My ex partner and I have been apart for almost 3 years. I thought things were slowly getting better? I've literally handed him life on a plate to try and minimalise the drama but nothing works.. When we originally split I offered him to see the kids but he said he didn't have anywhere to take them so I said he could have my house twice a week to see the kids (said I''d stay at my mums so he didn't have to see me) He refused and threw himself a pity party saying he needed the benefits or his life would fall apart... his mum pretended to be my best friend so I agreed to hand over benefits to him and support myself because I wanted my children to have an equal relationship with us both..how WRONG was I?! It gave him rights I had no idea aobut PURELY because he's the one getting handouts from the council and I'm working my arse off! Since then he refused contact whenever I did something he didn't like! I had to take up dancing in a gentleman's club to make up the shortfall and that got me pegged as an abusive slut who didn't deserve her kids! I've always tried to remain neutral and not to kick up a fuss but it's impacting my kids now and I don't know what else to do... We now between us do shared care as have so far managed to avoid the court. This was all settling until my partner and I announced my pregnancy and he's back to being petty and ridiculous! He has a serious girlfriend who the kids love which is great! so why is he still hounding me? My son has been signed up for football practice on sunday mornings (the day I pick them up) so he has suddenly started deciding to bring them a little later so he misses it I'm gutted for my poor boy as we'd just bought him a little kit and boots and he's so so upset.. My daughter is interested in Karate and I have tried to sign her up for a class...he's done everything he can to stop this happening and tried to tell her he can take her to ballet instead (She's not a ballet kind of girl!) and also upsetting her because she's so desperate to go.. I just need ANY advice as technically in the eyes of the law he is not doing a thing wrong and he knows it, but I can't bear to see my babies suffer, it's stirring emotions in me that I never even knew existed!