Surname help

Discussion in 'Baby Names' started by Lilaco, Nov 2, 2016.

  1. Lilaco

    Lilaco Well-Known Member

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    Okay, me and my husband have four children already and they all have my surname. We got married in June (wedding baby! 😇) and I took his name onto my surname, but we are not going to change the kids surnames.

    So we don't know if baby is a boy or a girl, but as my husband is the last in line with his surname I thought it would be lovely for the baby to take his surname.

    But I'm slightly unsure, would people think it's strange or whatever if baby had a different surname to its siblings?
    I don't want to double barrel is name as especially if it's a boy he'll have that long as name for life, but i would consider double-barreling surname if baby was a girl.

    Opinions please and sorry for the long post x
     
  2. snowbee

    snowbee Well-Known Member

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    How old are your other children? If they are young I would most likely change them so we all had the same name (I'm assuming they are his children) and give the new baby the family surname. If they are older I would let them choose which surname they wanted. I don't think it is odd for siblings to have different surnames but I would assume they had different fathers/mothers.

    If my husband and I had had a baby before we married I would have given them my surname, but then I would also have changed it when we got married if I was taking his name (which I did).
     
  3. Lilaco

    Lilaco Well-Known Member

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    The children are 12, 9, 8, and 5. Elder two are boys, younger two are girls.

    I thought if baby was a girl we could double -barrel like mine maybe.

    I never wanted to change my name when I got married. And yes all the children are ours x
     
  4. Eryinera

    Eryinera Well-Known Member

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    So my son had my husbands surname when he was born so I was the odd one out. we them got married. We had a big decision to make. I was never overly keen on his surname my surname was way more awesome than his lol. but also his surname was also his dad's. A man he never met so why should that man get to forward the family name? We decided to change all three of our names to his mother's maiden name this meant an unusual name which is stunningly beautiful in my opinion (still not as awesome as my maiden name though lol) gets to continue where it would have died out with my grandparents in law. my grandad in law died a few days after our name was official and I'd like to think he died happy knowing his name would continue even if he was suffering from altzhimers and didn't have a clue!

    My point being. It's nice for everyone to have the same surname whatever you decide that surname to be. plus if I have a daughter now her name will sound very pretty whereas with my husbands maiden name she would have sounded like a porn star lol.

    I think the eldest 3 children are old enough to decide too what name they would prefer. we let out then 7 yr old involved in our choice to change the family name.
     
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  5. sarahmc89

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    I love this. Never thought of that before but if people can change their names to banana hammock why not make a lovely gesture like this. I can't wait to not be the odd one out though lol.
     
  6. Eryinera

    Eryinera Well-Known Member

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    kabuk1 Well-Known Member

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    This is something my dw and I have to decide on. We both kept our surnames when we married. I can change mine if I want, but she can't legally change hers because it's not allowed in the Netherlands. She's an only child and so is her dad, so we are considering using her surname. There is a lot of history in it, but I would prefer her mother's maiden name, so much prettier. As a kids growing up, I couldn't wait to get rid of it (it gets butchered all the time), but now I'm a little hesitant. We can't double barrel as it would be awful. A mouth full and mixing of two surnames that are very distinctive.

    At least we have some time, although I'd like to decide as early as possible because if we go with her surname, I will probably change mine then. The timing is perfect, as I can get that done and the baby will be born a few months before I have to renew my passport, so hopefully all changes and paperwork can be done by then.
     

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