Hi all
Just want to get something off my chest, hope you dont mind!
My oh has glaucoma, hes had it from birth. It doesnt affect his life too much, i mean there are a few things he cant do but he still has a good and full life. His eyesight is pretty bad so he cant drive, there are a few jobs he cant do and he has to have operations and eye drops and stuff. We've been told theres a 50% chance he'll pass it on to our children. This affected him pretty badly a while ago, and he wasnt sure he wanted to have kids at all as he would feel guilty if they had glaucoma. He was just about to go in for a big op tho so i think he was a bit scared. Obviously we're TTC now so i think he must feel a little better about it, and he hasnt mentioned it since. The dr's have said they will be looking out for it when we do have children, so they will be able to limit any damage asap, but the worst case scenario is that they could be born blind if the damage starts early on. To have it that bad is pretty rare but theres still a small chance.
Are we being selfish to want kids knowing there is a pretty high chance they could have glaucoma? Will they blame us? I know theres a lot worse things people live with and still have great lives but now we're ttc ive been worrying about it more
Sorry for the long post
Just want to get something off my chest, hope you dont mind!
My oh has glaucoma, hes had it from birth. It doesnt affect his life too much, i mean there are a few things he cant do but he still has a good and full life. His eyesight is pretty bad so he cant drive, there are a few jobs he cant do and he has to have operations and eye drops and stuff. We've been told theres a 50% chance he'll pass it on to our children. This affected him pretty badly a while ago, and he wasnt sure he wanted to have kids at all as he would feel guilty if they had glaucoma. He was just about to go in for a big op tho so i think he was a bit scared. Obviously we're TTC now so i think he must feel a little better about it, and he hasnt mentioned it since. The dr's have said they will be looking out for it when we do have children, so they will be able to limit any damage asap, but the worst case scenario is that they could be born blind if the damage starts early on. To have it that bad is pretty rare but theres still a small chance.
Are we being selfish to want kids knowing there is a pretty high chance they could have glaucoma? Will they blame us? I know theres a lot worse things people live with and still have great lives but now we're ttc ive been worrying about it more
Sorry for the long post