zebrastripes
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Sherlock said:kalia said:I just wanted to repeat what someone else said - there are a lot of circumstances in which your child will need to use their official name in later life. School (because ultimately their exam certificates need to have their proper name on them), bank accounts, driving license, passport... As these are all forms of proof of ID, they would have difficulties at times proving who they were if they called themselves something different (for example, cashing a cheque or collecting parcels from the post office). Long term it would be confusing. If you want to give LO a double barreled name or just one surname that would be less confusing. Maybe you could use the other surnames as middle names instead? But at the end of the day, it's your decision.
We are opting for a double barrelled surname (I didn't take hubbys name when we married) but as the childs middle name isn't going to be used in day to day life either, it won't be anything over the top surname wise. I know of some parents at schools who have double barrelled surnames but who drop the last name off and only use one part of the surnames for their kids in day to day school life etc and its been fine. Yes on official paperwork the full surname will be used, but simple day to day life it can be left off.
I didn't use part of my surname at all during my school years and it was only when I left school I began using it. Thinking about it, my first bank account didn't use it either and that wasn't opened till I was 17. And still to this day I have never had any problem in dropping off the short part in day to day life. I don't find it a hassle to use it officially and having to sign official stuff in full is no biggie, my signature is a squiggle anyways And I always have to spell my surname regardless.
Willow's surname is double-barrelled.I'm the last for my surname,except for some weird cousins in Japan,also i carried her for 9 months and am doing the majority of the care,plus we are not married so I didn't see why she should only have OH's surname.
If we ever marry i won't change my name.I don't see why I should,plus I like it