do i trust him?

[jenna]

Me and my DH have been together a long time and i couldnt live without him.
Weve had our ups and downs like every relationship. Its just that every time we have our "downs" its because of a women!
I just some times feel like when ever he gets the chance he will make me look bad infront of any women he can (even his sister). Or he'll make me feel like there better than me.

Like he said to me "i WILL NOT go to another festival so i wont go with you to bulldog bash" then he said to his friend, "I MIGHT go to download with you, i dont know yet".

or...


He told me that he doesnt want to get rid of the pics of his ex because "theres no point forgetting people who were a big part of your life"

or...

he ignored me all xmas day (we spent it at his mum and dads) and talked to his sister all day and the dogs! and didnt say a word to me other than... "oh me and emily used to do this.. and this..." and iv known them for years! it wasnt like id just met them.


there just examples of what happends. But do i trust him? He asks me and i say yes but i always feel like he puts me down infront of other women. Does this mean i dont trust him?

 

[mummykay]

im sorry but keepin pics of ur ex is NOT A GOOD THING TO DO IF U WISH TO LIVE!!!!!!!

Wot a pr*ck - sorry hun but u shouldnt have to stand for that!!!!

and i dont think that hes makin a very good effort for u to trust him in the first place judging by his antics!!!

 

[jenna]

i made him get rid of the pics (weeks after)...then he made excuses as to why he shouldnt get her name coverd up which was tattood on his leg.

I feel like im a paranoid about all this. It was ages ago and for a while id forgot and it didnt bother me. But now i feel like i could kill him! Hes admited he was mean to me which makes me feel like im not just paranoid but then again i feel like hes just trying to make me feel better. confusing i know!

 

[v11kae]

Hey Jenna,

Your OH, married or not is supposed to make you feel like your the most important person in the world to them. Ok everyone has their ups annd downs and no one is perfect but the majority of the time it should be or the romance and sparkle will eventually just vanish!

God your other half shouldnt have pictures of supermodels nnever mind his ex's, that is a part of his life thats ended. If they are that important then he should still be with them and not married to you. Its about time he let you know how important you are!

I read elsewhere you were chatting to a guy online and eventually came clean with him. Been inn that situatiion before and to be honest I think by the sounds of your OH, he is driving you elsewhere to find attention and feel wanted.

Turn that boys head Jenna, you deserve attetion and love and to pretty much feel like a damn Queen if he is gonna be deserving you!

Your better than that chick! At no time should anyone in your life put you down, ESPECIALLY when its your OH!

xXx

 

[jenna]

nooo, it wasnt me chatting to guys it was my sister lol!!!
i would never do that to my husband!

He says he doesnt know why he did that stuff and it was wrong, but every once in a while something will remind me of it.

 

[Hypnorm]

i have kept pictures of my ex boyfriend, and my hubby knows but i don't parade them infront of him. my ex died of leukaemia afew years after i got together with my hubby, so there is no threat, not that there ever would have been if he was still here.

he should treat u with respect though everyone deserves that.

 

[jenna]

if you have no feelings for some one and they hate you i dont see why you would treasure there pictures. my DH doesnt even like me telling a guy from america his art work was good!
He didnt exactly tell me in a nice way either. he asked if i wanted to see his pictures from his holiday and i said yes and he replied with "oh best be carful, theres pics of my ex in this pile" so he must have known it was wrong or he would have just shown me them!!

 

[hev&madi]

i always think my other half is cheating on me but i cant really go into it i will be here all night lol


but really i think its me not him cheating

 

[Urchin]

He's got her name tattooed on his leg and he won't have it covered up!?!?

That and the photos.....this guy has issues if you ask me....you should be the most important one, and he's not making you feel important.

 

[jenna]

he asked me if i was ok with it when we 1st started going out and i didnt want to be an anoying girlfriend so i said it was ok, then when the relationship got more serious i said it was botheing me...so he said "but you said it was ok?" and now i feel like...if i was ok with it, he would be and he would have it forever. Its now coverd up because at xmas i drank my self almost to death! i was very depressed and was into self harm. I think after that point he started treated me better but its all in my head. I know i should forget it. Its just once in a while something will remind me of it!
I cant help but think.."if i didnt say anything about the pictures would they still be under my bed?"

 

[jenna]

i think the answer is no. I have no reason too.

just checkd his "history" on the pc and hes been looking at girls with there boobies out..not like porn but like myspace and stuff like that

 

[hev&madi]

i think the answer is no. I have no reason too.

just checkd his "history" on the pc and hes been looking at girls with there boobies out..not like porn but like myspace and stuff like that

aww huni theres no need for that

 

[cassi]

im sorry mate but id kill him!!! He needs to grow up and see whats in front of him and stop been like that thinking you dont realise what he is doing!!! the pics and the tattoo you shouldnt need to tell him you didnt like it!! he should bloody get rid of them anyway he is married to you now not her!!!!!!!

and looking at girls on the PC why is he doing that!!! dont stand for it tell him to sort himself out and give you some respect!

But please dont let it get you depressed again cause you know that it dosnt help and harming just goes round in a nasty circle and bites u in the arse after, i know.

Take care huni

cas xx

 

[Vicki83]

Aw Jenna, i think you reqally need to get that hubbie of yours told, i mean you are trying to coneive for a start and i think he needs to show you more support, which from reading your posts he celarly isn't.

I hope you get things sorted out because you seem a really nice girl. Sh**y things always happens to the nice people hun, but keep your chin up, and remember there's loads of people on here to talk to if you ever need to!

xxxx

 

[Urchin]

Jenna

I think you need to sit down and have a long talk about it....even if it is all in your head, (which I don't think it is) he needs to be more sensitive to how his actions make you feel.

 

[HayleyB]

He sounds kind of mean.... I know that sounds harsh.
I had an OH like that when i was 17, all the same kind of things...
Profiles on myspace and faceparty type sites that were on the history on the computer.
Hidden pictures that i didn't know about till i was doing a big clean and found them....
And when i went out for the 1st time in the 2 years we were together he followed me the whole night!! I was only having a girly night!!
He was very good at playing head games, saying things that would send me into myself, and on downwards spirals... he used to take my wages off me as soon as i got paid, and say we couldn't afford stuff that i fancied... but when i looked into it he was using my money to pay off his loans and credit cards i didn't even know he had!! I still can't work out where the money was going cos we were living cheaply but between us earning about £600 a week!! (he used to get paid like £400 after tax!) And the rent was only £55 a week!! And used to be basic rations on shopping etc.... Wish i'd never gotten into it!

Then when i did leave him he said the one thing that he knew would break my heart "me and my girlfriend are having a baby" (it was right after i'd been told i had PCOS and was unlikely i would be able to concieve!)
I cried for about 3 weeks and went on a major downer... then his mum rang my mum about something to do with the house/furniture etc when i left him... and my mum said "congratulations on becoming a nanna" and his mum said "oh marc i know, i'd never have thought it" (marc was his brother) What a slimey evil man... he'd used his brothers life to make mine fall apart!!!

I know mines probably extreme compared to yours, but he got married a couple of months after i left him, so i believe that either the girls he'd met online or maybe someone from work he was seeing whilst we were still together.

Its hard to know where your feelings are, i know that i am the world to graham (DH) but there are days when i am insecure and think that he's met some gorgeous skinny blonde and won't come home to me.

Sorry its so long!! I know it probably doesn't relate to you at all, but thought i'd put it out there for you!

Hope you sort stuff out xox

 

[*saulino*]

Hi

Oh hunnie he needs to start treating you better, you should sit down and tell him how you feel. hope you two work out your differences
Katrina

 

[claireabell]

Aw hunnie....
You both really need to sit down and have a really good chat. You don't need extra stress when you're TTC. As the other girls have said on here he should treat you like a princess. Make you feel like you are his world and no-one or anything would come between you. He is bang out of order, you deserve better.
I really hope everything works out for you babe, and we're all here if and when you ever want a chat.
Love and big
xxxxxxxxxx