buggy1
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Me and OH are having problems. We have a lot on our plate at the moment, trying to do up our house with a young baby, we both work full time but as I work from home I also look after our baby full time too. He just doesn't get how hard it is.
He insists on taking turns doing her baths and things in the evening, but I don't get to have a day where it isn't my turn because I do all the baby care all day every day, evening at the weekends he doesn't do much with her. He always has an excuse and sometimes it is valid that he is doing stuff in the house but not always, I have to multi-task but he won't even consider it!
I feel like he is selfish, he doesn't listen to me, he doesn't understand where I am coming from and to top it off he is getting more and more arrogant as he gets older.
Yesterday I left, with the baby, and came to stay at my mums for a while. If it was easier I think I'd divorce him but we are married, have a baby and own a house so it is all complicated and messy. I don't know whether I love him anymore but I'm certain I don't like him.
I'm hoping some of this is me being hormonal which is making it seem worse. I don't know what to do. I know things could very well blow over if I let it happen but I feel like I'm always giving in and allowing myself to be treated badly. I think I've let him get away with too much so he just treats me worse over time. I don't know how else to break the cycle.
Does anyone have any advice?
He insists on taking turns doing her baths and things in the evening, but I don't get to have a day where it isn't my turn because I do all the baby care all day every day, evening at the weekends he doesn't do much with her. He always has an excuse and sometimes it is valid that he is doing stuff in the house but not always, I have to multi-task but he won't even consider it!
I feel like he is selfish, he doesn't listen to me, he doesn't understand where I am coming from and to top it off he is getting more and more arrogant as he gets older.
Yesterday I left, with the baby, and came to stay at my mums for a while. If it was easier I think I'd divorce him but we are married, have a baby and own a house so it is all complicated and messy. I don't know whether I love him anymore but I'm certain I don't like him.
I'm hoping some of this is me being hormonal which is making it seem worse. I don't know what to do. I know things could very well blow over if I let it happen but I feel like I'm always giving in and allowing myself to be treated badly. I think I've let him get away with too much so he just treats me worse over time. I don't know how else to break the cycle.
Does anyone have any advice?