phonixgirl
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Hi ladies
Do you find you're treated differently by friends and family if you don't have children to those who do?
Some of my friends had children quite young (before I'd planned on having them) so I've got used to that side of things. They meet up so their children can play together and swap Christmas presents etc. Obviously I can meet to do family things or give them their presents but a lot of it is very child-based and I have no child to take along with me. I don't see my friends much because they have children and I don't, sad as it sounds. (I try, but they are always busy with other people and their children.) As I say, I've kind of got used to this now.
However, in September my sister had her first baby. I was really upset when she told me she was pregnant but then I was excited to be an auntie, and I adore my little nephew. Since then, I've found my parents have treated us quite differently (I thought they treated us differently before but this is on a whole new level). They hardly ever ask us over (today was the first time since he's been born), they went on holiday with my sister and left us to look after the cats (that pretty much sums up our relationship), and now I find she's buying a very expensive house around the corner from them but keeping her old place to rent out (my parents must be having a hand in this).
Is this normal? It's like we don't exist anymore. It could be our choice not to have children and I'm wondering if they'd treat us like this if it was our choice.
Katie xx
Do you find you're treated differently by friends and family if you don't have children to those who do?
Some of my friends had children quite young (before I'd planned on having them) so I've got used to that side of things. They meet up so their children can play together and swap Christmas presents etc. Obviously I can meet to do family things or give them their presents but a lot of it is very child-based and I have no child to take along with me. I don't see my friends much because they have children and I don't, sad as it sounds. (I try, but they are always busy with other people and their children.) As I say, I've kind of got used to this now.
However, in September my sister had her first baby. I was really upset when she told me she was pregnant but then I was excited to be an auntie, and I adore my little nephew. Since then, I've found my parents have treated us quite differently (I thought they treated us differently before but this is on a whole new level). They hardly ever ask us over (today was the first time since he's been born), they went on holiday with my sister and left us to look after the cats (that pretty much sums up our relationship), and now I find she's buying a very expensive house around the corner from them but keeping her old place to rent out (my parents must be having a hand in this).
Is this normal? It's like we don't exist anymore. It could be our choice not to have children and I'm wondering if they'd treat us like this if it was our choice.
Katie xx