Thinking of leaving my boyfriend

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Vicky it sounds like you've been through a lot with your boyfriend and I'm so sorry for your losses. maybe the fact neither of you is speaking about your feelings is the issue? It my be that he is feeling depressed about it all and is trying to bury himself in Xbox and motorbikes to keep his mind off it all? I might be wrong I really don't know, I'm just trying to give you another view of it all.

If it is the case that you don't love him and that he wouldn't be interested in a child then he is not the right person to have one with. Yes there are lots of single parents out there who do a fantastic job however I'm sure if most of them knew the dad wasn't interested then they would have waited.

Maybe you need to try to speak to him. Tell him how you're feeling and what you are thinking if doing. He might not realise. Or maybe look at couple counselling?

I don't know. It's hard to advise you as I don't know either of you. Only you know what is best for you. We are all here if you want to chat though x
 
Vicki...You dont love him anymore and your not happy with your current situation so leave him..If you can go back to your folks, focus on you and getting yourself back on track. You will meet someone who deserves you!
Xxx
 
What reasons other than the pets have you to stay ? U say your 38 as tho it's old !! Go back to your parents get back on the dating scene and meet someone who truly loves you and wants to be a happy family !! U deserve so much more even more so the pain you must have been through with it loses. He will only drag u down and hold u back from be in happy xx
 
How are things now hun? Have you both had counselling since your losses? Finances being tough can stretch a relationship to breaking point at the best of times, but add in grief and loss and it's a mixture for disaster unless both partners work at it really hard and communicate.

(((((HUGS))))) I hope things improve really quickly for you, and that you get a precious take home baby.
 
Would it be best to wait untill your both working or one of you? I was struggling with unemployment when I had my two misscarriages and am now working ,my partner said I needed to sort things out first before we carry on trying. Which is really for the best I suppose , as hard as it is.....extremely hard! money can be a big strain and if you add a baby to it could make it worse ,please don't take offence though what you've been through is horrendous and obviously if you had ended up having baby's you would of made it work , but my partner says now he has the choice he wants to get stability first. Do you spend all your days together? Just take some time to think. Your not old either you have time to meet someone new and settle again so dont think that. And if he's not looking after personal hygiene you could perhaps bring it up in a jokey way to get him to take the hint?! .... Again I hope I don't seem offensive xxx
 
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Hi Vicky I wasn't on here when you first posted but I've read thru the above posts.

After you guys talked did things change for the better for a while or did it go back to the way it was the next day? I'm glad your decided to find someone better it sounded like you've had a pretty rough time. I'm sorry for your losses.

How has he reacted to yor news?

I'm sorry I don't know much about sperm donation but good luck, I've seen so many kids better of with one parent than having two who don't get on

I'm curious and not trying to be rude, are you in a better situation financially now? It seemed like you were really struggling money wise before and to me it makes no sense to have a child if you cannot afford it and live on benefits

I hope your feeling okay about everything and stronger now you know what you want
 
It really does sound like an abusive relationship and you seem to be in a cycle of destruction. Good luck with your future, I hope you come to a place where you can feel secure in yourself and realise that you deserve to be happy in a relationship.
 
Hi Baby, I have deleted all my posts as I was having a depressive episode when I wrote it (& too much wine)

We have got all our feelings out in the open and are much happier with our relationship. We actually feel much closer after our heart to heart. Plus I'm now pregnant and we can't wait to be a family.

Thanks for your message though. It's great on here, so much support when things are good or bad xx
 
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