Urghhh dont know what else to do

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I found out on Tuesday there, that I was having a miscarriage at exactly 10 weeks, I was just having pinkish blood...They gave me info on a D&C or tablets...I just wanted out the hospital really...and refused both (I have to go back a week on tuesday to see everything is away)

I just didnt know what else to do...or where to turn, I had been posting in here on the first tri board untill tuesday, I remembered tonight that this section was here...

I am not coping too good, Last night I started having horrendous cramps and since about 4am this morning im bleeding so heavy, and the clots are unlike anything I have ever seen before and litrally pouring from me...I am just so sore, so depressed and urghh I dunno..

I just wanted o talk to people who totaly understood what I am going through...I feel like my heart has broken. My hubby is working alot, we need the money so he had to go to work and he is out the house like 14 hours a day, I think sitting on my own so much is adding to my depression...what do I do? Is these clots normal? Should I get anti depressants, I just dont know where else to turn. I am prolly being a total drama queen!

TIA for any suggestions

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Firstly :hug: :hug: :hug: Its such a hard time for a woman and nobody can tell you how you will feel :hug: :hug: :hug: I'm sorry your DH has to work, the same happened to me in December and the days are very long when you are by yourself. Do you have a close friend or member of the family who would come around and just sit with you?

See how you feel tomorrow and perhaps go and talk to your GP, I'm not sure about tablets as I think what you are going through is natural and sadness is a huge part of the healing process but it is probably worth you talking to them. I am sorry I havent got any real advice but I just wanted to let you know you are not alone. x x x x x
 
Lianatoot said:
I found out on Tuesday there, that I was having a miscarriage at exactly 10 weeks, I was just having pinkish blood...They gave me info on a D&C or tablets...I just wanted out the hospital really...and refused both (I have to go back a week on tuesday to see everything is away)

I just didnt know what else to do...or where to turn, I had been posting in here on the first tri board untill tuesday, I remembered tonight that this section was here...

I am not coping too good, Last night I started having horrendous cramps and since about 4am this morning im bleeding so heavy, and the clots are unlike anything I have ever seen before and litrally pouring from me...I am just so sore, so depressed and urghh I dunno..

I just wanted o talk to people who totaly understood what I am going through...I feel like my heart has broken. My hubby is working alot, we need the money so he had to go to work and he is out the house like 14 hours a day, I think sitting on my own so much is adding to my depression...what do I do? Is these clots normal? Should I get anti depressants, I just dont know where else to turn. I am prolly being a total drama queen!

TIA for any suggestions

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I am so sorry for your loss hun :hug: :hug: :hug: You are not being a drama queen at all love. I think the bleeding sounds normal (and the clots) for about 10 weeks....i lost at 8+6 and i lost a large clot/baby, then lots of smaller clots...i was sat on the loo for an hour with blood just pouring out of me (tmi sorry).
If you are in pain, id try co-codamol hun (if your not asthmatic or are ok with codiene....). I would go see your doctor and talk to them about how you are feeling...i went 6 months after my loss cos i still wasnt coping right well....She didnt give me anti-depresents (i would have refused them anyway) and told me about going for councilling... Maybe that would help you too?
This forum is also fantastic for support...dunno how i would have got through most of it without all the fantastic people on here!
Try talking to your OH too...i know it helped me alot and he was my rock through it all even though we didnt see each other, just spoke on msn!
PM me if you need me ok hun. Take care of yourself :hug: :hug: :hug:
 
Thankyou both so much for replying...All my friends are just totaly avoiding me, I was ok untill the other day...I think when I started bleeding so much and clotting like this, cos then it was final and there was no hope the hospital had made a mistake...I think people are avoiding me cos they know im down and they dont know what to say to me....

I had a really bad day yesterday, cos I had a huge fight with my older brother (about my paypal..and cos I didnt pay a guitar straight away for him! He couldent understand I had other things on my mind, and he was roaring at me!) Urghh it was awful...I am just a total mess really!
 
Oh sweetie give yourself time and be gentle with yourself :hug: :hug: :hug: we are all allowed to be a mess sometimes :hug: :hug: :hug:
 
like the girls have said give yourself some time hun and take thinmgs slowly, we are all here if you ever want to talk :hug: :hug:
 
Lianna,
Firstly :hug: :hug:

These clots are the same as what I had and also the pain. Thats everything coming away. The pains are like contractions?? not as sore tho but coming and going?

If you can, dont go down the route of anto depressants yet. These days are the worst, seing and feeling it come away almost breaks your heart.

I think you should phone Kilmarnock epas, if the line is engaged its probably me onto them again :wink: for like the millionth time.

Did you have a kind of whoosing feeling in your fairy when you had a lot of the clots?

Keep posting, everyone is so lovely and it does get better, you can cope :hug:
 
I started clotting around 4am on saturday morning...yesterday, yeah yesterday...I am still clotting, I thought it was getting better this morning, but I stood up to make my little boy some lunch (DH at work) and I Felt yeah a whoosh, went to toilet and there (oh god TMI I know) was a huge load of what can only be described of black, livery jelly...maybe an amount the size of my palm..a huge mass really...when I go to toilet it literally falls out, Im constantly washing myself and changing my pad..as its just getting soaked through.

The pain is constant, like double the pain of a pad period, but comes sorer in waves. I feel weak, sick and shakey and just so teary...My friends are totaly avoiding me, Which is making me more upset, cos I just NEED to talk to someone...Paul isnt in till 9pm.
 
I phoned up EPAS...The sister there wanted me to go straight out, but I dont have any transport and both my mum and Paul is working...Paul is trying to get cover to finish early so he can take me out, but he says he doubts he can as they are short staffed, My mum is also a nurse, so getting cover isnt easy...The sister at EPAS was gonna send an ambulance for me, but that involves taking my son with me, and I really dont wanta do that...

so as it stands, I have an appointment to go out at 9am in the morning, and they will check me over.
 
i think that is the best thing hun, espec is you are feeling really weak and everything....sounds like you are loosing too much blood for your body to recoup if you know what i mean.
I hope your OH can get cover to take you hun...if it gets worse and the unit is closed i would get down to A&E hun..
Take care hun
 
i hope you get things sorted soon hun i am thinking of you we all are, and PM if you ever want to talk xx :hug: :hug:
 
Ahhh im just feeling sorry for myself...I am annoyed at one of my best friends, who hasent even phoned me, I am so angry and hurt at her...I have sat here on my own all day...I am not expecting everyone to drop everything for me, but a text even to say she was thinking about me would have been nice :(
 
I'm so sorry for your loss hun. I went through the same at 9weeks and words can't describe how low and depressed you feel.
Maybe your friend hasn't been in touch out of fear she might not say the right things and is afraid to upset you even more, i know thats how my best friend felt with me for the first 2 weeks of my loss.

Hope you feel better soon and hope you manage to get to the hospital soon hun.

Thinking of you :hug: :hug: :hug:
 
Thanks Sara...I am sorry for your loss too...Thats why I decided to come on here, to talk to women who have been thru the same as me..or worse, who understand how I feel...I dont even know how I feel...

After I got told I was fine for a few days...and it was only when the blood started that it actually sunk in...and its just been a shame I guess that in those 2 days, I have been on my own, I guess thats why I am feeling so sorry for myself.

Thanks to everyone here, Its a godsend! It truly is! :hug:
 
Lina if you ever want to talk about anything and eveything or maybe just have someone th chat to when your feeling alone, just pm me hun im around most days :hug: :hug:
 
Hi there

So sorry for your loss and sorry I haven't seen this post earlier :hug:
I really feel for you going through this on your own, as I had 2 mc last year both at 10 weeks. The clotting and loss of blood is exactly what happened to me - it's really scary and messy I know. I live overseas and the first time, once I'd started clotting like that I was taken in for a d&c.

Second time around I was actually in England staying with relatives, trying to cope at home, but passed out on the toilet with loss of blood so had an ambulance take me in. They kept me in overnight on a drip and everything passed naturally, no d&c. I went back for a scan a couple of days later to check everything was clear, and it was thankfully.

Glad you've got an appointment to get checked over, hope the bleeding has calmed down. Try and get a scan just so you know its all clear.

You will feel numb for a while probably :hug: :hug: :hug:
I found I was dealing with the physical side of things at the time, and the emotional side didn't hit me til afterwards.

Don't beat yourself up about feeling sorry for yourself - you've been through a traumatic ordeal, your hormones are all over the place and you need to focus on yourself and getting through this. Take comfort in your son - I found I became remarkably tolerant of my little boy, and talking to my DH helped a lot.

Really sorry again for your loss

Hope you're ok and your appt goes well today :hug:

Thinking of you :hug: :hug: :hug:
 
So sorry you're going through this :hug:

Hope you're ok and you were able to go to the hospital today

Take care of yourself and everybody here on the forum will be here for you if you need us to talk to :hug: :hug:
 

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