffs thats a deposit on a house! It was £4000 alone for the meal. It was a beautiful day but no way would I spend that! She agrees that it is a waste of money and it should of been close family members and friends (she had people at the meal who she hated! )

Go wiv what u want, it is ur day afterall!

oh thats nothing compared to the wedding i went to was £35k I MEAN WHY? WHY? WHY?! its 1 bloody day, fair enough make it special but surely 12k MAX is enough for a special day?!?!?!

£35K? we spent less than £5K and that was with everything i wish i had that kind of money!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Kim]

It's YOUR day Yvonne, do what YOU want, and don't feel bad about upsetting other people. Less people to the meal will be less embarrassment for Andy doing his speech and less money spent! If you want a nice quiet do and end up doing something different to please other people, you wont enjoy it, so do what's right for you