So ready to be a mum!

[Blueflower]

I’ve recently come across a few pregnant ladies who have said things like they don’t know how to hold a baby or are scared about what to do!

I’ve always loved children, looked after my sister, babysat as a teenager and worked with them most of my adult life. I enjoy spending time with friends’ and relatives’ children and I know lots about looking after babies.

Recently a friend’s daughter ran up to me to comfort her when she was frightened on a farm, and I was reading an adventure story to another friend’s daughter and she said “I’d like to go on an adventure with you!” So sweet! The other day I looked after my nephew and he said “This is nice, just you and me!” He’s only 4!

I just want it to be my turn now! Or is this just a sign that I would be fine with a child that isn’t ours and we should adopt?

 

[Titch85]

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[cornishfairy]

Aww that's so lovely! I'd love to adopt but have had very little experience with children and only have a one bed flat so that pretty much counts us out. It's something I'd consider after bringing up a child of my own though. I have always been terrified of being around children despite wanting my own, but this year my three best friends have had their first babies and its the first time I've felt natural around kids. I love holding them and never want to give them back! Gives me hope that I won't be terrified of holding my own child Just need to try and make one of the little blighters!! Sounds like you'd be great adoptive parents, I really feel that us LTTTC-ers have so much love to give to a child, it's so unfair that its such hard work for us to get one!! X

 

[FBTTN8079]

Aw girls you are all going to make amazing mums for sure x and will appreciate them so much more because of our journeys

I know what you mean and I'm so ready to have my own little baby

OH and I have discussed it and if IVF doesn't work or if we are lucky to get a baby then we would extend our family with adoption

so if we can't get a jelly bean together with IVF then we will adopt x x x


BabyDust *****

 

[Titch85]

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[hayes]

Just wanted to say im still here lurking in the background praying for you all you lovely ladies to get your bfp real soon.

I work as a nursery nurse and have done since college so have always been surrounded by kids. Having said that hubby and i had discussed adoption before i fell and we both think we cud defo do it but wud be nervous about all the process its self and as titch says they often have other issues aswell.

Really hope you all get over to tri 1 soon tho.

Michelle. x

 

[Blueflower]

Yes I really want to be pregnant, give birth, have a tiny baby and experience all that. It would be so unfair not to have that. But the other day I just thought "I just want a child now!"
All the problems and processes put me off adoption but if the only option would be to adopt a child with problems rather than have our our child, then I would do it.
I'm going to do all it takes to have our own child, then if that doesn't work we will adopt.

 

[FBTTN8079]

Yeah I agree

We talked about donors too & decided that if we needed a donor we didn't want to do it, so we would go straight to adoption x x


BabyDust *****

 

[Titch85]

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[FBTTN8079]

Yeah I agree

We talked about donors too & decided that if we needed a donor we didn't want to do it, so we would go straight to adoption x x


BabyDust *****

I can't even get my OH to think about what would happen if his SA results aren't good! I have no idea what we'd do.

It's odd as when we started talking about ttc and if we Came across problems we always thought it would be with me so it was a complete shock when OH's SA weren't great

But we've stayed positive and talked about it a lot & it's really helped him to stay positive even though he's gutted with it all x


BabyDust *****

 

[Titch85]

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[Blueflower]

Yes I'm not sure about donors. At first I was completely against it but if my eggs turn out to be too old, at least I would get a chance to be pregnant. It would be a shame for the child to look like my OH and a stranger instead of me though.

My OH refused to talk about the issues until very recently. Lots of men just don't want to even contemplate that they might have a problem, I think women are more matter of fact about it because we might have been on the pill for a while and are more aware of things.