Stitched up too tight?

[Mrbump83]

Hi
I'm 17 weeks post partum and really struggling with sex!!
I had 2nd degree tear. 4 stitches below and 2 stitches above.
They took a long time to heal enough I felt I could start having sex.

We started having sex at about 11 weeks but it was too painful. So waited 2 weeks and same again, etc etc

Now this week I've tried so hard but it actually feels as though I've been stitched too tight it feels as though there is an extra bit of skin across the entrance ( sorry tmi) and it feels as though it's tearing again when we try.
We are managing it ( just about) with a select few positions but this still leaves me sore and uncomfortable
Is it just too early? Or could they have stitched me too tight?
My partner had a look and said where I was pointing is where the scar is x x

 

[Melanie3103]

Ouch hun, not good.

I cant help, but interested to hear what others say... I am waiting to feel ready to try sex again...

 

[Toria111]

I'd go to GP and get it looked at. My guess is that it's scar tissue. I had a third degree tear with my first baby 8 years ago. I've got internal scarring, and when my oh hits it I get a jolt of pain. Not tightness, but I'd say if you've got protruding scar tissue this could cause that to happen.

 

[Mrbump83]

I just keep thinking 'maybe it's still meant to be sore' when I think I need to man up and do as you said, go doctors and get it looked at, I certainly can't carry on like this x

 

[Toria111]

Definitely go get it checked out. At least then you will know for sure.

 

[Melanie3103]

Thats exactly how i feel - wondering if its meant to still be sore sometimes. Not all the time but occasionally...

 

[Msclaireypants]

It's really not still supposed to be that sore girls! 15 months later and I still find sex very painful every time. I've never spoke to the doctor about it and I feel I've left it too late.

Please go soon and get it sorted, don't leave it like silly me!

 

[Hoping for no2]

Def get looked at hon sometimes it can be a bad repair which needs a re-repair. Mine wasn't done very well according to the doctor so might get it sorted after having this bubs xx

 

[JD.Deedee]

If it is stitched up correct it's the trauma on the muscles that tenses them up when touched which in return can hurt and may feel like you have been stitched up to tight. Do pelvic floors and focus on relaxing - letting go part. It's best to go and see a physio they too can check for damages, traumas and the state of your pelvic floors. It helped me so so much, as I had an ache like it was stitched up too tight x

 

[coco_cukoo]

I didn't tear but had an episiotomy - I thought I was stitched too tight, my DH thinks so too. It was uncomfortable & hurt for a while but it had to be wet enough otherwise it killed! A good lube & a few gentle sessions made it less painful & made it stretch a bit. Now, 23 months later it doesn't hurt but I can feel it tighter...not always a bad thing �� xx