This is whats on my mind right now

[chels21]

I am sick of them ppl that dont want kids but have them for the money or cant look after there kids probly but they have kids so easy like there int no tomorrow. Do they not no that theres ppl out there that want kids and try really hard but cant have them that easily.It just really annoys me so badly. Does any1 else think the same?

 

[MissJuly10]

I feel your pain hun. It's very hard, especially when you feel like you're trying everything you can to concieve and others fall pregnant just by looking at a fella lol.

Luckily I have this forum to come to and find refuge and support with ladies in my situation - I don't know where I would be without them!

You're not alone!

x x

 

[chels21]

Them ppl out there just dont know how lucky they are. It really helps to talk to ppl that understand. I talk to family and friends but i feel they dont understand as my friends dont have kids and dont want them and every1 in my family seems to have kids quickly. I ant talked to my sister for 4 weeks now because she is pregnant and she knows how bad i been trying but she has not been supportive its more like she is rubbing it in my face with some of the things she says to me. She asked to buy my daughters cot and i said no and the cheeky cow turned around and said "well u wont b having another baby anytime soon". That just got me so angry how can she say something like that.

 

[MissJuly10]

Wow, that was really hurtful and insensitive of her.

Most of my friends have babies as do my sisters etc so it's hard to be around them sometimes, particularly if I am having a really crappy day.

How long have you been trying for? x x

 

[chels21]

I have been trying for nearly two years. I didnt want a big age gap between my children as my two children now have really bonded really well which i did now expect because my son was a spoilt child always misbehaving but as soon my youngest came he turned right around now he good as gold most the time and will do anything for his lil sister. Two years of trying seems really long but its gone by really quick to quick. x

 

[MissJuly10]

Aw, that's lovely.

Two years, wow! Got the greatest respect for those who've been trying for so long and persevered. There's a forum member on here who tried for just over 2 years and she got her BFP recently so there's always hope hun.

x x

 

[chels21]

Aww i best she happy as ever now its hard waiting and trying. Helpfuly we all will. I got my fingers cross that i will this year. Aww

 

[MissJuly10]

TTC is a real rollercoaster which is why it's so great to have all the lovely ladies of TTC on the ride with us, I love logging on to the forums. I knew nothing about TTC when I first joined in September, I can't believe how blissfully ignorant I was!

Will be we all get BFPs soon! x x

 

[chels21]

Pregnancy forum is great everyone on here is so nice and every1 understands. We get our 1 day we will just have to wait.

 

[MissJuly10]

Hopefully not too long.. x x

 

[Mummy2Adam]

Just wanted to send you massive hunny, it is so annoying that this happens. Here hoping you get your bfp soon. Goodluck and lots of x x

 

[wiganlass2010]

Massive hugs hun hope you get your bfp soon xx

 

[Esperanza84]

I know exacly how you feel...and than people tell you: Don't think about, it will happend soon enough! That's easy for them to say that got it on the first try!

Hang in there! You're not alone!!!
Lets hope february is our BFP month

Good luck everyone!

 

[heartbroken]

Its always the same hunni .. My boyfriends sister sat in front of us on new years eve smoking and drinking with her boyfriend rubbing her stomach 2 months after we buried our son.She still hasnt told us shes pregnant but told my 4 year old niece. I didnt do anything like that when i was pregnant and my baby was stillborn .. UGHHHH it makes me so annoyed! Shes only with her boyfriend about 3 months. She didnt even congradulate us when i did fall pregnant, when she found out she was going mad. My sister was pregnant so she said she had to get pregnant and the next month she was. Its like she wants all the attention!

Sorry to bang on had to get that off my chest .

 

[kedi376]

I know exactly where you're coming from. I went to see my friend at the weekend, she has a little boy who is nearly one. She started trying for baby a couple of months after me and fell pregnant within 2 months. All her and her husband did was complain about not being able to get out like they used to and the lack of sleep. Don't get me wrong, I know it must be hard working and looking after an energetic 1 year old and I know they love him dearly but it made me so angry.

She knows how hard we've been trying and with no luck so far. I just felt it was really insensitive. Even my OH was annoyed and he is normally calm and relaxed about everything.

People don't think, they are so wrapped up in their own worlds they don't stop to think about others and how they may feel about comments.

This forum is great, everyone is here for each other and are really supportive.

Sending you lots of and

 

[SunnyGirl]

I agree it is very annoying - I always worry for the poor LOs born to people who just don't care. It's horrible knowing what life they are going to have

As for people just not thinking and big insensitiv - it does hurt. A lot. But when you know they'd be mortified if you alerted them to that, it's OK cos you can forgive them a bit of absentmindedness about it. Words said to actively wound or be the centre of attention well they're just horrible and make you feel awful. If you can, rise above and forgive anyway. It'll make you feel much better at the very least - it really does work xxx