Was anyone disappointed about the sex of their baby?

[moss]

I worry a lot, and lately I am worried that I am going to be disappointed if my baby doesn't turn out to be a girl. I have always imagined myself with a girl. I like girl things, and I really hate boy things. I don't like cars or sports and I absolutely despise toy soldiers and weapons and things... I know I am stereotyping, but these are the toys and clothes I always see little boys around playing with!

I have a difficult time as it is to imagine myself with a child older than a baby, but when I try to imagine a boy it is even more difficult. I LOVE little girls. I don't mind having a boy eventually, but I have always wanted an older daughter and younger son, if I am to have a son at all. Now I'm terrified that I will actually feel disappointed if we have a boy. I feel so guilty about it already, and I know I would feel terrible if I had any feelings of disappointment when I find out. Has anyone else felt this strongly about this, and how did it turn out?

 

[Krystal]

I was the same as you, could not relate myself to having a boy in any way, shape or form. I really wanted a girl and like you thought I wouldn't mind if I had a boy later on but I definately wanted a girl first.

I was so nervous at the 20 week scan finding out the sex but I was pretty confident they would tell me I was having a girl Well they didn't tell me did they, oh no, I was having a boy. I have to admit for a few minutes I felt a tiny bit disappointed but that soon faded and I got used to the fact I was going to have a boy. The moment Jack arrived and ever since I cannot imagine what I was thinking, I love having my little boy around, he's amazing. The sex really doesn't matter, you love your child regardless.

In the future I would like a little girl yes, but I won't ever be disappointed again even if I go on to have 2 more boys and no girl in sight.

 

[Squiglet]

I really wanted a little girl... rather than a boy.. I had convinced myself that I was having a little boy because I felt so strongly about wanting a little girl rather than a boy.....so it was no surprise at my 15 and 20 wk scans I was told I was having a boy...I can't say I wasn't disappointed... cos I was... but I got used to the idea...then began to look forward to having a boy and the things that were better about little boys (like not spending an hour every morning brushing a screaming childs long hair and platting it ). We painted the nursery blue...brought little boy clothes.

so at 24 weeks when I was told it was a little girl not a little boy...I felt kinda sad...its ironic..but again I began to look forward to having a girl

I think whatever you are handed in the end, you learn to love regardless...its your baby and theres an inexplicable bond...if theres another time... I know there are good points and bad to having either sex and it won't matter which I have .

 

[newmum]

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[Freya]

I have a girl and boy - girl is oldest.
When I was pregnant with son I really wanted another girl. I have a sister and we have the same age gap as between my children. I just could not imagine having a boy.
However, when my son arrived I was at first a bit disappointed BUT if I was pregnant again I would actually want another boy. My son is a really mummys boy (unlike my daughter) - it feels fantastic to be raising a man and I am thrilled everyday with him. I love both my children so much and although I thought I might favour my daughter - I can honestly say I love them both the same.
I am sure everything will turn out well for you as well.

 

[Bee]

I'm sure when the baby is born u won't be disappointed either way.

This is why I am glad I don't know what I am having - I can't build up an image and then have it squashed. I have an open mind

 

[Tangerinedream]

I wanted a girl and was convinced that I was having a girl when I was pregnant. I didnt find out the sex at the 20 week scan because secretly I would have been dissapointed if I found out I was having a boy

When he was born and my OH said its a boy my first thought was 'oh, I thought it was a girl!'. I wasnt dissapointed at all. I am soooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo in love with my little boy and am now glad I have a boy because they are fab

 

[sazzylou]

i felt the same. Ive never been interested in boys and always wanted girls. When we were told at the 20 week scan that the bubba was a girl i was overjoyed........but very quickly the "OMG! what of they got it wrong?!?!" stuff started. I was really freaking out about it for a couple of days, and i even said to my OH that i was worried i wouldnt love the baby as much if it was a boy But we had a chat and he was like "do you love the baby?" and obviously i said yes, and i realised that i already loved my baby, and i loved it before i found out about the sex, and i'll love it even if she pops out with a willy!!

I know how you feel. I was so worried id feel bad if i had a boy, but i think once you hold that LO, and you have a cuddle and he or she is YOURS, you just love them no matter what.

Dont feel bad though, youre fears are quite normal!!

 

[swan1]

I didnt know before hand and was secretly hoping for a girl, When Charlie was born and my hubby shouted "its a boy" I did feel a sense of disappointment, it only lasted for about 2 seconds though, He is now 16 months and i wouldnt swap him for any girl!!!!!

I dont know if i am just lucky but he is the most contented happy little soul and he is such a mummy's boy, i love it!!!! I am never letting him get married and he is not allowed a girlfriend until he is at least 30!! I was always a bit sceptical about the whole "mother/son" bond, but now i know exactly why most mother in laws are evil, no one will ever be good enough for my boy

 

[trixipaws]

omg i felt like that too! i felt guilty before i even had my scan because i knew i'd be slightly disappointed with a boy coz i'd prefer a girl. but i guess i'll never kno whether i ACTUALLY wouldve been disappointed. im sure once the baby's here youll just be overjoyed whatever its gender

 

[*Cupcake*]

At first I really wanted a little boy. I think its due to the fact Ive never been a girly girl. When we found out we were having a girl I was so worried my OH would be disappointed, but he was just so happy that the baby was healthy that it didnt matter. I can tell shes going to be a Daddys little princess. I thought he would bond easier with a little boy but now I realise its due to the fact I hardly saw my Dad untill my late teens and I just assumed girls didnt get on with their Dads. Im so glad I found out the sex though. Its made it alot easier to bond and picture our new lifes together.

 

[bellybump]

i can deffo relate to this. When i had Romi i cried, because he was a boy and not a girl, I was CONVINCED he was a she lol. And even had names picked out, and a secret stash of pink things under the bed in a box! i couldnt ever see myself with a boy, and i was told by my OH i had to wait until she was born to buy a pink pram etc, its a good job i did. I felt dirty changing his nappy at first, i'd done my neices as she was born a week after Romi but wasnt prem so went home earlier, i'd changed her nappy before i was allowed to change romi's yet that felt natural and doing Romi's didnt. I now wouldnt change him for the world, and although we want a girl this time, another boy would be equally as perfect, we just want another to complete the family, no matter what sex. We arent finding out this time, which is just going to drive me potty lol

 

[kalia]

I have always wanted a girl. I decided that if I spent my pregnancy assuming it was a boy I wouldn't be disappointed if it was when born and I wouldn't be disappointed with a girl anyway! I have to say, I've thought of my little dragon as a boy for so long now it will be a little weird to begin with if it's a girl!!!

 

[dannii87]

Don't worry moss! I bet that if it is a boy, you'll fall in love straight away just as you would a girl

Most of us have preferences I'm sure, I really like the little boy clothes that are out at the moment, I'm not a fan of frilly pink dresses and bows in the hair personally and that's all I seem to see for girls. So in a way, I'm swerving more towards preferring a boy - how stupid! Just because of clothes lol

Either way, this is a much wanted baby and going to be very loved and you'll be very proud whatever the sex!

xxx

 

[moss]

I'm glad it seems like everyone thinks this way! I was getting pretty upset today, but reading everyone's replies has helped to calm me down. Thank you! I will probably need to read them again to remind myself though!

And dannii87 I don't like pink and bows much either, but I see loads of girl stuff I like and no boy stuff! Maybe we need to switch places for a while!

 

[dannii87]

lol what are we like ay?! I genuinely don't mind what I have, I can picture myself with a boy and a girl so I don't even have an inkling!

I am going to find out though so hopefully once I know I'll have the second half of my pregnancy to get used to it!

Are you going to find out? xx

 

[moss]

I have always wanted to be surprised and think I can handle it if I don't find out, but I have until the end of March to decide, so I might change my mind. My cousin just had a baby three weeks ago and left it as a surprise and says it's the best thing she has ever done. My mother and aunt say the same.

 

[kellie80]

I already had a girl so when I was expecting my 2nd I really wanted a boy. I nearly cried at my 20 week scan when they said it was another girl I soon got used to the idea though I'm just so glad I found out the sex cos to have had that feeling when she was born would of been awful.

 

[mrs_tommo22]

I really wanted a girl with my first and could see myself with a daughter and pink dresses the works, then when i had my scan and they told me he was boy I was thrilled! I loved shopping for jeans, and all the lovely blue stuff that boys have! When he was born I was amazed how much I loved hm and now hes older I have discovered the rewards of having a little boy, the cuddles I get off my little man arw great.

I do have a girl now though, but tbh it makes no difference to me, I love them both the same.

 

[sarah2807]

Hi, I was exactly the same as you hun. I felt so guilty because although I knew if I did have a boy I would love him i was just thinking-'what if i feel dissappointed when he's born-I'll feel soooo guilty!!' For this reason i decided to find out the sex at the 20 week scan. I had always said I'd never find out, but when it came to it i thought if I am having a boy I can then have those few months to get used to it and bond with him. It turns out I am having a girl so I can't comment on how it feels to have the opposite to what you'd prefer, but I'm convinced I'd have been fine and loved a boy regaredless. I'm glad i made the decision to find out the sex though.