Trust issues

[Snuggle]

My DH has given me no reason not to trust him but I've never fully been able to. I dont know why but especially recently, I have been thinking he is having an affair. To be honest, I dont really believe he is but I still find myself wondering if he is up to no good with one of his work colleagues when I cant get hold of him. He disappeared from work for an hour and a half today and I started wondering if he had gone to get up to stuff with his work colleague (who he had disappeared with). They had went for a bacon sarnie but all I could imagine was that he was up to no good. I have completely lost my sex drive so this doesnt help. If I dont stop accusing him of having affairs he will end up leaving.
Help!!!

 

[Flame]

I know exactly how you feel cause i feel the same. I am hoping its just my hormones playing up and some kind of guilt for not being able to have sex with him

 

[pip]

I have trust issues too.....i know my man has never cheated on me but i remember when i was pg with Alfie i was so convinced he was playing away i went to his workplace and confronted him in flood of tears

I really think it is your hormones hun. Try talking to him and getting it all off your chest...i bet he will reassure you that it is you he loves and wants and wouldn't dream of cheating on you

 

[Snuggle]

Thank you for replies. I talked to DH about it and he said its my hormones and he would never cheat and that deep down I know he wouldnt. He's right, I do know he wouldnt and I know I'm being silly I think it is a bit of guilt because I have lost sex drive. I have bought him some 'fun' movies to keep him going for a bit, might even try watching with him later to see if it stirs up a bit of my sex drive (sorry if TMI) xxxx

 

[Charlotte & Emily]

I think it is a bit of guilt because I have lost sex drive. I have bought him some 'fun' movies to keep him going for a bit, might even try watching with him later to see if it stirs up a bit of my sex drive (sorry if TMI) xxxx

I think its great that you are going to try to 'stir up your sex drive' and he should really appreciate that
I havent had any sex drive for at least 5months and altough i do feel sorry for my DF that i am holding out on him i just cant be bothered doing anything about it, its also more difficult because we dont live together but i push him away every time he tries anything.

Hope your hormones return to normal soon and try not to get stressed

 

[Riley's Mommy]

just wanted to say i completely sympothise. i feel exactly the same way

 

[Miracle babe]

I think that the fact that you can talk to him about this and then go buy him some fun movies ( ) says an awful lot about the relationship you obviously have. We all have times when we feel the way you do and nine times out of ten trust me it is hormonal. Keep talking to him hun this is only a phase it will pass (look out for those 2nd trimester rampant moments )

 

[TipsyDipsy]

I don't know hun if it were another woman colleague and they didn't invite anyone else then yea I think the same things would be running though my mind as well.
There is being trusting and forcing yourself to be too trusting because you don't want to rock the boat or seem like the hormonal girlfriend.
If deep down you know he isn't up to anything then I don't think he is but you should have a little chat to him and ask him to see these disappearances from your point of view and ask him how he would feel if it were you with a male colleague.

 

[NooNoo]

i go through exactly the same feelings, i think past relationships are so much to blame, i have MAJOR trust issues because i have been hurt so much in the past

 

[MissGobby]

i can really relate to your post Snuggle - i am EXACTLY the same!!!

i do trust him, i know 100% he would NEVER cheat on me and that he loves me dearly, yet i hate him going to the pub with his mates i get scared and think he will cheat on me (which i know he wouldnt!!) and ring him constantly, which obviously pees him off and gets him mad.

he is always telling me he loves me and would never hurt me, and i believe him i jsut cant stop that niggling feeling when he goes out!?!?

 

[NooNoo]

i can really relate to your post Snuggle - i am EXACTLY the same!!!

i do trust him, i know 100% he would NEVER cheat on me and that he loves me dearly, yet i hate him going to the pub with his mates i get scared and think he will cheat on me (which i know he wouldnt!!) and ring him constantly, which obviously pees him off and gets him mad.

he is always telling me he loves me and would never hurt me, and i believe him i jsut cant stop that niggling feeling when he goes out!?!?

that sums up exactly how I am

I hate it so much, it takes over at times

 

[Barmi_Brummeh]

i kno exactly how u feel chick, i have been like that!! I mean im on holiday now, n i txt my OH off my cousins fone, n if he dont reply i get suspicious!! I tried callin him, he never answered.. again got suspicios.

I think its just hormones, alot of the girlies on here seem to be goin thru the same thing.

Hope things get better babes.

Have a good week xxxxx

 

[trixipaws]

its ggod that u spoken 2 him and he understands its prob ur hormones.
i kno its hard to feel attractive when ur pg and massive! try not 2 let it get 2 u, u trust him deep down

 

[Ginnymarie]

hi guys
this thread really struck a cord so i had to respond, when i was pregnant my hubbie even went to pub when i was m/c, its a deep insecurity that they'll find someone better and it eats away at me....the only thing that helps me is distraction and postive affirmations that i am attractive and loveable...ivwe just come back on the forum after being away while moving house, moving has brought up all these old feelings and brought up the m/c so il be needing the forum again for a wee while....see you all in the TTC section soon tho
xx

 

[frangelle]

I get like this about once a month and then it goes. My OH is used to it now!

My OH is friends with a female coleague of his, and it doesnt bother me, infact I have befriended her too, and we go and see her together

In saying that his old job he got abit 'too friendly' with a female colleague, and I found out, so I dont think ill ever trust him fully,. theres always a niggling doubt.

At least you OH has given you no reason to doubt him, its probably just your hormones hun