Sooooo fed up and sad : ( MEGA whinney / rant / whinge

[Tillytots]

What a horrible day! When people say these last few weeks are hard I had no idea just how hard they are!!

Im so tired, emotional and heavy

OH comes over most days, still makes plenty of mess but gets really shitty if I ask him to help me with stuff. He'll willingly go to get me ice from the shop but when it comes to hoovering or picking his clothes up off the floor so I dont fall over them its another story I told him to F'off this morning as he was really taking the piss out of disabled people which just got to me and I got upset then he had a right go at me for being upset. I tried explaining it wasnt just that, and that Im just emotional right now and worried about stuff etc but I was well in the wrong being sad and he was really horrid. At least he did actually F'off and now I feel a bit better. I can sit and bawl my eyes out without having someone have a go at me for it!

Another thing thats upsetting is I hate having to rely on everyone to go anywhere. OH doesnt drive and nor do I, so I have to call my Grandad or someone to take me out almost everyday to get shopping etc and to go to hospital appoinments. I just feel like such a burden. Im usually SO independant and never ask ayone for anything

Aghhhhhhh I know I havent got long, I just want my baby now

Anyone else have days like this? Sorry for moaning

xx

 

[Happybunny]

Poor you! It does sound like your OH was being a bit of an insensitive wally! I hope he realises he has been a bit harsh and gets back and apologises (hopefully with chocolate and/or foot massage!!).
You are not mad or irrational. I think most of us feel quite tearful now and again. I know I do and often for no particular reason. Hormones are very powerful.
As for feeling frustrated - I do understand. It is terrible feeling like you have to rely on people to help with the most simpliest of things. I am independent and I like to get on and do things. I find it really annoying having to ask OH to carry the hoover upstairs for me or help me put my socks on. Although he is very obliging, it means I have to wait until it is convenient for him, I can't just get on with my own agenda. Some days I can't even do the laundry until he gets home because I am in such pain when bending. It infuriates me. I want my independence back, lol!
I can drive - but now I can only manage 5 -10 minutes in the car because of the pain from the bucket seats, so my wings are severely clipped in that sense too.
The important thing that gets me through these feelings is that I know for certain that it is temporary and the reward for this inconvenience will be amazing!!!
Hang in there Tilly - it wont be much longer now, life is going to get a whole lot better!!!

 

[kazlin]

Oh babe, have some huge, huge, huge

Bubs will be here soon xx

 

[Tillytots]

thank you ladies

I will do my shopping online mids! good idea...I didnt even think of that...shows how much pregnancy has eaten away at my brain cells as I always used to do it online

I know I need to chill out a bit and stop worrying so much. I must be one of the worlds most impatient people I hope I dont go overdue I have a consultant apt on Wed now so I'll try my best to convince them to let me go no longer than 40 weeks

thankyou for the hugs, I fel a bit better now. I had a pizza and some chocolate. I figured I may as well do something to cheer myself up in these last few weeks.

xx

 

[Sherlock]

Awwww have some more

I don't think you were or are being unreasonable in expecting your OH to tidy up. Its not like its easy for you atm and if he helps make a mess, he should bloody well muck in and clean it also.

And I am sure your family understand you needing help transport wise now you are pregnant and so far along. They won't begrudge you some help I'm sure they know if you could do it, you would

Pizza and chocolate sounds good I bought a pack of those mini mars bars the other day for hubby to knaw on when I go into labour. I've already scoffed half of 'em Poor guy will be on air and water at this rate, but I'll still be high on a sugar rush

And yup I have those days to sometimes. Not often though as hubby is so good. I really cannot complain in that department. I might have to ask him but he will hoover, wash up, load and unload the washing machine, help with the chickens and do things like change our bedlinen with me. Even things like helping me do up my boots or put my socks on he doesn't mind. I'm lucky though as he works from home a lot so is here when I need those things doing. If he wasn't I'd do them on my own and it'd be really uncomfortable bordering on painful.

 

[Geordie&Bairn]

awww hunny
big hugs from me
Men are sooo stupid sometimes

my james was on deaths dorr with a cold friday night
and there i am on all fours screaming with a bad bount of BH

he of course was in more pain

yeah right

you rant as much as you like sweetie

 

[BeckyJ]

awwww big hugs hun, not long to go now

 

[muppetmummy]

 

[lfc_sarah]

 

[Ginnymarie]

hi Tilly

sorry your feeling so naff, the last month seems to be so tough, my mother-in-law did warn me. I like you hate relying on people, need OH to hoover and pick up things and sometimes he comes in from work in a mood and i dare not ask anything of him, his face is like
'dare demand anything from me, I am relaxing now !' so I have pick my moments, he has been better today and hoovered living room so maybe yours will come round.
Hopefully, you will get some sleep and the last few weeks will get better. I have been treating myself to massages...the lady comes to the house
x

 

[Suzie and Faith]

 

[Tillytots]

I have been treating myself to massages...the lady comes to the house
x

Sounds nice hun

I had a nice nap this afternoon, OH is still in a mood he doesnt want to come to consultant on Wed, said he is fed up with wasting his holiday days I just find that a bit offensive, or maybe Im just being over sensitive? I dont class me and his baby as a waste though? oh well....I have asked my Mum if she will be my birthing partner and she said she will be there, all I have to do is call. I think maybe it would be a good idea as OH just doesnt seem interested.

thanks for the more hugs xx

 

[Sherlock]

I had a nice nap this afternoon, OH is still in a mood he doesnt want to come to consultant on Wed, said he is fed up with wasting his holiday days I just find that a bit offensive, or maybe Im just being over sensitive? I dont class me and his baby as a waste though? oh well....I have asked my Mum if she will be my birthing partner and she said she will be there, all I have to do is call. I think maybe it would be a good idea as OH just doesnt seem interested.

thanks for the more hugs xx

Sorry your OH is not being as supportive as he could/should be at this time. Maybe he'll come round when he is in a better mood. Things said in anger are often not intended to hurt and are said wrong. But then I'm giving him the benefit of the doubt here, he is your OH and you know him best. He might just be being a total arse and better he does not come along anyways

I think its a great idea to have your Mum as your birthing partner. I think all things considered, with the situation you are in, she will be more stable and supporting that your OH, even if he is present at the birth also. Sounds like he is not coping with things as well as he could. Mum's are great (if you get on with them) What you need right now is his support and understanding of what you are facing to bring your baby into the world. You have some medical problems and they cannot be taken lightly for you or for your LO. He needs to understand what may happen when you go into labour, or if any medical intervention is needed. He can't just pitch up at the last minute emotionally and mentally. He needs to start getting up to speed now for you.

Grrrrr he's pissed me off a little on behalf of you. I don't even know him

Have some more of these

I'm going to eat a mini mars bar to console myself on your behalf

 

[Tillytots]

I know....he is being an ass. He has been so good over the past 2 months as well...until now. Maybe he is just worried about it too and is trying to avoid dealing with it but thats not any help to me really

My Mum will be great, she's had 4 of us & knows her stuff. I think if she is there as my birth partner she would look out for me at all times and speak up if need be, where as Im not certain OH would and that makes me nervous. I asked him if he knew what happens in the birth processs this morning and he looked at me like wtf and rolled his eyes he doesnt want to go to birth classes so I havent gone.

I hope you're enjoying those mini-mars bars hlaf the bag for you and half the bag for me xxx

 

[Bee]

Men Sometimes I am glad I am doing this on my own but then at other times I'm a little sad. I am struggling to do things now - luckilt I have had my nephew since Wed and he is a great slave

 

[Tillytots]

aww bless, how old is your nephew hun? I could do with a slave LOL

I know you've felt crappy most of your pregnancy too havent you still, we havent got long left now, even if its 5 weeks that still isnt that long considering we've done 37 of them already

 

[Bee]

He will be 2 in June - so not a very useful slave but he is useful sometimes

Yeah its been a rough pregnancy - can't wait for the end now. The birth isn't even bothering me after the past 9 months.

37 weeks! I still can't believe it - neither does anyone else when they see me as I have a small bump (apparently)

 

[debecca]

Awwwwwww

Sounds like you are really fed up today hun

Well, I hope your OH starts getting a bit more sensitive; I really don't think men realise how hard it is to cart a bowling ball round in your stomach all day every day, do they?

Deffo get your groceries online - that's an ace idea

Hope you feel better soon

 

[Tillytots]

@ Bee - awwww he is only 1 lol!! Well I bet he makes you smile lots even if he cant cook dinner etc you really must post a pic before you pop!!!

@ Bex, yes hun I was incredibly fed up today. I havent had that much of a bad day in a long while. Its only been the past 2 weeks though that being pregnant is really taking its toll. Ive managed so well up until now and its finally put me on my bum! I feel tons better not though thanks

OH rang to apologies and said he knows he is shit sometimes and he is just having a bad day. I said that was fine as long as he doesnt have many more bad days over the next few weeks as I really need him. Im, too tired to argue. I'll find something he can do to make it up to me

The only thing bothering me now is that Ive run out of ice.... I have gone off icepoles and moved onto ice and now Im out. I can always scrape out the freezer if I get desparate I spose

 

[happy-chick]

Sorry your feeling so crappy, the last few weeks are definately the hardest I agree with the others try to get others to help as much as poss to take the strain off u. U need to be making the most of your free time, relaxing and taking it easy