When is the right time to visit? i have been advised to not stress over this too much, but i'm finding it difficult i must admit! My husband is from London and we are living in Belfast at the moment so his mum wants to come and visit asap, i.e day after birth! Now, this is ideal for me as i will be in hospital for 3 days and she won't come for longer than that. Don't get me wrong, i love her to bits, but i'm a first time mum and worry i won't have had time to bond properly with the baby before i have to look after other people! I want to be confident in holding, changing, soothing my baby etc befor ei have people watching me do it, does anyone else see where i am coming from? it is hard for my hubby to understand as his family want to be there for him too as all mine are already here. Then, from 31/10 - 4/11 his Aunty and Grandad would like to visit us. Might i just tell you at this point we don't have a spare bedroom, let alone bed for visitors. They would have to sleep on sofa's, and with me getting up to feed at all hours, i just want to be comfortable in my own home. I'm probably going to be exhausted as baby will be hopefully around 3-4 weeks then. hubby can't take any time off work as it is a new job he is in, and visiting family won't have own transport, so i can't really even suggest a B&B for the 5 days. I feel myself worrying about it, no flights are booked yet, it is a tough one and i can't quite make hubby see hwere i am coming from, byt he time he does, flights will be booked an dit will be too late. WHAT SHOULD i DOOOOO!!!!!!! Any advice woud be greatly received Thank you!